22 Month old out of Control

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2011 ( 46 moms have responded )

300

28

9

My son is 22 Months old...He is getting worse...He thinks he can do what he wants & when he wants it..When he throws his tantrum he will bang his head on the floor...He refuses to listen to a word I have to say...I'm about to lose my mind I don't know what to do anymore...Time outs don't work nothing works...He is almost 2 so I figured he would know what I'm saying...Does anyone else have a problem with there 22 Month old tearing your house completely thinks they can do what they want...I'm gonna go crazy...can someone please help

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Rebecca - posted on 02/23/2011

15

8

0

We're going through it too. I believe it's all part of the process. They are learning soooo much, sooo fast that they don't always know how to deal with it. My advice is to have set rules, schedules and boundaries and stick to them, no matter what. I know you're tired (especially being pregnant again) but persistence pays off. Model the behavior you want him to adopt too. If you don't want him to yell, don't yell at him. If you don't want him to hit, don't hit him (or others, even if in play- that's hard with a boy). If you want him to say thank you, say it to him etc. Recognize when he IS behaving properly. I don't think "time-outs" in the traditional sense, works- especially for one so young. However, like Nicole said, remove him from the situation to help him defuse. If he is pitching a fit, try to recognize what he may be feeling- frustration, anger, boredom and help him identify it and offer ways to deal with it. Also, take a look at his surroundings. Is the TV on, people talking, dog barking and so on? Maybe he is overwhelmed and quite time with Mommy is in order. Perfect time for reading or coloring. Best of luck. We'll get through it. :o)

María - posted on 03/03/2011

1

2

0

Hi Amanda! I´m going through the same thing! My son is almost 23 months and behaves exactly like yours...can anybody help us? please...

Nicole - posted on 02/22/2011

18

24

1

Hi! My daughter is just turning 22 months, she is learning both English and Portuguese, so she understands everything! She had her temper tantrum stage about 2 months ago, it was a bit ridiculous! What worked with me was to take her away from the place she was having a tantrum (once it was at the mall, so embarrassing), even if it was to the bathroom and I would put her in the corner and let her scream it out in the corner. I still have to punish her this way every once in a while, but she will stay in the corner now for about 30 sec and clam down right away. Once she stops screaming and crying I tell her to come to me, look at me (in the eyes even if I have to hold her face to look at me) and explain to her calmly what she did wrong and to apologize (which is usually a hug and a kiss). When I first starting doing this I had to put her in the corner various times a day (which was not easy I would hug her forcefully while she was having a tantrum and talk to her in calm voice saying she was going to be punished), then I would put her in the corner, not let her leave the corner and let her cry it out. It worked like a charm for me. Sometimes I would use her old playpen when she would have those body convulsing tantrums. Hope this helps! She is an angel now!

Michele - posted on 02/25/2011

5

20

0

Another suggestion, maybe take him for a leisurely walk around the block - make him walk, not in the pram...it helps burn off some of that built-up energy. I often do this with my 3 yr old and 22 month old twin boys...it is also good exercise for yourself whilst prgenant. If you are too tired - maybe just go outside into the garden and interact with him by pointing out the birds, butterflies, picking some flowers, leaves...perhaps you could go on a bug hunt. Fill a shoe box full of interesting objects found in the garden - my boys all love these things. Something we did the other day was sit on the back-step and eat a home-made icy-pole that we made the day prior...I gave them all a bowl and a towel and it kept them ALL quiet and happy for about 20 mins (except for the odd dropping it on the ground) trying to get through it. My twins are very independent too, compared to what their older brother was like at the same age, although they love lots and hugs and kisses - esp. on their own terms. Can you rearrange your computer desk or any other things in your house to be more toddler friendly? Like putting locks on cupboards and drawers, set up a gate or a different room with a door for the computer desk. That allows you reduce always saying "no" and fighting with him to listen to you.

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2011

15

8

0

Don't blame yourself. They have to learn how to behave. I don't have all the answers- boy I wish I did! I'd be rich lol.



