Help! Growth and eating problems!

Aimee - posted on 01/23/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Today I was told by my daughter's ped. that I have to start feeding her more solids and supplementing her with formula because she has stopped growing. However, my daughter will not take a bottle or the goat's milk that I tried. I have one month to fatten this baby up or no more breastfeeding and then she has to go for weekly checkups. Grace is 9 months old. She is also giving me a hard time about eating solids which now have to include high protein at every meal. I am supposed to feed her three solid meals a day for one week and then four solid meals a day for the following three weeks. I am at my wits' end....



If anyone has any advice or experience with this problem I would love to hear from you. Thank you!

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Aimee - posted on 01/27/2009

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Margaret- Grace loves the avocado and fruit mix too...her favourite is avo and banana and I throw yogurt in there too.  Do you give Audrey a formula or breastmilk bottle?  I was waking Grace and feeding her before I went to bed but it didn't seem to help!  Thank you!



Ahlam- Thank you!  I will suggest the urine culture.  Grace is also fine developmentally and she too is very active.  She likes most foods but doesn't like to sit still and eat!  Thank you!

Ahlam - posted on 01/27/2009

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My baby  just 9n months hadnt put on weight for the last 3 months I 've started her on 3 solid meals and 500 to 800 ml milk  and she is very fussy with her food and milk. She is meeting all her developments and is very active! My pedi sugested we do a urine culture and found out she's got a urine infection and is on antibiotics right now! The ped says once the infection clears up she should start eating and drinking well and start gaining weight! 



Anybody with similar experience?

Margaret - posted on 01/27/2009

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Audrey is 9&1/2 months old. She's a pretty picky eater but will pick up chunks of pasta and some soft veggies. One thing she really likes is mushed avocado mixed with pear 1:1. It's her food of choice these days. She can eat half of an avocado mixed with pulp of half a pear per meal. I also add in a tablespoon of rice/wheat cereal. In an attempt to try to get her to sleep longer through the night, I also rouse her sometime in the middle of the night and give her a bottle, no burping after, then she'll keep on sleeping. Good luck!

Aimee - posted on 01/27/2009

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Lindsay- I am still breastfeeding Grace.  I wouldn't give it up for anything!  We are just supplementing with protien and good fat foods and goat's milk.  She is still nursing 4-5 times a day.  The ped called me again yesterday and said no to the goat's milk she would prefer I give her formula...I just can't see giving my baby something with that many weird ingredients!!  I am going to call my alternative medicine clinic and see what they think.  Thank you!



Melissa- Grace is eating Cheerios and all kinds of chunks but I haven't tried custard...Thank you for that!  I figure if she doesn't have big growth spurt with all this food she is just meant to be thin...my husband is thin and she isn't skin and bones or anything.  Her growth curve just stopped.  Thank you!



 



 

Melissa - posted on 01/26/2009

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Have you tried custard?  it is packed full of calories and there are eggs in it, gives them some protein.  I made chicken noodle soup from scratch and fed that to my son with some crackers in it, and it seemed to really like that.  You can puree it if your daughter isn't into textures yet. 



Does she eat cheerios or anything yet?  Sometimes that helps get them started on having actual food in their mouth.  You could even try cereals and pick up some bran and add that to it.  If she liked sweet potatoes you could roast one in the oven and puree it with chicken/turkey/ham whatever you like and give that to her, sometimes the sweetness helps them overcome the meat.  Also yogurt is really good, there are lots of good calories in that for them.  I suggest meats and anything sweeter.  Babies seem to love that.



 



Goodluck!!



PS, the health nurse classifed my son as underweight constantly when he was born, and kept pushing formula, and stuff and he was getting weighed constantly because she feared he wasn't gaining what he should, but he is a healthy active baby.  I decided when he was 8 months old that she(the health nurse) could basically bugar off.  Don't get panicked.

Lindsay - posted on 01/26/2009

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Whatever you do, please please please do not stop breastfeeding that sweet baby.  Your breastmilk is the one single thing that has everything she needs.  While loading her up with solids and formula might make her put on some weight, those are not the kinds of calories and nutrition she needs right now. Breastmilk should be a baby's primary source of nutrition for AT LEAST the first year. 



Each baby has her own unique growth curve.  Many doctors are unaware of the new growth charts for breastfed babies, and continue to refer to growth charts that were developed for formula-fed babies.  Most doctors receive no more than a day or two's education on infant nutrition, and much of their information comes directly from formula companies.  When it comes to nutritional concerns for a breastfed baby, I always refer to recommendations from World Health Organization and La Leche League International before even considering taking a pediatrician's advice.  If I had a penny for every time I've been given nutritional info from a doctor that was just flat-out wrong, I'd have a nicely padded savings account!



If your baby is happy, responsive, has good energy levels, is meeting developmental milestones, and shows no visible signs of delay, I wouldn't worry about her weight gain.  My daughter has hardly gained any weight in the past few months either, but she's happy and alert and thriving - growth slows down considerably once they get moving and start burning lots of energy through crawling and cruising along.  Our family doctor has no concerns about her growth whatsoever.



When you're giving solids and goat's milk, I'd recommend nursing her FIRST, so that she fills up on the good stuff and anything else she takse in is purely supplemental.  The more breastmilk you can get into her, the better - your supply will go up to meet her needs, and she'll be getting custom-made nutrition that your body makes to suit her needs exactly. 



If you'd like any more information, please feel free to send me a private message, I'd be happy to help you out any way that I can!

Lindsay - posted on 01/26/2009

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Whatever you do, please please please do not stop breastfeeding that sweet baby.  Your breastmilk is the one single thing that has everything she needs.  While loading her up with solids and formula might make her put on some weight, those are not the kinds of calories and nutrition she needs right now. Breastmilk should be a baby's primary source of nutrition for AT LEAST the first year. 



