stressing bout being a first time mommy......!

Haley - posted on 05/19/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




so i just had a beautiful baby boy named Owen on April 12th, but i have these crazy up and down emotions, anxiety, && one second or a couple of days i will be completely fine then the next im not okay and dont want the dad to leave me to go hangout with his friends is it just me or is this okay for me to be feeling like this??


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Cierra - posted on 05/21/2010




Ok sure...take medication for an emotional issue, but read the side effects first and weigh the pros and cons.

Have you ever seen those commercials where they are required to list known side effects and it ends causing more problems than it's treating (i.e. Zoloft

All medicines may cause side effects, but many people have no, or minor, side effects. Check with your doctor if any of these most COMMON side effects persist or become bothersome when using Zoloft:

Anxiety; constipation; decreased sexual desire or ability; diarrhea; dizziness; drowsiness; dry mouth; increased sweating; loss of appetite; nausea; nervousness; stomach upset; tiredness; trouble sleeping; vomiting; weight loss.

Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur when using Zoloft:
Severe allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); bizarre behavior; black or bloody stools; chest pain; confusion; decreased bladder control; decreased concentration; decreased coordination; exaggerated reflexes; fainting; fast or irregular heartbeat; fever; hallucinations; memory loss; new or worsening agitation, panic attacks, aggressiveness, impulsiveness, irritability, hostility, exaggerated feeling of well-being, restlessness, or inability to sit still; persistent or severe ringing in the ears; persistent, painful erection; red, swollen, blistered, or peeling skin; seizures; severe or persistent anxiety or trouble sleeping; severe or persistent headache; stomach pain; suicidal thoughts or attempts; tremor; unusual bruising or bleeding; unusual or severe mental or mood changes; unusual weakness; vision changes; worsening of depression.)

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Staci - posted on 05/21/2010




There are antidepressants that are proven to be safe when you are nursing...Zoloft is one of them. If medication is what you feel is best for you, do it...

I had severe postpartum after my first child and Zoloft was fantastic for me. It helped me to be able to be emotionally available to both my child and my husband. Without it, I was a wreck. Sure there are side-effects to any medication, but postpartum untreated isn't healthy for you or your child - if you choose not to use mediation, make sure to talk to a mental health professional or a support group for moms.

Cierra - posted on 05/20/2010




Don't take drugs of any kind if you are nursing, a lot of the anxiety will happen if you do not have full understanding of a situation and you feel like you've lost your life or relationship with the dad and others. You might try talking with the dad or finding a friend of similar interests (with kids of course) that you can spend time with. Good luck! :)

Staci - posted on 05/20/2010




It sounds like you have some postpartum depression/anxiety. Talk to your OB about a prescription for an anti-depressant. It is really common that women experience these emotions and we are lucky enough to live in a time when medications are available to help us.

Susan - posted on 05/20/2010




It is normal to have a wide range of emotions, just make sure if you start getting depressed you talk to your OB, you might be getting postpartum depression. A very high percent of women get this and it passes no problem.

But as far as your husband going out, make sure you get a chance to get out every now and again too. I trade off with my hubby. He gets to go do something like fishing for a few hours, then I get to get out and go shopping or have lunch with a friend. It's important that you get that time some too.

Tracey - posted on 05/20/2010




I think its all normal, is quite a big life change for you and to have responsibility for some one else is huge, I get a bit panicky when my hubby goes out, but i think its just in case i need the support if something new arises. He's just been away for work the past three days and its been really hard work with a 6 week old and active 2 and half year toddler, but i have managed and so will you. Plus you still have loads of pregnancy hormones still in your system, they start to decrease by week 6, so your emotions will be out of whack.

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