Your sex life..

Tabitha - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 158 moms have responded )

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Now that you have kids, what is your sex life like? Have your kids ever caught you doin' the deed?!

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Antoinette - posted on 08/15/2009

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Sometimes i feel like sex is a forbidden Tabu now... For the most part sex is only for when the kids are in bed, and then its hush hush cuz heaven forbid they find out... LOL my older boy caught me when he was about 3, he was suppose to be sleeping.. he walked in the room and said "Mommy, girls cant have sex" lol so glad i was covered up. My 3 year old caught me too. when he was two again SUPPOSED to be sleeping!, He just jumped on me, Wish i had locking doors at that time... i do now, but i put the dresser in front ofthe door cuz they know how to unlock it, they dont believe mommy deserves privacy at any moment lol

Amanda - posted on 08/15/2009

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Stephanie:




Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D







I am so shocked that you could do it in front of your daughter, It dose not matter that you coved yourself up a child should not see that at a young age. And just because you want same sex don't put her in her crib and threw same toys and a juice in there for her. I would never never do that to my child how could anyone do that, When kids are awake they came first no matter how much you want it. Wait till they are in bed and do it then. The last thing I want to say is HOW COULD YOU BE SO MEAN......










WOW... I think you need to CALM THE F*CK DOWN. Her choices are JUST that. You choose what works for you and your family. And I bet no-one gives you the 3rd degree for your choices. Im sure, if someone did, you'd tell them where to go. So, LAY OFF.





I must say that i totally agree with Jessica about lay off the 3rd degree. When you are married or in a relationship it should be about the 2 of you first. Not your kids, as mean as that may sound to you I think its important to have a strong bond and relationship with your spouse or sig other first. When the kids are all grow up and have moved away all you will have is each other, and if you don't protect "our time " now then what does that say later?  Pediatric studies have shown that a child's brain is not "wired for memories" until the age of 3. What she did was no different from simply putting down her child with comfort items while she took a shower. Are you seriously going to sit here and say that you have never put your child down with comfort items so you could take a shower?    I give Kiddos to Ashley for making time "our time" important

Amanda - posted on 08/15/2009

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I have a story that might bring a smile to your face. So my husband and I were trying to be creative one morning. I turned on the baby channel for our 2 1/2 year old and our 13 month old, I had them all setup on the couch with cereal in a cup to share no milk to spill. Then I sneaked back into bed for a quickie, ............after a few mins of fooling around I hear the Tv on in the other room, and its very quite a little to quite I hear little foot steps coming up the stairs. Then no noise again so not thinking to much about it dismiss it as nothing. Then all of a sudden I hear a little giggle, I grab sheets and spin to see my little 2 1/2 year old with her hands over her mouth, and she said " Mommie u naked? What are u doing in their? Where's my daddy? he in bathroom again?" Ahhhh alas no more "sneaky mornings" for us.

April - posted on 08/15/2009

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I have a 3 1/2 year old and im 8 months pregnant. the last time i had sex with my hubby was on my birthday...back in February. i really want it but im not allowed. drs orders. which totally sucks. i feel so sorry for my husband he has been a real trooper through all of this. i cant wait til i can GET SOME!!! any advice on what i can do for me and my hubby til then?

Jill - posted on 08/15/2009

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our sex life is great, we have not be caught .............YET, we wait til the kids are in bed,we have a Cd that we put together with all of the love songs we like playing in the background with a lot of candles.

Jessica - posted on 08/15/2009

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It seems like most people on here have great sex drives. I, however, am the complete opposite. When I was pregnant, I really didn't even want to be touched, and it has just continued. My fiance and I get into arguments because I don't want to have sex, and he has the drive of a 16 year old boy. Anyone know what is going on with me or have any advice on how to get my drive back?

Mimi - posted on 08/15/2009

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i'm going through that with my husband. he sleeps on the couch some nights saying the bed hurts his back! but i am pregnant and can't work...i keep telling myself that once i get back to work it'll be fine and we won't argue anymore about money. seems like lately we have sex about twice a week but at least once a week it's make up sex because of an argument!

