Coping

Whitney - posted on 03/05/2010

At first I couldnt stop thinking about all the negitive and it was hard but I know my son needs me to be strong for him. I also try and think about my moms parenting skills and what i wont do and what i will do. talking helps. too.

Caightlyn - posted on 03/01/2010

im thrity weeks pregnant and 20 years old, i lost my mom 16 years ago, and my dad 7 years ago...and everytime i think of having to bring this child into this world without them, it takes every ounce i have not to break down...i thought i had dealt with this....how am i supposed to be ok to be strong enough for her?

Desirae - posted on 02/20/2010

I still can't sometimes... that is how I found this group... you?

Rachael - posted on 12/18/2008

I lost my mom 7 years ago (wow seems like yesterday still) I was 17 at the time. It is very hard knowing and thinking about what could have been. One thing having my own children made me realize is how much my mom really loved me. Experiencing that for myself made me feel closer to her in a way even though she is not here. This time of year is hard. I just try to focus on the positive and know that in my heart there is nothing she would have been more proud of me for than having my children and how I am raising them. I am sure your parents would feel the same. Your son gets the best part of both your parents, you! Take care.

Hayley - posted on 12/17/2008

Hi! I fell pregnant with my daughter Ava at 16 and had her at 17, just 6 weeks ago. I lost my mother almost 5 years ago from a heart attack so I've had a long time to come to terms with not having her support. She had been diagnosed with angina a few months before but never let on just how bad her condition was, making her passing all the more sudden.. My father made some very bad decisions while not coping with her death and landed himself in prison. I think my mother played a part in the conception of my daughter as my LMP was January 29, the day my mother died 4 years earlier. My daughters birthday is also the same month as my mothers but 11 days earlier. I don't believe in coincidences as my mothers favourite saying was 'everything happens for a reason'.. Thinking about her looking down on us and knowin how proud she would be makes a big difference :)

Nicki - posted on 12/10/2008

Thank you for your advice Bonnie, I agree completely! You really made me think in the right direction. My parents actually passed away when I was younger, so I seem to miss them more around this time of the year. Thanks again for your input!

Bonnie - posted on 12/09/2008

Well Nicki, it's not easy..No free weekends, no advice, having to listen to everyone else talk about how great of help there parents are...it sucks! But sometimes it's better if we figure stuff out for ourselves even if we have advice we dont always follow it or agree with it. I look at there little faces and realize that everything I know good /bad/ or have chosen to be or not to be like..is from my parents so In some ways they do know there grandparents..I am not sure if yours are gone through choice or not but it really makes no difference to your child they really dont know what they are missing cause they never had it to miss, plus when they do figure it out and they get older they will just be that much more appreciative of how much YOU have done for them.