Spitting is tough. Firmly tell him no when he does it- each time. Don't get frustrated and ignore it even once. As far as dumping stuff out, it's normal. They are learning how things work and cause and effect. It's _what_ he's dumping out that is inappropriate. We used Cheerios and plastic cups and bowls. So think of things that can be dumped from one container to another -blocks, balls, etc and give him objects to practice this skill in the bathtub too (and outside when/if the weather is appropriate- water is FUN to kids and outside is the perfect place to explore it). When he does dump out your soda or makes a mess, have him help you clean it up. Explain that he made a mess and now we've got to clean it. Sure, he won't clean it perfectly and you'll be doing most of the work but he will learn the effect of his inappropriate behavior.

When he gets frustrated, try to identify what is frustrating him. Is he agitated because he can't stack his blocks without them falling? Tell him something like "Oh no, your blocks keep falling! It's hard to get them stacked up, huh? That's so frustrating. Here, let's work together." And start slowly and purposely helping him stack the blocks while you're talking calmly to him. This will help him know that you understand. It will identify that crazy emotion he is feeling and will let him know you are there to help him and you're teaching him how to respond appropriately. Once you show him, allow him to try by himself, without jumping in to help him too quickly- that might upset him too- he wants to be independent. And then happily praise him when he does stack them high. And make a big deal about it and the fun in knocking them down too! Likewise, if he wants to blow bubbles while you're making dinner, explain he can't right now. "I know bubbles are fun, I like playing with them too, but the food is out. We'll play with them after dinner"- then follow through. He will likely cry, scream and all around pitch a fit, but if you hold to your word he will come to trust what you tell him and it will be easier to postpone his urges. Offer him an alternative to the bubbles. Toddlers minds are one track and focused on what they want and when they want it so distract him with another fun activity. Maybe you can even collect several activities that he doesn't do all the time and you call pull those out when he is fixed on something else. Ours is coloring and his remote controlled car, for example.

I hope these ideas work or give you other ideas that do work. I've read through some of the replies and it sounds like you're getting good advice. Hopefully you can pick and piece something together that works for you and your little guy. Good luck.

46 Comments

View replies by

Nathanmundling - posted on 10/03/2017

1

0

0

Are there any dads on here? My 22 month old is acting like tgis as well but his mom is the only one that can calm him. I work during the day and his mom works nights and the 8 hours shes gone all he does is screams and has massive fits. I dont know what to do I've tried to ignore the fits, I've tried to hold him and calm him nothing works and its killing me i feel like its something we're doing wrong my other kids didnt act like this. What do I do?

Chantal - posted on 03/04/2014

2

0

0

OMG! I have the same problem with my 22 month old daughter. If she doesn't get her way she will throw her self and bang her head off the floor. Her legs and arms wail side to side. Thing is she is actually very beautiful and people think it's cute. It's not people, just makes it harder for me. I also have a 7 month old which feels at time I have twins. Google 3yr olds are assholes. Lol A lady wrote an article on her perception of her children when they were 3years old.

On the other hand, I can relate with you and your sons behaviour. Dinner time isn't pleasant, she throws all her food. Why bother giving them a fork or anything. It ends up on the floor on mommy (me) daddy, table etc. I just know its a phase and need to be patient with her.

Bec - posted on 03/11/2011

5

25

0

Amanda my daughter is doing the spitting as well i just take her drink off her and walk away i do the same if she is chucking a tantrum i usually tell her to stop crying and after i repeat myself a few times she stops and then ill tell her why i told her off but before she can have her drink back but she has to say sorry mummy before she gets nit back and she does it again i just repea the same steps it is really hard because i know if we r out in public i dont likev telling her off so when we get home she thnks she can get away with it but now i have stopped doing that and no matter where we are she gets told off for doing something wrong. It is really hard and stressfull i feel ur pain but you really need to stick with it and dont backdown you need to let them know that you are boss and what you say goes. eventually they do get the idea u just got to find something that works. It took us a good few months to get her to understand that if she is naughty its strait in the naughty corner and we use to stand behind her and if she got up we had to make her sit back down and face the wall i know that sounds nasty but in the long run it now works for us and if we are out we warn her and she stops all together so please stick with it, it does take time and its not easy but eventually they will et the hang of it.

