worried about milestones

Laurie - posted on 03/21/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I may just be a paranoid mom, but my daughter doesn't seem to be where others would be at this point. She was 5 weeks early due to IUGR but up until she was about 9 months met most milestones on time or a couple weeks late.



She is now 11m. Although she does things such as clap, grasp small objects and roll all over there are things she can't do. She doesn't cruise at all, can't sit up from a laying position or visa versa,doesn't pull up, won't walk while we hold her hands(she stands stiff legged). She also twirls her hands and feet whenever she is talked to or excited, hears music, watches TV etc. She doesn't say any words and only babbles a little bit(grunts and screams a lot).



I'm starting to get a little worried as most kids her age that we are around are much more advanced and I have never really seen a kid twirl their hands and feet like that. Obviously I'll bring this up at her 12m appointment, but I'm contemplating calling her physical therapist back. (she used to go as part of a preemie program but at her 9m appointment her doctor said she was doing well enough not to go anymore). Now I'm regretting we quit the program!



Any input would be appreciated.

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Kerry - posted on 03/26/2010

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i wouldnt be worried my lil boy who is 11 months can cruise cruse and pull himself up but he carnt clap his hands or wave bye bye and he babbles i wouldnt say he actualy says words

LaNesha - posted on 03/25/2010

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I know how you feel, my daughter who is now 4 was 6 weeks early because of IUGR.
I was worried about her for quite a while but she is in pre-k now doing well and is not behind at all. Just hang in there and your little one will be fine.

Beth - posted on 03/24/2010

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I wouldn't worry too much especially if she was early both my kids were preemies now 11months and the other 7 yrs. My 7 yr old was born at 25 weeks and didn't even begin to walk or crawl until after she turned 2 and now at 7 has caught up and even exceeded most kids her age she is still very small for her age but has progressed very well. My son just turned 11 months and was born at 29 weeks and is slowly catching up he is just now learning to roll and move around and respond to us but wants nothing to do with crawling. In most states there is a program called Birth to 3 and in some states it's called Early Intervention. You can talk to you pedi about getting her into a program like that they will help teach you the things you can do to get your little one on the right track and things to do to keep her legs from getting stiff. I would talk to your pedi about it because even though you may have quit the program because they felt she was doing fine you can always get her back in. I'm sure in time she will catch up and even exceed your expectations!! I know both my kids have!!

Georgie - posted on 03/23/2010

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My son will be 11 months on Friday, and was born 5 weeks early. He only started sitting at 8months, and has no desire to crawl or pull himself up yet. All babies are differernt and will get there in their own time. If they were premature things take a little longer too. Try not to worry.

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2010

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My 11 month old babies are not pulling themselves up or crawling yet either!! There is no need to worry, but if you are going to worry anyway it doesn't hurt to call. I am not sure how most states do things, but here in WI we call the county birth to three program. They do free assessments of babies whose parents have some concerns. I called and had an appointment last week. One of my twins qualified to have an evaluation to see if she qualifies for services, but this is because she is not sitting up on her own at all (she has other medical problems also) but the healthy twin who is not crawling or pulling self up to sitting did not qualify. Hope this helps!

Romy - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter does the same thing! She twists her hands and wiggles her feet when excited. She is a champion sitter/reacher, but does not cruise at all, just started jumping and down when standing supported, will occasionally scoot backwards on her tummy and has yet to crawl. Phew-your first paragraph describes her! Isla is very vocal and says "da-da and kit-caa (cat)" She makes all kinds of noises. She can pick up the smallest thing and put it in her mouth. I am a little worried about her not moving about, but I didn't crawl until 11 months and then went right to walking. She doesn't move at daycare because, apparently, all the other kids bring her things. At home we don't have much to hold on and cruise around on. I think she's nervous about moving...she loves music and "dances" by moving her upper body. She loves to shake rattles. Oh-she can't sit up from a lying position either. I am going to double check on all of this on her 12mth. appt. She was 3 weeks early, but not considered preemie.

Tessa - posted on 03/22/2010

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I agree. It is so hard to not compare babies. My cousin has a daughter that was born the day before mine and she is already walking, has 6 teeth, and is so much bigger than my daughter. It is a little unnerving sometimes, but I have to remember that my daughter was born early.
I think calling the physical therapist is a good idea. It never hurts to get a second opinion. If for no other reason, it will help to reassure you a little.
I wish you all the best.

Laurie - posted on 03/22/2010

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Thanks so much for the reassurance! I really needed it. I'm kind of loving that she isn't crawling and can sit in one place for a long time. It's only a matter of time before she's tearing through this place like a tornado. But it's hard not to compare babies sometimes.

Trish - posted on 03/22/2010

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louise, yes my bub crawled backwards for ages too, I thought she'd never crawl forwards & now she does & is sooo fast, hard to keep up with her now. you're right, they all develop differently, the milestones are just a general guide. good to know we can always contact the baby health nurses whenever we're in doubt.

Louise - posted on 03/22/2010

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my daughter used to do the twirling thing with her hands and feet and id never seen it before but she doesnt do it now.

All children develop at different ages so i wouldnt worry too much. I thought my daughter would never roll over, she started doing it at 10 months is now 11 and a half. she also crawled backwards for ages and wouldnt go forwards. now she does everthing apart from walk and i miss when i didnt have to keep an eye on her all the time!!

my friend has a baby that was 9 weeks early and shes nearly a year now and shes not crawling or standing up yet.

If your really worries talk to the health visitor but im sure it will all come on at once

Louise - posted on 03/22/2010

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hi my daughter has only just started to sit up and i was getting concerned my health vistor told me to visit the doctor so i did and she got caitlyn refered to the hospital so while we were waiting for the appintment she started to sit up on her own they will do things in their own time

Trish - posted on 03/22/2010

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Well Laurie, I wouldn't worry too much, I think twirlling her hands is actually quite an accomplishment, if she is able to rotate, move both arms at once, which is good motorskills I would think. I've notice the bubs that tend to be up & more mobile younger are the smaller bodied ones, which didn't put on the weight early like most bubs, due to colic & acid reflux like my bub. I know of 11mth bubs still not crawling properly, they tend to be bigger, chubby bubs which slim down & catchup on their milestones soon after their first birthday. I really wouldn't worry, but I know it is hard not to, I obsessed over my bubs lite weight for her first 7mths, she eventually put it on when she started on solids, but it is hard not to worry with your first like us. As I keep getting told by everyone, each bub is different, they get there at their own pace, they'll be often more advance in one area & somewhat behind in others, which will be the same right through their childhood, which makes them unique. I hope I've put your mind a little at ease.

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