advice on the dumb father of my baby!

Jenelle - posted on 08/20/2010

I am sorry for the predicament that you are in. I am having baby number 7, and have had an extremely supportive husband, and he has been an incredible dad!! However, many of my close friends are going through the same thing as you! It is never the babies fault, and the father of your child gave up his teenage life the moment that child was conceived. I have seen some dads really come around over time, and by the time the baby is born, they really step up! I have also seen it go the other way. My biggest advice is to go at it legally!! Get a court order for child support! Very quickly someone will come along and will step up and be an incredible father. Don't push the parents of this guy away! You may find that they are a huge support. There is nothing harder than being a mom, but there is nothing more rewarding than being a mom! Hang in there, things will work out!!

Lana - posted on 08/10/2010

hi sweetie im an old pro to this prob its been reacurin in my life since i had baby no.1 at 17 he will come around just give him his space dont try to force it but ask for help with things to invole his manly father type skills settin up a cot etc

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2010

If you ever need legal advice, me and hubby are members of pre-paid legal, I would recommend it. Also great way to make extra money...fyi ;)

Erin - posted on 08/03/2010

I'm so sorry that sucks =[ I think you should tell him fine, and that you'll go it as a single mom. But to protect yourself and to better care for your baby, definately go to legal route and make sure he is at least finacially responsible for your child. Best of luck dear.

Krissie - posted on 07/29/2010

thank you guys! right now he is trying to work on everything and he has been better and hopefully he stays that way. if he doesnt before our daughter is born i guess i will just cut him loose.

Susan - posted on 07/27/2010

I am 27 and on my thrid ...same daddy for all of them, i was 21 and he was 23 when i got pregnant on my 1st and the same as your bloke ...didn't want to be a part of the babies life when i had her he came back into my life and we have spent nearly 6 years going around in circles ...blokes like that never change they are too selfish ..... finally in the past few days i have decided to put an end to it ...not fair on me or the kids. Don't be frightened it's hard work but being a single parent but it pays off .....you see them smile and know it's cus of you that smile is there ....don't take any crap off him it's his loss hun x

Melanie - posted on 07/26/2010

he sounds like an immature teenager.... im 29 and pregnant with my 7th, my first 3 fathers have nothing to do with them, or even contact them, i have nearly 4 to my husband who i have seperated with constantly over the past 7 years and i now have been opretty much on my own with my kids for 3 yrs... in the times im on my own the kids dont see him and he doesnt contact them, but in the times we are together he is a good father.... i just know me and the kids are better off on our own. The kids dont need the arguments and fights and are happy kids now that its just us again, they seem to be alot naughtier when my hubby is around..... So just think of yourself and your baby, motherhood is an amazing jobs and as a single parent, you will feel a lot of accomplishment watching your baby grow and know that YOU did it,,, ,, GOOD LUCK

Brittany - posted on 07/24/2010

First, I am so sorry to hear that your baby's father wants nothing to do with you or the baby. His childhood ended the moment he decided to make a baby with you so he needs to be a man instead of a boy. Regardless, he still has responsibilities! I would say to take a legal route to ensure that financially he provides for the baby. Eventually, you will meet someone who adores your child and wants to be the father to him/her. And when that happens the biological father can sign over his rights and the one who acts wants your child can adopt him/her. As for this jerk... I would say its better to have no father than a crappy one! If you are close to your father let him be your child's role model. I hope everything works out for you. One more thing if you can contact his parents I am sure they would be more than happy to be a part of their grandchild's life. They shouldn't be punished or left out because their son has decided to neglect his child. And most importantly CONGRATS on the baby!