Jasmine - posted on 03/08/2011

1

8

0

OMG! my son is doing the same thing. I seems like the more I punish him the more he acts out. But what I've noticed works is over-encouragement of the things that he does right. Even though he's actong out he still wants to please you, so what i've learned is that if he wipes up a mess that he made or waits patiently in the doctor's office I give him a lot of praise. And once he gets into one of those moods just distract him with some game or song or something ( whatever you knnow he likes) as soon as it begins. As far as distroyng the house; I know it might seem sort of wrong but I was watching an episode of this dog training show, and the trainer said that dogs get rowdy and fidgety when they've been inside lot, thats why owners have to take them for walks, the same works for kids. Take them to a park, let them get their engery out and when they get home they wont have the energy to do anything. It works!

Surekha - posted on 03/08/2011

2

19

1

It's so amazing that when you going through something like this you think you alone.... Then you read all the replies and then there's this sigh of relief... when you know all the kids go through this phase!!!

My daughter is 23 mths and the tantrums - boy oh boy!
We can't leave her alone wen she has a tantrum coz she starts hurting herself. She hits, scrathes, screams, throws her body back and can go on for abt 5 min.

I've tried the whole looking into the eyes and disciplining(stern talking) but nothing seems to work. The only thing that seems to work is giving her time.
She eventually calms down and is back to nml. Although time isn't something that i always have...
So i'm always looking to more suggestions.

Bec - posted on 03/05/2011

5

25

0

Hi Amanda
I have 2 kids a 22 month old and a 7 month old my eldest is doing the same thing, she cracks it when she doesnt get what she wants and when we tell her off for doing something she isnt allowed to she completely ignores us and she chucks the biggest tantrums. I understand how stressful this all is especially when ur pregnant there is only 15 months between my 2 and my eldest started all the tantrums and the hitting and the biting when i was pregnant. I know this probably sounds wrong but i got told to smack her back if she smacked me and if she bit me to bite her back obviously not to hard so she would understand how much it hurts and i was running out of things to try and to be honest it did work for me but i also used the naughty corner as well but that has taken over 6 months for her to understand that if she does something wrong that is where she goes. But she just wont listen sometimes i give her 2 warnings and if she doesnt come and talk to me or wont listen then she is strait into the naughty corner and she has her tantrum there untill she stops crying and wants to listen but it is driving me insane im hoping it is just the age and she will grow out of it soon. I hope something works for u soon. But try and take some time out for u cause if you dont then things will only get worse.

Kerri - posted on 03/04/2011

1

21

0

Hi Amanda,
I have two kids, my second is my little boy 23 months. After reading all the comments, the first thing you need to do is get out for a day ALL BY YOURSELF. If you can't manage a day, then go out for a morning or an afternoon. You sound completely stressed out and its not good for you, your son or the little life inside you. I have no idea where you live, but go for a walk on the beach, in a forrest, in a park, somewhere where you can have peace and quite. All the advice you have been given will play through you mind and you find the best solution for how you parent. This is a phase, and I agree with giving no reaction, walk away, when he is calm or when he spits etc, go down to his level ask him to "look at your eyes" and tell him how hurt and dissappointed you are with his behaviour. When the need calls for it, use time out, if he runs away, then use a place in the house where he can't run away e.g. bathroom.
Once you have gathered your energy, have your action plan, then stick to it for 7 to 10 days straight - you will be amazed at the difference. I haven't heard of the video the other lady is talking about, but it sounds great, so give that a try to. Hang in there, you are not alone! Remember to give yourself some time especially over these next few months as this will help you to get through all of this! Good Luck!