Melissa - posted on 08/15/2009

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our sex life ROCKS! Since the twins, we have sex alot, oral or not! Before the twins, it was a constant like 6 times a day for 7 days and now its like 1-2 times a day for 7 days. Sometimes we have our days of too tired to do anything or its my time of the month, other than that, its on again! Yes, we are nymphos and plan to stay that way :D

Robin - posted on 08/15/2009

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AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO DOESNT SEEM TO HAVE THE DRIVE ANYMORE? I heard someone say 16 times a week what are you crazy, I wish I had the drive, but I only get in the mood like every couple of weeks now, not sure why

Catherine - posted on 08/15/2009

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goes from hot to cold. I really enjoy the "hot" nights though....I appreciate them so much more!

Michelle - posted on 08/15/2009

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I guess I'm lucky, I have a husband who takes care of me first. Our youngest is 5 now, so we've really gotten it back now. He'll tell the kids we need to talk about birthdays or something and pull me into our room when he gets home from work for a quick build up before bedtime comes, so we've been going crazy about 10 times a week. I honestly don't know how much longer I can keep it up. I'm a SAHM and I'm exhausted. He keeps me up until 2 am and he works, don't know how he's doing it. My family wonders why I'm so tired all the time, when the kids sleep through the night...this isn't something I could tell them. They wouldn't believe it, cause there husbands aren't like that. :) I suppose since we got married right out of high school and had kids and then more kids, now we're just hitting our drive. Lol...

Reem - posted on 08/15/2009

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wow sex life...jus married, we almost enjoy 2 times a day till in 2 Weeks later got news of pregnancy...from then our sex times decreases to 4 times a week till my son was born....then hop again....from 4 times to 6 times a week...again got pregnant. i had a c-s for my 10months son...but today m pleased to say that our sex life different with more drives still 6 times a week....children sleeping or gone to grandma....its done!!!

Jolene - posted on 08/15/2009

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well i know that my sex life is amazing no matter how long it is or how short it is. We don't ever see each other so its not that often. But when we do see each other and its for more than a Hi have a good night ttyl then its happening. Sex is soooooo important in a relationship that if its not happening at home then it can make things in the relationship dwindle. I know I have had many years of self confindence issues to the point that he was NOT allowed to see me naked. All that did was make things worse between us. I was unhappy he was unhappy, and nothing was getting any better. I went through a time in my life that I was very unhappy but in the last 8 months have had such changes that I am a different person than I was 8 months ago. Things for me are so different and our relationship is amazing sparks are everywhere.

Lisa - posted on 08/15/2009

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With Marcus being just 3 months..our sex life is finally returning to what it was before I was pregnant.

Melodie - posted on 08/15/2009

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love i know how you feel try something sexy and just remember he loves you for you.You have given the best gift you could his children

Melodie - posted on 08/15/2009

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I think it is important to always keep the spark alive. Sometimes couples can fall into a rut of the same old thing time and again. You should always be willing to try new things and be adventures just becouse your married with kids does not mean you have to loose the excitement of being young and inlove

Laura - posted on 08/14/2009

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I am kind of losing it. I'm 6 months pregnant and I just lost it in the middle of you-know-what. I feel bad for my husband, but he's very understanding.

Kimberly - posted on 08/14/2009

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I try but I am very self conscious about my body because I gained 160 mith my first and 100 with the second after loosing all the weight with my first. So I went from 98lbs to 260, down to 137, back up to 240. My body is stretch marks and extra skin. I don't let him see me naked at all. He says he doesn't care we have been together 11 years and I know he loves me not how I look but I went from being smoking hot to obese in nine months twice in five years. It is hard for me to feel sexy for him. So I have trouble with sex because of my self image. Our son has slept for the most part through the night since two days old and our daughter is a heavy sleeper so the kids have never been the problem for us. It's the fact that u have to take clothes off to have sex and that's the part I don't dig.