Each baby has her own unique growth curve.  Many doctors are unaware of the new growth charts for breastfed babies, and continue to refer to growth charts that were developed for formula-fed babies.  Most doctors receive no more than a day or two's education on infant nutrition, and much of their information comes directly from formula companies.  When it comes to nutritional concerns for a breastfed baby, I always refer to recommendations from World Health Organization and La Leche League International before even considering taking a pediatrician's advice.  If I had a penny for every time I've been given nutritional info from a doctor that was just flat-out wrong, I'd have a nicely padded savings account!



If your baby is happy, responsive, has good energy levels, is meeting developmental milestones, and shows no visible signs of delay, I wouldn't worry about her weight gain.  My daughter has hardly gained any weight in the past few months either, but she's happy and alert and thriving - growth slows down considerably once they get moving and start burning lots of energy through crawling and cruising along.  Our family doctor has no concerns about her growth whatsoever.



When you're giving solids and goat's milk, I'd recommend nursing her FIRST, so that she fills up on the good stuff and anything else she takse in is purely supplemental.  The more breastmilk you can get into her, the better - your supply will go up to meet her needs, and she'll be getting custom-made nutrition that your body makes to suit her needs exactly. 



If you'd like any more information, please feel free to send me a private message, I'd be happy to help you out any way that I can!

Aimee - posted on 01/26/2009

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I found the goat's milk with no problem and I am glad she only needs 2-4oz a day because it is $5 a quart.  You know...my mom had told me that...that in 15 years when they are grown up we won't be able to solve all their porblems and sooth all their hurts so easily...it made me feel like Grace waking up in the night is gift to spend a little more time holding her.  I needed that perspective shift too!



How big is Kiara?  Grace is 15lbs 2oz and 27 inches.  She was 8lbs 2oz.

Brandi - posted on 01/26/2009

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You saying that it's only so long we can make them feel better this easy gave me renewed strength! Thank you!!!!!! Sometimes I just need to shift my perspective.



Kiara took to the milk just fine. We also tried an organic hemp seed milk but I'm concerned it won't have enough fat.



How's Grace doing with the goat's milk? Did you have a problem finding it?

Aimee - posted on 01/25/2009

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Congrats on the 9 months!!  Grace was sleeping through the night from 6 weeks until the beginning of January.  She was waking once or twice a night to be fed and I figure that it will only be so long that I can make her feel better so easily so I just nurse her!  But since the increased solid feedings she has been sleeping longer before waking and last night she slept until 6am before waking and then slept one more hour.  How has the milk been for Kiara's belly?  I love the name by the way!

Brandi - posted on 01/25/2009

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Aimee-Kiara is 9 months today! I just started organic whole milk last week. One bottle at night before bed to help her sleep. I'm still at one middle of the night feeding though...

Aimee - posted on 01/25/2009

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Brandi- Thank you!  How old is your daughter?  Grace lost a bit too.  She seems to be doing better with all of the solids and she is down to BF 4 times a day.  Yesterday she took goat's milk from a spoon and took two ounces and the same tonight.  Grace also likes a regular cup but it is hard to regulate how much actually gets swallowed!!



Melissa- I make my baby food too...the jar stuff is just to expensive and I like to know exactly how it is made.  As for going to another doctor, I live on Martha's Vineyard and there is a small selection of peds and FPs.  Plus I really do love this doc.  I was just stunned to be told all of that info by her.  I also forgot to mention in my first post that I am 14 weeks pregnant with my second so I think the main problem is the quality of the milk and that Grace is only BF 5-7 mins per side.  Thank you!

Brandi - posted on 01/25/2009

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I had (am having) the same problem with my daughter. I took her for a checkup in December and noticed that not only did she not gain any wieght, she had lost an ounce! After speaking with the health nurse, I was informed that she should be eating 3 solid food meals a day, plus cereal.



I was bf and had only tried solids a handfull of times. If she wasn't interested, I wasn't going to push it.



I started feeding her, still continued to breast feed on demand and had to go in for weekly checkups for 3 weeks. Kiara is happy and healthy and seems to be fine in every other area. Lots of the right kind of diapers.  :)



They ended up telling me that I should keep doing what I'm doing. Maybe she's been blessed with a high metabolism! She's putting the food away but doesn't seem to gain a whole lot. She's at the bottom of the scale for "normal"...Whatever that means.



It doesn't make sense to me to bf, give solid foods AND formula. But what do I know? I'm no doctor.



It takes some paitence but my daughter really likes to drink out of a cup. Maybe yours will take that over a bottle? Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 01/25/2009

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How often does she nurse? I exclusively bf my daughter and wouldn't give it up for anything! If she feeds herself chunks of food try sneaking in baby food. Do you give her jar food or make your own? Try making your own, it tastes better! I use the website wholesomebabyfood.com. My doctor said that sometimes they don't grow as much as they get older. Have you thought about going to another doctor to see what they say? We go to a group of doctors and each one has their own opinion. Some doctors are more for bf and some are for formula, it just depends on their beliefs. hope this helps.

Aimee - posted on 01/23/2009

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Grace feeds herself chunks of everything and whole bananas but I am going to have to sneak fats and proteins in there.  I can't get her to take a bottle...she wouldn't take it from birth and I never pushed it.  I keep trying the cup and bottle so maybe she will get used to it.....I don't know what else to do...



Thank you!

Angela - posted on 01/23/2009

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Have you tried putting cereal in her bottle? That will help put some weight on her.  Can she feed herself at all?  You could try some cooked veggie cubes that she could pick up.  My daughter is allergic to cow's milk so I can't give her anything with dairy yet and I've had to come up with some different foods to feed her.  She get's sugar free jello and loves it. 

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