Tina - posted on 03/04/2011

27

36

2

I know exactly how you feel my son is almost 2 try putting him in his cot when he pushes his luck it will give you ten minutes to calm down and you know he is contained or if he has a toddler bed get a play pen or travel cot

Samantha - posted on 03/04/2011

13

42

0

i was getting the no legs, toy throwing, headbutts and screams that put chills up your spine!!! ive found that if i ignore the bad attitude and remain firm that it helps but not always. another thing i have tried is to distract him from the problem with an activity, this has worked as well, think our problem was the sugar highs and lows from ribeena, hes now off ribeena on water and alot better!!! im now also taking him to the park for a couple hours running around each day to wear him out, not only is he sleeping better, hes now less noisy at home!!! not so many tantrums now, hope this has helped :-)

Gargi - posted on 03/03/2011

2

11

0

I guess it happens to every child at some stage or the other.Fortunately my son responds well to Time Outs. Though he does roll on the ground at times as a protest but it learns pretty quick that nothing work either :)..Guess a little more patience will help here , if we get agitated then there is no learning. Patience is the key here :) all the best

Mary - posted on 03/03/2011

20

21

4

My son is also a whirlwind of attitude and frustration. I find the best thing i can do is stay calm, if he is screaming i try and talk as quiet as possible, sometimes he copies me, sometimes he screams louder. When i talk to him i go down to eye level, hold both his hands in mine and explain that his behaviour is not ok, he usually tries to wiggle away, but he usually stops the behaviour for at least 10 mins before he starts again. Toddlers just need lots of repetition and posative attention. Hope this helps a :)

Kristina - posted on 03/03/2011

7

55

0

Yes my son does the same thing so don't worry you are not alone. My doctor told me to pick him up and move him tothe carpet but to otherwise let him throw a tantrum and bang his head as long as it is not on the hard floor because the more you pay attention to him good or bad attention he'lll feed off it and continue to get worse. It makes me sick to see him act like this but i must say since i started ignoring him he does it a lot less.

[deleted account]

I put my son in his room when hes not listening and throwing a tantrum, He knows better now and takes himself in there, and comes out for kisses and hugs when hes finished.

Sam - posted on 03/02/2011

1

6

0

my 22 month old is the same way...shes horrible at times and great at times but there is no in between.....i dont know what to do either, i have tried everything. and nothing seems to work....

Karlene - posted on 03/02/2011

2

42

2

thanks or all these suggestions and remarks ladies.....my son Joshua is also 22 months and even last night i was wondering when this stage would end. It's frustrating his dad and i, we work and get home and would love to get things done, but we also have to ensure that he gets his time. his dad is not as active as i am, as he has an illness that affects his bones and movement, so i'm the one running behind him most times. trying to get him under control is real difficult and i've tried almost everything mentioned here, but he never stops unless he's asleep. he runs upstairs or drags me upstairs to bathe in the tub at all hours of night and uses chairs to climb up to reach stuff that has been moved out of his reach. The worst part is when he doesn't get his way he cries so hard until his nose runs and he keeps asking 'why' in that whiny voice. No matter how we try to keep him out of harm's way he goes straight to the danger. Last night he went to bed at 11:00pm after hours of our attempts to get him into bed. Reading stories, having him listen to his teddy bear singing a sleepy song, me personally singing to him, daddy trying to talk with him about his day and lying down with him, nothing worked. Eventually he fell asleep beside me in the couch. So this morning i was thinking about how to cope through it all and turned on the computer and saw all the comments. i feel a little better knowing that i'm not alone. Thanks guys

Megan-louise - posted on 03/01/2011

3

24

1

hiya amanda u poor bug x when he throws his tantrums do u speak to him at all as if you tryed ignoring him he may just think ooh no attention from mummy as he head banging to get attention for whatever reason, we have a naughty step and we put r little girl on it if she attacks her brother and she just 22mths we have a little boy to and he was just 4 other day and he just startedthrowing tantrums and i comppletely ignore him he gets a waring then if he dosent stop he goes in the kitchen by the bck door away from everything he is learning very fast he shows off or wacks his sister he is on it x

