9 year old with New baby on the way.....

Brandi - posted on 11/18/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am 34 weeks pregnant and my daughter just turned 9 a couple weeks ago. I'm worried once the baby comes she is going to have a hard time. Sometimes she seems excited & happy and other times I can hear the jealousy in her voice. Anyone else had a similar situation that can give me some advice?


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Heather - posted on 12/29/2010




Hey there! Congrats on having another baby! I have a daughter who was born in October 2001, and just recently had my son who was born August 2010, so I know how you feel. My daughter acted the same way, she was really excited but also nervous because she didnt know what to expect. It definatly took some time for all of us to adjust to having another family member. I just made sure I included her in taking care of the baby, like helping me with bathtime, feedings and changing diapers (btw if your having a boy, changing diapers brings alot of oppostie sex questions, esspecially when you go to change him and he has an errection...theres no warning for that!). I also make sure we have our girl time too, usually while he's taking a nap. What helped me too, was that one of her friends had a little brother a year ago and another one of her friends mom is due in this Feb., and I'm also good friends with both moms so we all support each other.
Good Luck!

Sharon - posted on 12/01/2010




I have not personally experienced this, but I have friends who have and I worked in a Pediatrician's office a few years ago. There will be good helpful happy days, and an adjustment of days with jealousy and being upset. How often does she share her time with other children when you are around? If she has lots of playdates or cousins and has experienced the need to wait and share your attention it will go better. Talk to your Pediatrican, as the doctor and nurse should have others patients who have been through this. Do you have any friends who can share stories? Try to stay patient, talk about the changes that may happen with her, and ask her what she believes will be happening in the first months the baby comes home. Some children don't realize how little a baby interacts and how much care they need. Good luck.

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