Jocelyn - posted on 08/14/2009

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our sex life is great, when i'm not pregnant that is. dh gets all weird when i'm preg, he's ok until i start to show the bump, i think it freaks him out a little lol. i'm 8 months preg now, and my sex life with myself is wonderful. LOL

Ri - posted on 08/14/2009

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How about this....My man works in other towns and comes home on friday night leaves sunday night and when he works in a diffrent state hes gone for 3 1/2 weeks (remote montana for you) so not only am I not getting it while hes gone but when hes home our kids missed him just as bad as he misses us so they like to sleep in our room or sneak into the room....so nookie is few and far between....LAME to tha O And we used to have the BEST sex life ever! Ima grump alot cause I love to 'get' with him and its not happing the worst part I dont think it bothers him hes 11yrs older that me and can go longer w/out it these days! And yeah we have been caught when my son was 2 and daughter was 2!

Veronica - posted on 08/14/2009

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HAHAHA!! What a great forum! LOL Well its nice to know that we are not alone! We've been caught so many times that I finally bought a damn lock! The first time was by our roommate - an older lady who is lulu in the brain -- she opened the door - the blankets were on the floor so we had nothing to cover in!! And she just stood there!!! We werelike: Get the hell out!!! Then while we lived at my moms house (moved for a better job, needed a place til we found one of our own) She had her landlord over and she opened the door to tell us and wham! right in the middle of our time together as well! It was sooooo embarrassing!!! Only one of our kids walked in on us, he was 4 at the time - he ran away from our bedroom crying histerically - he thought my husband was hurting me! hahahah! So anyways - now that we have a lock - we try to sneak it in whenever possible -we also have 5 children so that is a chore. Mornings are our strong suit as the kids are still sleeping and we arent as tired - but anytime really works. The main thing with us though - is we are more about our passion with each other, and our morals and really making love with eachother - its a mutual thing - its never "get me off please' or im horny your not, but take care of me for now --- as for after having kids - we just waited til we could - Im selfish and figured if I couldnt get none, neither could he -- but when we were back in the sack it was so refreshing - and when you wait the big O is more intense. We practice Natural Family Planning -- Only one week a month (apprx.) that you are fertile - the rest of the time LOOK OUT!! When the fertile time is upon me, we wait - my husband respects my fertile body - if we dont want children then we stay away from it --- and i respect him too - i dont tease or antagonize him -- otherwise then i will have to take care of it -- This has worked tremendously in our marriage - it has given us a tremendous respect for each other and in the meantime we court each other til fertile time is over - then its hot wild and crazy! hahahahah

Sara - posted on 08/14/2009

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Before I had my child we were having sex quit often .. But now after I had my daughter the sex life has decreased but it is on both ends your tired and he is tired . Not to mention I do not feel good about my body and you can tell, he isn't going to be turned on by someone who does not feel good about themselves .. I mean we have sex and he loves me for me. But when your down your partner can tell and that is a huge contributing factor in why a lot of sex decreases after child birth

Ciara - posted on 08/14/2009

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My sex life was still good after my first son (hes 8 yrs old).. after my second son it calmed down a lot more.. its still good and getting better actually but its not as frequent as it used to be. I've been caught once doing the deed, but my son was only 12 months old or so and he didnt know what was going on.

Katy - posted on 08/14/2009

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Our daughter (first born) daughter caught us like twice when she was 1 1/2 and 2.... learned our lessons and doors are locked now LOL. As for how the sex life is.... we went from 3 times a day to sometimes 3 times a month.... though it s perking back up now that they've gotten a little older (5 and 8)....

Naomi - posted on 08/14/2009

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we are very active, no the kids (3) have never caught us. i mean after each kid it took time to get back to our active lifes..

