Weaning a STUBBORN 2 1/2 year old!

Jennifer - posted on 11/16/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I would like any advice or tips on weaning my daughter from the breast. She is 2 1/2 and still wants to nurse all the time! I didn't have any problems with my son. I weaned him right before he turned 2 and he cried a bit but got over it in a couple days. I have tried to just have her do it at nap time or bed time, but she constantly tells me she is sleepy. When I try to just comfort her in other ways she throws a tantrum for like 45 minutes every time! Plus, she only wants one side, because she says there's no milk on the other. I really think my body is done. Please help! I'm getting desperate here!


Aleks - posted on 09/16/2011




I have found that my little girl, also 2.5, will want to nurse more frequently if she is not getting enough of "the right kind" of attention for her. Once her emotional needs are met she seems to back of, be less stubborn and less defiant/oppositional, and a whole lotta less DEMANDING.
Is something happening in your life that could be taking away your attention from her?
Her wanting to nurse all the time may be a way of trying to rebalance that lack?
May be????

Just a thought?


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Ally - posted on 01/03/2012




We stopped nursing at 3, a few months ago, when I got pregnant. It just hurt too much! For some reason, stopping because it hurt was okay with my daughter, while at other times when we talked about stopping, she would pitch a major fit. It's been several months, though, and she still talks about them. She says when her brother comes out, she is going to nurse again. I say no, you're all done with that. She doesn't agree. I think we're going to have more of a fight about it when he comes in another few months! Having said that, I'm going to let the fact that the habit isn't there anymore carry us through.

A friend of mine, by contrast, whose daughter just turned 3, had the complete opposite experience. One day her daughter announced that she was done. That seems easy!

There is no one way, is there!

All I can say is that my daughter was more accepting when it was about me needing to stop, as opposed to telling her she needed to stop.

good luck!

Sherri - posted on 12/27/2011




I am dealing with same problem. My 2 1/2 yr old daughter shows no interest in stopping breastfeeding. She goes nuts and has temper tantrums when I tell her no. I always give in cause I can't take the whining. I am still producing, not as much but she always associates sleeping, sitting on couch, etc, as go time and will point tomy breasts and try to peel my top up. I just do not know what to do I want to stop it is driving me nuts.

Mandi - posted on 09/04/2011




im having the same problem my 2 1/2 yr old wont take my excuses either and unlike a bottle or binky u cant just throw em away they r always there!

Mary - posted on 11/18/2010




I just weaned my 2.5 year old. She was pretty accepting of my excuses not to nurse (am pregnant and my breasts are super sore!) after a couple weeks she has stopped asking to breastfeed. I do think setting some limits (e.g. only nursing at nap/bedtime) and sticking to them are a start. It'll be hard at first because she'll be upset, but once you get those rules established you'll feel more in control of your body. Nursing on a more limited schedule would be acceptable to you? Then you could work on eliminating another nursing session. If you can have someone put her down to sleep at bedtime or naptime, then you could stop nursing at one of those times.

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