Michelle - posted on 03/01/2011

1

15

0

oh this sounds sooooo familiar, Alisha will be 23 months this week but hit the terrible 2's months ago. She seems 2be into everything much earlier, like walking at 9 months so she's always bn a handful. Now she just throws major temper tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants, throws her bottle at anybody who's closest and demands her 'doodoo' (juice).She climbs on my table, pours her milk over it and jumps in it thinking it's funny. I could go on but the list is exhausting (as am i!) and she really knows how 2wind up her big sisters as well. And yes she tears my house apart on a daily basis even when i try 2 focus her on things like 'drawing' pictures. Her latest one is trying 2 put washing powder in the washing machine and getting it everywhere :( Hopefully it'll get better soon and i won't even start on bedtime........

Josephine - posted on 03/01/2011

11

28

0

my daughter is also 22 months old, and it seems that overnight, she has become stubborn beyond belief...and she refuses to eat anything anymore but waffles, scrambled eggs or snacks (crackers, etc) it can become VERY frustrating i know...she doesnt have tantrums, but i am familiar with those as well....the best advice is to simply ignore it when he starts...walk away, divert your eyes, and move on...he is trying to test the boundaries and get your attention...once he realizes you arent giving in, he will stop....if you are in a mall, or public place, simply remove him from the situation quietly and calmly and take him outside for a "regroup" ....it takes nerves of steel to raise these kids!!!! you are not alone!

Bunni - posted on 02/28/2011

20

12

3

i am having the same issues with my 22 month old twin boys, and whenever they misbehave, their brother starts to encourage him and laugh at his behavour.. its incredibly frustrating, at the moment im just ignoreing the tantrums, and the spitting gets their sippy cups taken off them(because if they were truly thirsty, they wouldnt be spitting it out,plus there is a serious water shortage in my city at the moment, so theyll let ya no when they are really thirsty) i also use 'time out' just to remove them from the situation and have a minute to calm down (but i live in christchurch, new zealand so in recent months, especially this last week, time outs have kinda stoped due to earthquakes), so they are currently getting away with alot, but surprisingly they are very well behaved at the moment, because they do understand alot at their age, and they no at the moment its to dangerous to misbehave too much, and they never leave my side. just remember this stage will pass, and its frustrateing, but things could always be alot worse, what has worked for me to stay calm recently is to tune out the tantrums, and think about how lucky we are to have these gawgeous wee toddlers, and everyday together is special, even the hard parts of the day!

Ferzana - posted on 02/28/2011

3

33

0

Hi,
I know exactly what you going through. I have the exact same problem with my 22yr old son...and he just throws tantrums when he doesnt get his way. I'm also going crazy...don't know what to do.

Christi - posted on 02/28/2011

31

24

0

There is a book called "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" that has some good suggestions. Sometimes acknowledging their feelings helps. Good luck!

Samantha - posted on 02/28/2011

9

3

0

my 22 month old boy is a handful too, he hits, throws, kicks, screams, etc! i find a lot of his behaviour is for my attaention so i put him in the bedroom and close the stair gate on him. some days we are up and down the stairs like a yoyo others he goes in once or wice. if its attention he is craving try giving him positive attantion rather than negative, try geeting out toys and playing with him at his level then if he starts with unwanted behaviour take your attention away from him.
it is very difficult and they don't give up before your ready to but if you stick at it it will get better. ihave a 4 year old son too and they bounce off each other but this method has really helped calm them both down a bit.
hope it helps.