Stevie - posted on 08/14/2009

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ever since my son we dont have alot of sex i would love to but it still hurts some and our son is 9 months but it changes its changed alot since my son my first is a girl and we were crazy call us rabits haha but since our boy its maybe 2 or 3 times a month some times only once i know my hubby would like it more but idk we just cant do the same as before it feels alot different to me

Amanda - posted on 08/14/2009

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well like a lot of ppl on here we USED to have an amazing sex life but since our son was born it hasn't been so great. I have a very high sex drive and would still like it at least once a day but my bf will sometimes go like a week and a half without wanting anything and it drives me crazy. Our son is only 8 months so he hasn't caught us so to speak but for awhile anytime we would even think about it he would wake up lol so it's not nearly as great as it was but we do still have one ! can only hope that it gets better and quickly lol

Falesha - posted on 08/14/2009

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lol we still have a very active sex live but there seems to be alot more quickys

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me and my hubby used to be at it all the time , whenever , but since the boys came along its not as often as he'd hope for lol , thats the last thing on ure mind when u have looked after the kids all day and u just want a nice hot bath and crawl into bed lol ha ha , but now i dedicate a nite for ourselves , nice meal , wine ect ...... but i was brought up with the notion its quality not quantity , but my hubby has a high sex drive , as im sure most men do , but i find that i cud go a whole month not even thinkin about sex , then all of a sudden i really, really want it , but im not sure y this happens , im juggling our 3 boys and housework and a part time job and put it down to tiredness !!!!!!



but no my boys have not caught us , they wud prob be traumatised as my 11yr old thinks that grown ups dont ' do it ' anymore he tells us to ' get a room ' if we kiss and cuddle lol , kids u gotta love em x x

Cassandra - posted on 08/14/2009

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k so i read about how some of ya'll are explosive when they dont happen that often...and no i havent been caught...BUT mine isnt explosive....it is more like an i want it...but he dont when i do...so i dont get it...but when he wants it...he takes it!! it isnt always fair and not to sounds grose...im a nympho, i want it ALL the time..im 22, and he is fixing to be 30....i dont have a sex life and that sucks...before i got with him...i still had the 3 kids i have now! and i got it like 1 time a day maybe 2 if i wanted it...so...idk what to do...i know this is your post...but maybe you guys could help me out!?

Jeanette - posted on 08/14/2009

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Doesnt happen near as much. But when it does it only gets better. Our 16 month old walked in on use once. But we just put here back to bed wasnt a big deal. Definetly made my heart stop though i thought it was the 4 year old

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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well my daughter is 7 months old so no she hasn't caught us.... we don't do the deed as often as we used to but thats just because we're so tired by the end of the night.... jayme doesn't go to bed till midnight :(

Kara - posted on 08/13/2009

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i take that backkk...I hadd theee bestttt sexx last ever....it was dEf the bestt i think we have ever haddd...it was funny cause it was rite after i left my comment about we never have sexx...hahaha it was fukn awseomeee!!

Emma Jane - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughte is only 12 months and is in a cot in her own room so she has not caught us!!



Our sex life is better since she was born I feel so much close to my husband now that we are a family its lovely (sorry sounds so slushy)

Melanie - posted on 08/13/2009

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It's fun to find sneak time and quick time. When the kids are acclamated to a schedule then you get your nights back.

Lynsey - posted on 08/13/2009

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Great question!!! I think it's a little less then before we had kids, more then when I was pregnant, so its pretty great. 3-4 times a week. You have to make time for it and everyone will be less stressed. Our kids are 3 and 4 and we have never had them walk in on us,lol:) Thankfully:) Have a quickie, some is better then none,lol!!!!

Amanda - posted on 08/13/2009

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LOL!! Yes OMG, just when you think they are fast asleep in there bed. They open the door, then you quickly grab the sheets and tell them to go back to bed and not to get back up lol.

Jacqueline - posted on 08/13/2009

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our sex life is still pretty great usually once a day or once every other day our son walked in once on us but he is 2 so he didnt know what he saw lol

Donna - posted on 08/13/2009

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yeah since the kids my husband wants it all the time....... its like the honeymoon hasnt ended

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