Polygamy. What are peoples thoughts?

Zoe - posted on 07/01/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




Polygamy (from πολύς γάμος polys gamos, translated literally in Late Greek as "often married"[1]) is a form of marriage in which a person has more than one spouse at the same time, as opposed to monogamy in which a person has only one spouse at a time.

I Personaly think as long as the people are not married (bigamy) Then it is fine. it is up to others how they lives there lives .

So what does everyone else think ?


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Jenn - posted on 09/17/2013




I think you're confused. you're saying polygamy which is one man with many wives. Polyamory* Is "many lovers" meaning that you have more than one relationship occurring at the same time with different people.

Shauna - posted on 03/28/2011




if i had 5 men to myself sure why not. But thats not what its about so .. F it. Its brainwashing if you ask me

Anna - posted on 02/10/2011




I have mixed feelings about it since after a failed marriage where he wanted multiple relationships and to keep me to himself under lock and key. my new marriage of 2 years was built from an open relationship which made us best friends and built the love we have for eachother. I am still interested in maintaining our relationship and trying different things which we have talked about but is becoming increasingly weird and making me feel alone. At first having been open minded he has switched to the no sharing because of the jealousy. I would rather feel lonely than loose my husband but feel it is pushing us apart. Even the thought of me being with the same sex scares him. But definately both should be on board and sure of yourself and your relationship for it to work, especially because it keeps you busy maintaining the feelings of all who are involved

Beth - posted on 10/05/2010




For me, I couldn't handle multiple men. They are dumb enough singularly.

If all parties want it, then why not.

Kayleigh - posted on 09/25/2010




I have to say that having been on both sides of this topic I much prefer a monogamous relationship. I used to be part of a Group Theo-gamy situation in which we shared openly our selves with our "waterbrothers" and extremely close friends... My biggest problem with being poly is that no matter how good your intentions someone always ends up feeling left out of hurt... its really hard to maintain that sort of lifestyle. Plus checking after everyones sexual history and all that... I have to say that part of what contributed to wanting to create this kind of lifestyle in the first place probably had a lot to do with my ex's need for variety and his general unwillingness to commit... that relationship ended pretty brutally. lol

pretty much, some people can handle it, some can't... i get hurt really easily, so I'm glad my fiance is the clingy possessive type (really! i love it! lol)

Amanda - posted on 09/23/2010




To each their own...It is definitely not for me though. I have a great catch and I would never want to share =P

Joelle - posted on 08/03/2010




As long as the ground rules are in place, I see nothing wrong with swinging.

Polygamy depends on the situation. 14 year old girl being forced to be wife #13 to a 60 year old man...I have a problem with that. In Saudi Arabia, a man can take up to 4 wives and all must be treated the same, the earlier wives must approve any wife coming into the family (a lot of times, the wives are sisters)...it originally was a way to stop female genecide.

As for having more than 1 husband...1 is MORE than enough for me!!

Michelle - posted on 07/31/2010




With my ex we tried the swinging thing. But I feel as long as everyone is happy and understanding of the relationship dynamics between one another then why not!

Silly happy and sad ways to look at it:
even more gifts on holidays :)
buying more gifts :(
More eyes to watch the kids :)
possibly conflicting rules amongst the adults :(

As long as they can make it work then good for them!

Jen - posted on 07/02/2010




We always assume it will be two or more women for the man! How about two or more men for each woman? !

Zoe - posted on 07/01/2010




It is something i would not try as in the uk too many people cast aspersions. However i wouldnt mind trying the swinging lifestyle, not sure where to start tho lol

Tara - posted on 07/01/2010




i am actually new to the poly thing. Honestly you have your ups and downs with it. i find nothing wrong as long as everyone is happy.

Kacee - posted on 07/01/2010




i actually watched true life about this and i honestly wanted to try it out but didnt kno how to go about. some ppl like to have more than one lover.

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