Has anyone tried the No-Cry Sleep Solution book?

Tameka - posted on 12/13/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi all, next year I will be starting back at work and my youngest (first birthday on Christmas Day!!) will be going to daycare. The only problems with this is I nurse her to sleep and she HATES cots/cribs (I cosleep). Elizabeth Pantley's book explains very well how to slowly teach your baby/child to go to sleep by themselves in a cot but reading a book is very different than actually following it. Has anyone used it before and had/had not have success with it? Thanks heaps.

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Tameka - posted on 12/26/2010

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I've had the book for the last 8 months but have not really given it a good go. The book tells you how to change their habits when I needed (still do, actually...) a way to get my daughter to sleep. I'm still yet to find a way to get my daughter to go to sleep. The standard rocking, patting etc doesn't work. Nursing her only works some times and takes 2-3hrs... I still have a very tired baby who fights sleep and would rather scream than drift off.

Mary Renee - posted on 12/26/2010

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I got it for Christmas and started reading it. But you need to do the logs to track they're sleeping before hand. I don't know if it's just the kind of "learner" I am, but I would definitely invest the time in keeping a log for a week. I am a lot more disciplined when I write things down.

Good luck! I also nurse my daughter to sleep and am I trying to get out of the habit! The author did the same thing with her LO so I'm hoping it works!!!!!!

Claire - posted on 12/23/2010

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hi there,
I've been following this book and like it very much. It's definitely worth a try! As Nikki said, it should be fine to have different patterns in the evening and in the day. I found the simple techniques so that bub does not fall asleep on the breast (touching the chin for example) really worked. But as you say, going from co-sleeping and breastfeeding to sleep to sleeping alone in a cot will take a little while...
You know, the other thing that might happen with a daycare that does not have enough staff to give personal attention to the babies is that she'll become a lot more clingy and cry more when she's with you - I've had that experience just leaving my son with my Mom. According to some friends, the attitude does not change, they don't get "used to it". From what I understand, it is best to transition to daycare by being with her for the first few times - so she can get to know the carers. And it is best if the carers have time to give her cuddles and attention, especially at the start.
My cousin has a lady that keeps her child and another baby, she alternates between my cousin's flat and the other baby's flat. It works really well. Maybe you can find something like that?? But I do like Sally's suggestion!!
good luck
claire

Sally - posted on 12/22/2010

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Could you start a small daycare to earn money while staying with your kids. I've babysat neighbor kids for extra cash. I just rocked their babies while I nursed mine and everyone went to sleep happy. Different states have different rules and it might not be worth your time and hassle. Or perhaps you could create a childcare co-op with other parents in your area who would like gentler child care options also.
Good luck

Tameka - posted on 12/14/2010

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I wish there was another option. All daycare centres are like this and so are the family/home daycare places. I understand and respect that they don't have the staff to sit with a baby patting them to sleep for half an hour or more. My husband and I are in the Navy so our nearest relative is a 5 hour car trip away so that option is out.

My financial situation is forcing me back to work otherwise I wouldn't bother trying to change my daughter's sleep habits.

Minnie - posted on 12/14/2010

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Yeah, it doesn't sound like a situation that I would be personally comfortable sending my children to. Are there any other options for you, Tameka?

I have the No Cry Sleep Solution sitting on my shelf. I tried some of her suggestions for a night and it didn't sit right with me. I'm not in your position though.

But I do recommend it to mothers as an option when they are desperate. It IS a sleep training book, after all, but a gentle one, at least.

Tameka - posted on 12/14/2010

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I'm really nervous about sending her (moreso than I was with my first!!) as she will NOT go to sleep for anyone but me. She is very anti-people and rather clingy to me. She even pushes my husband/her daddy away!! I've tried leaving her with other people but always get 'the call' around an hour later saying that she has not stopped crying since I left the room can I please come back.

The daycare centres in my town have the same sleep idea: all babies need to know to self settle/self soothe because there is not enough carers to rock a fussy baby to sleep. They put the baby in the cot, say goodnight and walk off. If the baby doesn't settle then, yes, they go in for cuddle etc but won't spend more than a few minutes with the baby. Essentially this is CIO and I think this method is quite harsh.

I have always wanted to make sure that I send my children to daycare so they have some sort of independance. Such as able to walk and go to sleep on their own. If they can walk then they won't get squashed by older children and if they can fall asleep on their own they won't panic and just have a sleep.

There has to be a way where I can get my daughter to sleep by herself during the day (will bf and cosleep at night) that doesn't involve me doing some form of CIO.

Nikki - posted on 12/14/2010

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I tried it but it didn't really work with my daughter, she is a strong willed little thing. One thing to consider is that you don't need to change how you do things at home necessarily, both you and the day care centre can have your own sleeping routines. You are well within your rights to request that they don't let her cry to sleep, which in my experience doesn't happen anyway because it sets of a chain reaction of crying babies. It maybe easier on you if you keep your routine the way it is.

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