still sleeping in parents bed

Nicole - posted on 12/04/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hi Mom's. I know this is MY fault. Our daughter will be 4 years old in April of 2012. Tears almost just typing 4 years old. She has never slept in her own bed/crib. The discipline to keep her there failed majorly on my part, not my husband's. Now she is still in our bed, and it is causing problems in more ways than one. The other problem is that her own room was on the main level of the house which only has one bedroom. I never felt safe leaving her down there while we were upstairs sleeping. The other bedroom is upstairs but has very poor temperature control. Excuse after excuse. Any gentle suggestions? I know I am putting myself out there to be ridiculed. Thanks Moms!


Aniesha - posted on 12/04/2011




I think it's really sweet that you've done that:). And sorry no ideas how to move her! My son sleeps in his toddler bed next to our bed (he'll be 3 in a couple of weeks). Maybe you could try that first as a step to getting her out of your bed instead of moving her straight to her own room?


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Andrea - posted on 04/10/2012




I am having the same thing going on... She's just so sweet and cuddly but I know I need to make her sleep in her own room/bed. But my husband has been no help either, I tried a few times and he gave in to her so I figured what's the point? Needless to say there's not much "alone" time for my husband and I... I know if I told her she was going to sleep in her bed and read her a book and laid down with her for a few nights until she fell asleep and just stay consistent it would work. Our biggest problem is that she freaks out if she doesn't have tv or a movie to watch to go to sleep, even in our bed with us. Just an adjustment I need to stay committed to for her sake. Good Luck, I think it's harder on us than it is on them. :)

Anji - posted on 01/22/2012




Im with you and wouldnt feel comfortable putting my little one in the bedroom downstairs but would fix the extra bedroom upstairs up for her. Pick her favorite cartoon character and color and decorate that room with those things so that she may want to spend more time in there. Get a nice comfy blanket in the winter if the temparture is too cool in there. I did this with mine recently and she too will be 4 in April and she also up until maybe a month ago was still in the middle of me and my hubby in our bed. : ( She still resists sleeping in her princess room sometimes but I insist she has to and put on a dim light in the hall way for her. She falls asleep but at times because I thinks she's use to feeling our body tempartures in the middle of the night sometimes wakes up and finds her way back into our bed. lol

Shannon - posted on 01/01/2012




i totally feel for you--i have three year old twins and although they fall asleep in their own beds they inevitably end up in our bed in the middle of the night, It makes it really hard to sleep comfortably because sometime during the night our four year old makes into the bed too. all i can hope is that it will stop someday and i should try to enjoy it while i can but it is really difficult to find the good in it sometimes. i could definately use some advice of my own.

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