Shannon - posted on 02/27/2011

1

11

0

Were dealing with the same issues from our 22 month boy. Some days I just want to cry. I've tried it all. What works best for us is time out for just like 3 min. I set the timer and when it buzzes he knows its over. Now don't misunderstand. This doesn't stop him from doing something again in 10 minutes. Even though it may seem at times im talking to the wall I do talk to tristen alot and explain what he's done wrong. Some of it has to sink in im thinking. We also try to ignore tantrums. If were at home I just walk away. Im a mother of a soon to be 17 yr old daughter and 11 yr daughter and the girls never behaved like this little guy. My husband is 51 and raised 2 sons and a daughter and we both truley believe when we were younger parents we were more upright over child behaviors and we've learned to lighten up some and not get so terriably upset over every thing he does. He is only 22 months and these issues will soon pass and he will be grown before you know it. I know its hard at times but just cherish them and enjoy the silly things that they do. My little one just dumped out the entire bowl of catfood that I had sitting up high out of reach until he climbed his toys to reach it. Years ago I would had flipped. Tonight we just swept it up laughing about how clever he was to figure out how to do that. Needless to say I found another place for the cat food bowl..lol..I will only laugh at that once!!!

CaSandra - posted on 02/27/2011

1

0

0

My daughter is the same not as bad but she does try to do whatever she wants whenever... I tell her to either not do that or dont get into the frig and for some reason she thinks she can... When i tell her no she hits me, im going crazy to with it because im expecting again and im just not in the mood to deal with it..

Claire - posted on 02/27/2011

2

5

0

oh my god im so glad its not just me! my son is the same but hes started slapping me in the face when i say no about anything, im at my wits end. hopefully its just a phase, i just try to take as much free time as i can so i dot actually lose my mind!

Julie - posted on 02/26/2011

2

1

0

My daughter is the same age and when she throws a little tantrum, i ignore it while still keeping on eye on her. She seems to get over it quicker than when i pay attention to the behaviour at the time.

Misty - posted on 02/26/2011

1

3

0

Boys are so much harder to control than girls are. I have a 6 year old daughter and a 22 month old son.. She was so much more passive at this age and he is a little terror at times. He is so much more adventerous and loves to do what you tell him not to do. Usually when he doesnt get what he wants, he throws a fit and I just let him. If I think he will hurt himself I will move him to a different location and let him finish throwing his fit. Time outs dont work for him either. Terrible twos have deff. started early.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/25/2011

2

5

0

He's normal. My daughter totally wants to do her own thing. She asked to be picked up and then immediately wants to be put back down. Maybe with the spitting, just remove the liquid he's spitting out and let him know that it's not okay. When he can drink it nicely he gets it back. He's just experimenting. It's super frustrating, but we all deal with it and supposedly it eventually gets better...like when they are learning to drive I think. :)

Nora - posted on 02/25/2011

9

40

0

I rented a copy of the video from our neighborhood library. Netflix might have it. Or you could try Amazon. There is a book to go along with it, but the video will help more immediately.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/25/2011

2

5

0

We're going through the same thing. My daughter is 22 months and she gets frustrated and mad sooooo fast. It's worse on days that both of us are actually home with her. Last night for example my husband just teasingly said her name in a deeper voice (don't tease your toddler!) and she screamed for five minutes and wouldn't let go of me. Of course now I'm the bad parent who let her cry, according to him. Funny thing is I took her out of the room and she calmed down. He followed and she started crying again. I told him to leave again and she stopped like nothing was wrong. She was just mad at him, so apparently removing the trigger and distracting them works... I don't know. I feel your pain. She'll lay down when she wants something and then bangs her head on the floor to make herself cry. It's really hard for me not to pick her up when she's hurt, but I probably need to work on that so she won't do it. People say it gets better by 4 years old... *sigh*

Meagen - posted on 02/24/2011

10

37

0

When my daughter Torre who is 22 mths old throws a fit I just ignore her but she just throws herself down and kicks her feet. One of my friends bought one of those flexible gates and placed in around a corner so that when she put her child in time out they would not be able to get out. That worked really well with her daughter. Often times with kids act out this way they want more attention from the parent. You just have to remember to be firm because you are the parent and he is that child. Pick just one punishment whatever it may be and be consistent with it bc if you change it then that is confusing for the child.

Holly - posted on 02/24/2011

2

4

0

I'm having the same problem! My Daughter is turning two on April Fool's Day and gosh I can't get her to listen for anything. She will tip her sippy over and watch the drink drip out onto my table, she throws her food, gets into anything and everything i tell her not to no matter what I do. So I hate to say I have no advice but I could sure use some!

