My 11 month old son is SERIOUSLY attached to me!

Brooke - posted on 03/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Milo's always been pretty attached, but it's SO bad now! He wants to be held 24/7 and cries when I put him down or leave the room- he'll cry and follow me. Not sure if it's teething (He just cut his first tooth a few days ago) or separation anxiety!

I love him very much, and want to make sure he feels secure- so I hold him as much as I can but sometimes it's just exhausting! Anyone else going through this? I know around 9 months or so, they are supposed to get separation anxiety but this is just crazy! My daughter (who is now 16) wasn't like this at all, she was very independent. I know he will grow out of this, but it's just frustrating.


Regina - posted on 10/10/2014




My son is the same, if I'm out of sight he's looking for me and crying or crawling after me. It is endearing but I feel like I can't get anything done, plus he's only getting heavier so carrying him all day gets exhausting. I feel bad for Dad because when he tries to lighten the load and take him from me he rejects him and clinges on harder to me. Is it just a phase?


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Melissa - posted on 06/13/2015




Oh my gosh!! This is my 11 month old daughter!!!! It's INSANE! I'm glad I am not the only one going through this!

Carrie - posted on 03/30/2009




My daughter was really clingy at around 9 months, but it is getting better now.  She never wanted to be away from me at all, she would follow me all over the house.  The thing I started to do that seemed to work, was to wave bye to her when I left the room.  I know it sounds a little strange but it worked for us, just for me to say bye to her before I left the room instead of just "disappearing" from her sight it made her feel better.

I also try to spend at least a couple of hours playing with her on the floor throughout the day and that seems to help as well.

Hope this helps and good luck!!!


Kamaria - posted on 03/28/2009




hiya mi daughter is doing EXACTLY the same thing shes 11 mnths aswell if i put her dwn 4 a second she screams the place dwn i love her so much and cant take the screaming so im always holding her bt i red that its normal 4 her 2 hav seperation anxeity at this age  so im jst tryin 2 ride it out

Ashleigh - posted on 03/27/2009




Oh my.  That is my son exactly.  I can't go anywhere without the little guy following me!! What I do (and sometimes works) is if im busy in the kitchen, I will give him some measuring cups and some cheerios so he can play there and hes happy that he's with mommy.  When I go to the bathroom, he just plays in the empty bathtub haha.  Also, try explaining to him that mommy is busy but when you are done you will play with him.  It's a great habit to get into to let them know what's going on, even if they don't really understand everything just yet!

Jackie - posted on 03/26/2009




he is just used to you holding him so when you put him down, he cries.

he is older now so it would be easier i think to get him out of that routine.

try sitting down with him on the floor and play or sing to him, entertain him and  play with some toys together. when he seems to be really interested in playing with the toys, get up and sit on the sofa, that way you can still interact from him and he can still see that you are there.

go back and forth from the floor to the sofa so he gets used to you moving away every now and then.... eventually head towards leaving the room but occassionally pop back to let him know you are there.

my son is a mummy's boy too and still follows me to the kitchen and whinges for me but i just give him something to play with and continue doing what im doing.

just get him involved in playing and then back away, it will take time but the more you carry him, the worse it will be for you.

good luck.

Kathryn - posted on 03/26/2009




Yep, my little guy is a mama's boy too...and at 25 lbs, I'm pretty much done in at the end of the day from carrying him around so much. It's getting a bit better now that he walks, but when he walks over to me and puts his arms up for a carry, what am I to do? lol He's my last, so I guess I'm enjoying my last baby...until he becomes daddy's boy like the other two!

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