having a 2 year old and a 3 mnth old..

Izzy - posted on 03/30/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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It's crazy how much changes when you bring your second child into the world..its hard to give attention to my 2 year old like I use to and I think he is getting really jealous because he has started hitting him and poking him he even screams really loud when the baby is sleeping I feel I have tried just about everything to get him to stop does anyone have any advice?

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Stephanie - posted on 04/12/2011

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No your not alone in this Izzy. Its the same here. My 2 year old dont get the attention he needs during the days sometimes. But when their dad comes home in the afternoon, I can take him alone and just be with him. And his little sister can be with dad. Thats a lovely feeling. I hope that it will get easier when Kelly gets older..

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Cathy - posted on 05/13/2011

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my kids are 20months apart. I really went out of my way to help my older child not feel jealous. Every chance I had, I was spending time with my first so we still had our one-on-one time. If I could just set my infant down on the floor next to me and she was content, I would spend time with my first. Also, let her help with the baby really helps, I used to let her change the baby's diaper. Hope that helps a little!

Halbede - posted on 05/13/2011

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oo thats so sad and also so sweet who would think that a 2 yr old can show signs of jealousy as for me i feel like im having 2 babies now its like having twins i have a 2yr old and a 4 month old the 2 yr old also wants to breast feed now again its hectic he sometimes help me with little things like when im sending him around for stuff it helps alot especially bathh time i enjoy his company alot

Elizabeth - posted on 05/07/2011

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Make sure your two year old realises the importance of the big brother/sister role. Throughout my pregnancy I always told my son that 'your little brother's in here', and when I got to 7 months he used to willingly kiss and cuddle my bump, or as he said "Leo's bubba" (brother). Since giving birth to Lewis there has not been a time when Leo has appeared to be jealous. Whenever I give my youngest a bath, I hold him and Leo 'washes' him by stroking his hair, or when I'm changing nappies Leo sits next to his head and talks to Lewis , which makes him feel like he's got an input and helps me by distracting my wriggly 4 month! In regards to one on one time, we do arts and crafts, bake, read stories and whenever possible go out to parks or soft play centres, and usually tantrums are averted If you youngest is awake at this point get a sling, they're so useful. My point is you can give your oldest plenty of attention, by allowing them to help you care for your youngest and give them lots of praise!

Jessica - posted on 04/26/2011

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I have a 3 yr old a 2 year old and a 4 month old. What i try to always do is balance out the attention i know babies require alot more then the older but i lay the baby down to sleep and give the other 2 lots of 1 on one attention and when they start acting up towards their sister i remind them that shes a baby and they have to be big helpers with her. It seems to work most of the time. Good luck :)

Mary - posted on 04/19/2011

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Its not easy . I have a 3 month old , 18 months and 2 and a half year old . But im lucky the 2year old and 1year old mostly get on and like to play together. Then they have their bad days were they fight all day . its not easy and the little baba needs me to too. i just try to let them be free and play games and watch cartoons until im free to be with them . kids are hard work but rewarding at the same time .

Izzy - posted on 04/13/2011

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Yes trevor screams when Logan cries and vice versa when trevor is screaming it makes Logan cry and freak out.. the only time I really have to spend with trevor is during the day because hes a daddys boy and wants nothing to do with me once daddy gets off work I think he's slowly getting use to Logan being around he still tends to get real hateful with him I have been trying the the talking and time out approach but that doesn't seem to be working J

Stephanie - posted on 04/12/2011

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Does your older kid screams when the younger child does? I have that problem sometimes with my kids. But I think its becuse Alexander just wants attention right away when he sees me taking care of Kelly.

Izzy - posted on 04/11/2011

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Wow I did n't realize so many people were in the same boat as me its nice to kno someone understands and don't just say it can't be that hard I hate that because yes its fun and yes I love my kids to death but it is so hard when I have a 2 year old that doesn't listen to anything i say but I can only hope it gets easier as they get older

Nicole - posted on 04/04/2011

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I have twin 21 month old boys, one with special needs, and a 3 month old daughter. My daughter unfortunately gets pushed to the back burner during the day, but I make up for it at night when the boys are in bed. The son who does not have special needs I try to give my undivided attention to when the other 2 are sleeping, but he sometimes wants it when I can't give it, such as when i am trying to feed both kids. Just do the best you can!

Sara - posted on 04/04/2011

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I am in the same boat my daughter is 23 months old and my son is 3 months old. I wish I had some advice!! Haha! My 3 month old will start screaming as soon as he hears his sister because she won't leave him alone. It is certainly crazy around here but I wouldn't change it for the world :)

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one in this situation. I'm just making sure that when my youngest goes down for a sleep I spend all that time with my eldest outside playing.

Izzy - posted on 04/02/2011

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Trevor will be 2 on april 29th he was born in 09 of course lol Logan will be 4 mnths old on april 13th i had him in december yea there happy most of the time after the screaming is all done lol but yea its def. crazy having a 23 mnth old and a 3 mnth old drives me crazy most days

Stephanie - posted on 04/01/2011

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Oh this is scary. Its like it could have been my kids.
I have a 2 year old son and a 4 months old daughter.
And I feel the same. My son can scream out of the blue when my daughter sleeps. But ofcourse he is laud anyway. He is a 2 year old. But I feel the same to about the feeling when the second child arrive. Things changes a lot. My son is more active now to. So its hard to entertain him all the time with a little one who wants to have attention to. But somehow the days passes and the kids are happy ( most of the days ) :) But everyone has their bad days to. Anyone, them to.

Fun that our kids are almost the same age. How old are they and when were they born?

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