Balerie - posted on 02/24/2011

1

8

0

My son's is doing the same thing. What I do is walk away. Because ultimately he's trying to get your attention. So when he realizes that you're no longer paying attention to his negative behavior, he'll eventually quit his tandrum and walk up to me, give me a hug and a kiss. This is when I finally acknowledge him, when he's doing something positive, NOT negative. Hope this helps:D

Nora - posted on 02/24/2011

9

40

0

Amanda, you really need to watch the happiest toddler on the block. All of this stuff is addressed and given solutions in the video. You'll be surprised how much sense it makes.

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2011

300

28

9

When my son does something he's not suppose to do I try to distract him with something he can do it doesn't work & when he does throw his tantrum I will try to hold him & calm him down but He doesn't want me to hold him..He is his own little person that wants to do his own little thing..I have tried to just sing to him & dance with him but he won't let me like I said he wants to do his own little thing..My son is not a normal toddler that wants mommy's attention 24/7 I think he might have adhd also the only time he really wants my attention is when I'm watching my Niece..How am I suppose to ignore his spitting I do ignore it half the time but when he's spitting his milk out onto the cat or end table or anything I get onto him about it but he won't quit

Miza - posted on 02/23/2011

7

30

0

Hi Amanda. *hugs* You must be frustrated and worried all together. With our lil 22 mo we use lots of distractions. Ignore and not to react to "unwanted behaviour" (e.g turn your back, or face). Key is to not react in positive or negative way. No eye contact either. It takes time but he'll finally get it. It doesn't get him any attention (positive nor negative) for spitting. Right now he must have loads of information processing to do. By your reactions (especially verbally) it just adds to more information processing for him. Every explanation or instruction you give him, he is no longer processing them instead it becomes "noises" to him. And that's another stimuli. I'd suggest a big hug (even if he struggles), carry and distract (perhaps to the window, "Mommy can see a bird! Can you?"), sing and dance his favourite song, rub his back to calm him down, look at picture books or any other activity he enjoys and provides distraction. Our lil girl loves singalongs so she responds so well when we start singing during one of her tantrums. Big hugs, tickles and rolling on the floor together are her favs too. Hope this helps Amanda. My thoughts with you. Hope preggie goes well too!

Nora - posted on 02/23/2011

9

40

0

I just watched "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp. I HIGHLY recommend it. I think it will really help you out a lot.

Amanda - posted on 02/23/2011

300

28

9

Rebecca how do I help him deal with his frustration? A lot of his behavior is because he can't get what he wants if I give him what he wants he's a happy little boy..I do have 1 major issue with him is he likes to spit and if I give him something to drink in his sippy he will spit it out he's always dumping his food out or if he grabs my pop without me looking he will dump it out..I don't know what I did wrong I try to discipline him but its hard

Katie - posted on 02/23/2011

1

15

0

im going through the same thing with my daughter. She wont listen to anything mommy says, but when daddys around shes listens! It drives me insane because when i take her places just me and her, if she doesnt get what she wants she throws herself on the floor and throws a tantrum. I try punishing her but she could care less. Also she loves to tell me NO! I dont know what im doin wrong but we have another on the way and im in desperate need of some help with her! any suggestions please dont hesitate!

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2011

300

28

9

If he hits me & i'll say ouch or it hurts he laughs and continues doing it...I just found out that I'm pregnant again & I don't know if he's getting worse cause he's senses it out what..I know a lot of toddlers can sense stuff like that...He is really temper mental towards me & I think he's doing a lot of stuff for attention..I can't sit on the couch or anything i always have to sit at my computer desk cause once I move he climbs on my desk and gets into everything...I don't know what to do anymore

[deleted account]

We are going through the same thing at our house. Our son is really into hitting anything that can't get out of his reach. What has worked for us is to say "don't do that, it hurts me" then distract him or move him onto something else. Though it's hard you just have to be firm. Hope it starts to go better for you.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms