Your sex life..

Tabitha - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 158 moms have responded )

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Now that you have kids, what is your sex life like? Have your kids ever caught you doin' the deed?!

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Aja - posted on 08/13/2009

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Well its like me make an appointment, which is every Sunday and Monday. Our schedules are just crazy we don't have the time. I miss not being able to do it like we want but we have five kids to take care of LOL WE NEED SLEEP. You do try to get away like overnight sometimes.

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:



Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D





I am so shocked that you could do it in front of your daughter, It dose not matter that you coved yourself up a child should not see that at a young age. And just because you want same sex don't put her in her crib and threw same toys and a juice in there for her. I would never never do that to my child how could anyone do that, When kids are awake they came first no matter how much you want it. Wait till they are in bed and do it then. The last thing I want to say is HOW COULD YOU BE SO MEAN......






WOW... I think you need to CALM THE F*CK DOWN. Her choices are JUST that. You choose what works for you and your family. And I bet no-one gives you the 3rd degree for your choices. Im sure, if someone did, you'd tell them where to go. So, LAY OFF.

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009

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We still have a fantastic sex life. Generally we just keep it for night time when the little one is sleeping, but we've had a few sneaky romps throughout the day while she is watching TV. LOL... Expecting baby number 2 now, so will be interesting then... But I doubt we will ever lose the intimacy we have... We are so in love and making love/being intimate is so special for us...

Shauna - posted on 08/12/2009

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oh man, my sex drive has completely disappeared. I try and get into it for the sake of my bf but i don't ever get aroused anymore..Ill end up doing it anyways bc i already teased him. Buttt.. i do want it when im right on the edge of being drunk LOl. That sounds bad, i only want it when im drunk.. but idk i just never feel the urge to have sex or anything anymore. Hopefully it'll change, bc before i had my son, whose 1 now, we had sex a couple times a day. i would be the one beggin him for sex.. now its him doing it to me. He always tells me i need to give it up, he doesn't like jacking off in the shower LOL.hahahah

Stephanie - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D


I am so shocked that you could do it in front of your daughter, It dose not matter that you coved yourself up a child should not see that at a young age. And just because you want same sex don't put her in her crib and threw same toys and a juice in there for her. I would never never do that to my child how could anyone do that, When kids are awake they came first no matter how much you want it. Wait till they are in bed and do it then. The last thing I want to say is HOW COULD YOU BE SO MEAN......

Stephanie - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D


I am so shocked that you could do it in front of your daughter, It dose not matter that you coved yourself up a child should not see that at a young age. And just because you want same sex don't put her in her crib and threw same toys and a juice in there for her. I would never never do that to my child how could anyone do that, When kids are awake they came first no matter how much you want it. Wait till they are in bed and do it then. The last thing I want to say is HOW COULD YOU BE SO MEAN......

Stephanie - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D


 

Charmaine - posted on 08/12/2009

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and sorry yeah i have been caught not by one of my kids. It was my sisters little girl at the age of 3

Charmaine - posted on 08/12/2009

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I like most people had a great sex life before i had my boys, but now i dont have a sex drive at all and i guess that is good at the moment as i am a single mom.

Lauren - posted on 08/12/2009

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I'm not interested of an evening but mornings or daytime yes please!! Too tired at night and bed these days = sleep :)
Have been caught once and I felt awful...mind you we're talking a 14mth old catching us so it wasn't the worst thing ever. I just find it hard to stay focused...the mind still multi tasks...definitely know how Miranda in the Sex and the City Movie feels.

Also, does anyone else also feel like a born again virgin?? Since having bub I have found I like certain things I didn't before and the things I did like don't do it for me anymore?? It's really thrown my confidence in the bedroom....my partner says not to worry....it just means we get to re-explore but with what spare time???

