My Son - How Amazing...

Christy - posted on 11/24/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )




I adopted my son at birth in 2003. He was born at just 36 weeks but had a lot of problems. He started off with a heart mumor and they were concerned about other things down the road, he had tubes put in his ears and the Doctors were concerned he could not hear properly, by the time he was 3 he was okay and the tubes came out at about 4 years old. The he was diagnosed with Epilepsy at the end of 2006. He was having silent seizures and would "zone" off and we would not know what it was, he would just "stare" into space for about 30 seconds at a time and we could not figure out what was going on. He started kindergarten this year at 5 years old. We are not quite sure he was really even ready, but the therapsists, doctors and even the school all said he was fine. He has also been seeing an Occupational Therapist since he was 4 years old, and when he started he was at a 36 month age level, not a year later he is almost at 6 1/2 for his fine motor skills. We have a lot of work to do and he sees his OT once a week. He still can not remember or retain his numbers or letters, some days he gets them and other days he can not even recognize them. It's such a struggle but therapy does help. I just feel so bad for him.

Carter's bio-mom was an afluent drug user, she specialized and Marijuana and Cocaine. She used all they way up until she delivered Carter. She tested positive the day she delivered but he did not Thank God. He was not addicted which I am so greatful for. He has had no contact with his bio-mom since right before his 2nd birthday, his adoption was finalized in 2005, two years after he was born. His bio-father and mother were both trying to uphold his adoption, but the court ruled against them and he became ours legally after two years.


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Karen - posted on 01/14/2009




What an incredible story Christy!  a hard journey - what a blessing that you are in his life though.  i'm overwhelmed witht the stories of how people get connected to their children. ~Karen

Heidi - posted on 11/24/2008




Our son Isaac has mild fetal alcohol syndrome. We didn’t know until he was three. His birthmom lied to the social worker about her use.

Haley was born cocaine positive and was placed in foster care for six months before we were matched with her. We have no contact with her birth mother or father. They tried as well to stop the adoption but were not successful for good reason. I understand why some adoptions should be closed. It’s about what is best for the child.

And Caden was also cocaine positive at birth.

We have an open adoption with his birthmom and she expressed her profound sorrow and guilt about what she had done to put Caden at risk. I love her, and she may still have drug issues. I love her … I HATE drugs!!

The drug issue is very hard! I HATE drugs, but I have to separate the addiction from the person so my children don't feel ashamed or defensive. (like “my birthmommy was bad”or “you don’t like my birthmom”) I tell my kids that their birthmoms had a struggle with addiction and the drug is what makes me mad. Drugs hurt people; mommies who are using, babies inside them and mommies who raise those babies.

You are doing a wonderful job advocating for your son and his needs! Keep celebrating each triumph.

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