Laura - posted on 08/12/2009

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We have never been caught and hopefully we won't get caught but if it happens what do you do?! Our sex life was great before and after our twins. Now pregnancy #2 baby #3 and it doesn't happen very often and well the big "O" is not as satisfying for me. I had 2 c-sections don't know if that's part of it. But my husband feels like its him and its not but I don't know what to do to make it better if I can. Maybe i should start a new conversation and see what advice I can get or if anyone else has experienced this. Maybe someday it will get better! :)

Angela - posted on 08/12/2009

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i have NO sex drive any more.... its a real issue for hubby- i really try to get friskie- just cant seem to get motivated..... cant believe there are so many moms out there who still LOVE gettin jiggy wit it! lol ill have what you're all having! lol have gained a lot of weight recently- so thinking that might be an issue- as well as the ENORMOUS fear of getting pregnant again!

Kara - posted on 08/12/2009

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haha wutt a questionn....me n my man use too have sex 3/4 times a day literally now that we have the lil gUy its alwats an argument to fukin get sex outta em he always tired or not in the mood n it really bothers me because i feel lyk he dun wana b wit me intimatly obviously ya kno if were only havin sex once a week lyk thats not normal my son is only 4 months n i live wit my mom n she helps me out alot so we lots a alone timee n i always got to fite wit him about it..i dun remember the last time he approched me :( im bout to kick em to the CURB

Jami - posted on 08/12/2009

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My kids never caught us in bed, but my one daughter was about to come in when she heard me yell, and she yelled throught the door to see if I was okay, and if she could come in. I told her I had a nightmare, and put her back in bed so that we could finish. She told my parents the next day that mommy had a bad dream and screamed!

Shannon - posted on 08/12/2009

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ewww yes My daughter walked in and I never saw my husband jump so fast and he was soo out of breath I could not help but laugh my ** off...We double check the locks now and I usually dont want too anyways lol

Sandy - posted on 08/12/2009

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Sex life... I think everyone is saying that to this question... Ummm well I spose it still happens but with a baby and a baker for a partner that starts work at midnight its rare... WHEN it happens is usually while Rikky is having her day sleep in her room with the door shut, or weekends after she is in bed. Maybe when she gets older it will completely be lost or we might get caught... Until then we need to make dinner dates for this kind of thing...

Jackie - posted on 08/12/2009

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well we have almost bn caught by our 3 yr old....i said almost because we always lock the door, but she came knocking at da door, so thank God for locks...........we have sex where-ever and whenever.......its on when he feels the need and when i feel the need. we have sex sometimes before work, after work, and before bed.........all in all our sex life did die off for a lil bit when i had my first child.........but da fire has bn restored and has been burning ever since. so if sex isnt as plenty as it use to be try differnt things. role play if u have to, have a whipped cream fight or game....u both would love it

Drema - posted on 08/12/2009

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well we have a set time for the kiddos to go to bed too, the oldest is 6 and the baby is 2. i just miss the spontanious moments the most, i hate picking a date and time. but we have a great sex life, at let 4 to 6 times a week. when he's here, that is. i married a marine, so he's gone alot. but toys is a plus while he's away, haha.

User - posted on 08/12/2009

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u are all so funny!! i have 4 girls 12 1/2, 11, 4 and 15 months and still get sex 5 or 6 times a week! and its great, we also sneak quickies in the kitchen just lean on the kitchen door! my 11 yr old caught us on holiday, they went down to get their breakfast before us so we took advantage but she had the adjoining door key and walked staight in, all i heard was " eeeww mum in your own time!" then feet a hundred mile an hour down the corridor to tell her sister almost peeing herself laughing!!! great fun lol! x

Valissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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mine is about the same as it was before, i just try to keep it interesting by trying new things or new places. i personally have a really high sex drive, and my husband doesn't, so i don't get it as often as i would like. but its a balance personal time is important. and i think at some point a large number of kids walk in or see it. their usually young enough to not knwo the difference.

Mandy - posted on 08/12/2009

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Back when my husband and I first began seeing each other, my son walked in on us (he was 4 at the time). After that, we began locking the door when we needed our time together. Now that we've had our second son, we take of ourselves only at night after the kids have gone to bed. We also have a set bedtime for our kids, so it's a bit easier to keep our sex lives almost unchanged :D

Stephanie - posted on 08/12/2009

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we have a set bed time for the kids. once they go to sleep we lock the door and have our grown up time. when we are done we up lock the door and open it back up. locks are very important.

Rebekah - posted on 08/12/2009

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my son has never caught us...he sleeps in his own room so that helps out...our sex life is still great...my husband works overseas so he is not home but 6 months out of the year so every moment we have together we make the most of it

Felicia - posted on 08/12/2009

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Having sex at night is easy but it's the afternoon sex that is tricky. My husband and I were in the middle of it as our son played in his room ( I know sounds a little wrong but what the little one doesn't know won't hurt him). We then heard him scream "MOM DAD I THREW UP" Stopping in the middle and having to clean up puke kept us out of the mood for days. The best birth control is your own children :)

LeeAnn - posted on 08/12/2009

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well, I have two daughters, one is 2 1/2, and one is almost 16 months. No problem with desire, but I swear they have radar!! Everytime we try to sneak away for some "quality time"...they wake up, or something....every time!! The time of day doesn't hinder this...I don't get it. It's like we have built in birth control! Our oldest daughter did walk in, but we were under the covers...luckily...and she just started talking to us.

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Sex life is pretty good, not as often as it used to be now that we have kids, but we both have a very high sex drive so whenever we have free time...NO KIDS or they are sleeping we try to sneek away. You need to make time for sex. My oldest daughter did in fact catch us during, and from then on we LOCK OUR DOOR!!!!!

Kelly - posted on 08/12/2009

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Sex life to me is still good..but now with kids you just have to make time for it! I have a 6 year old and a 3 month old...and luckily the older one has never caught us yet..lol.

Queenee - posted on 08/12/2009

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We have had sex in front of our daughter, but she was really small. We have never been caught doing the deed, but that's because I lock the door.

Ashney - posted on 08/12/2009

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My husband came home from a 4 month deployment 20 hours before our daughter was born. I had a c-section so we waited about 3 weeks before we started doing the deed again, but things are as good as ever. we are blessed enough to have a daughter that sleeps all night from day one, so we have not been interrupted. THANKFULLY!!

Martina - posted on 08/12/2009

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Never been caught by my kids...but i can say it has slowed down than before...we are not doing it every day...but every week of course and i love it better than before....Plus a couple days without it...makes it better when its time....the key is YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME....

Nyoka - posted on 08/12/2009

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oh and we have sex a couple times a week.. we used to have sex all the time but now its hardly at al.. for some people 2 times is alot fr the week but weve gone fomr almost everyday to just that but hey it could be worse i guess and not happen at al!!

Nyoka - posted on 08/12/2009

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hahaha me and my partner had just finished having sex and ive turned to look at my son to see if he was still sleeping and he was laying wide awake with his beady lil eyes fixed on us.. it was so funny we were in histerics for about a hour!! the finniest part was seeing him staring then turning his head than went of to sleep!!
my son is nearly 5 months old!! hahahahahaha

Rebecca - posted on 08/12/2009

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what sex life?????

im lucky to get once every 2weeks, before we had our son we had sex ALL the time, once when we went to bed (10pm) then a few hours later we would do it again(12am ish) then i would wake him up at 4am every morning so we could do it again, we used to get home from work and do it also.

i really miss our time together as a couple that i am going to bet my best friend to look after my son for a weekend so my partner and i can have as much sex as we like



oh and no jake hasnt walked in on us (yet)

Hanna - posted on 08/12/2009

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ours is in phases -- when things are good between us, then it's amazing and happens almost every day, then we have a fight because of everything that's going on around us and we're 'civil' to each other for weeks at a time. so it kinda varies. but when we do have it, it is really good! i'm hoping that when i go back to work it'll go back to normal because i will no longer be sitting at home so most of our arguments will disappear on their own :)

Jackie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Sex..... hmmmm that happens doesn't it? Lol... When it happens for me I get nothing out of it.... its just another chore for me.... So not impressed by it....

Jill - posted on 08/11/2009

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My son has not caught us yet. But we don't have sex near as much as we used to. Personally at times it is a good thing, but other times, it sucks not having sex as much!

User - posted on 08/11/2009

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every weekend is about the only time it happens.. once in a blue moon it may happen on a week night. Our son is only ten months old so he hasn't and I pray to God that he doesn't ever catch us. I just feel down sometimes cause it feel like I have a really high sex drive and he doesn't. He is tired a lot so that puts a damper on things.

Hailey - posted on 08/11/2009

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honestly i never feel like sex well i shouldnt say never but its pretty dam close i dont know wat it was that made me go like this but ever since i had kids sex isnt a need anymore ,b4 them it was like a everyday thing but now liucky to b once a week lol , never been caught and hope they never do c me ,

Tiffany - posted on 08/11/2009

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Ours is starting to get better. I had a very bad vaginal delivery with a level 3 tear. My daughter is 8 months old and I am just getting to the point that sex is bearable again. I had a really high sex drive before out daughter and after our daughter I didn't think I would wait until the 6 week but when we tried and every time after that it hurt so bad that I would almost cry. So we are trying to get back to the good old days it just takes some time I guess.

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my and my husband just get it on when the kids fall asleep at nite.we have an electrifying love for each other more than we ever have believe or not.we have a four year old and a two year old.we havent been caught by our children and hopefully never!!!!

Dawn - posted on 08/11/2009

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For a long period it was down, I was lucky to get it 2x a month. Now it happens about every other day, and I could not be happier, our bed is squeaky, so we have to either be very creative or very careful, the kids are a little bit older now, and get the jist of what sex is, and we really don't want them catching us in the act, one time when they were younger one of them caught us in the act, and I told them we were wrestling. It worked at the time :P

Jackie - posted on 08/11/2009

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well, I gained alot of weight during my pregnancy. I started of at 98-100lbs, gained 60 and back down to 120 now but very self conscience. It tends to put a damper on the whole sex life...

Sara - posted on 08/11/2009

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Our sex life is sooooo much better now that we have had both our kids and my tubes are tied. We do not have to worry about birth control and so we just have fun! Our kids have not caught us in a while, but when Alexis just learned how to talk she came in our room and started saying "daddy bounce". It was pretty hillarious! We are MUCH more careful now and lock the door. I think vasectimies and tubal ligations are awsome and highly reccomend them!

Kelly - posted on 08/11/2009

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We find time....we work different schedules...he works in the evening, and i go to school during the day and then work at night....so we don't really see each other that much....but we do find the time about 4 times a week....our son is only 9 months old and he has been sleepin through the night since he was about 5 months old...so no problems there...and he has 3 daughters and they are all good sleepers as well....and they know that they are to stay in there beds.....and i think that we might have another on the way....we aren't tryin but i just switched my birthcontroll about 3 weeks ago and i just had some spotting...a little on the 5th and a little on the 6th and haven't been feeling so good here and there the last few days.....but i guess we will wait and see.....but when you want it you will find the time and then it is soo much better cuz you haven't done it in so long...

Tina - posted on 08/11/2009

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We find the time!!! Not as much as before because our youngest gets up quite a bit still. He is 1... We also have a 5 and 6 year old and we have never been caught yet!!! We used to go at it like 14-16 times a week..... Now it's more like 4 times a week.. It makes it better because we have to wait and don't get the chance to do it all the time!!!

Mel - posted on 08/11/2009

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haha every week and a half if that. if i give him a blow job thats another week and a alf where i wont get anything so makes 3 weeks without me getting sex -) i just do it myself these days when i go to bed or when my alarm goes off in the morning except when its my baby making time of the month then i make him. our daughter is too young to catch us as such shes 16 months but like other mums we leave her playing and shut the door and go about things for 10 mins and then come back out

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