21 month old refusing naps!!!

Laura - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Help! my 21 month old is starting to refuse naps, it takes her forever to fall aseelp, up to an hour or more. If your suggestion is to cry it out, do not offer it. we do not let her do that because of a stomach condition. so if anyone has suggestions that are not letting her cry it out it would be awesome!!!!


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Sara - posted on 07/22/2009




hi my son is 2 in august and he hasn'had a nap from about 13 months,it doesnt hurt him and occasionally he does want a nap,but generally he just goes to bed at 7:30pm and wakes around 7:30 am,he can get tired around 6ish but we have our mad time which keeps him awake then bath story and bed,it seems to work really good for us,i also dont like kids crying so why not give them what they want which is no nap,hope everything goes well for you .

Anige - posted on 07/10/2009




My daughter does pretty good with her nap at 2pm everyday. However, she does have her days where she screams and I normally wait 30 minutes before I got back in there and get her back up.

Well instead of calling it '' nap time '' maybe you can call it quite time and let her lay on the couch while you sit next to hear with some nice music on or read her a book.

You can always get her up at eight and have no morning naps and then lay her down after lunch time around one pm or so.

Good luck.

Vicky - posted on 07/09/2009




my daughter pretty much stopped having a nap at that age - she now just has a nap if she's woken up early & is really sleepy...

Jana - posted on 06/26/2009




I had this problem about a month ago, my daugher is the same age as yours. Some days I do have to do the cry it out, but you said you can't do that. The other thing s that have worked for me are: I pushed back her nap time an hour so she was extra tired (and no it didn't effect her bedtime) and I gave a 10 min and 5 min. warning before naptime, so there were no surprises. Then, and you may not agree with it, or be able to do it, I would cuddle with my daughter in my bed and we would watch something on animal planet tv. (my daughter doesn't watch cartoons) She loves the zoo, and Animal Planet is like her going to the zoo. She will cuddle with me and can calm herself down and falls alseep without crying.

I tried a couple days without a nap and firgured out real quick that she still needs a nap. But all kids are different so like someone else mantioned, she might not need to nap anymore. I watched a friends daughter (3 yrs old) the other day and she had to have "quite time" I gave her books and she laid in bed until I came an got her. I told her I would be back in about 45 mins, I never heard a peep, but I went and got her like I promised. Her mom said, sometimes she sleeps sometimes she doesn't, but either way, she had a calm break from her day. Maybe "quite time" could be an option.

Good luck with finding something that will work for your family.

Keri - posted on 06/25/2009




Hi...maybe this isn't an option for you, but what about just cutting them out???? If this is for you, you might want to alter her bedtime routine slightly, to allow for a longer bedtime sleep, so as to ensure she's getting the sleep she needs, but if you don't want her to cry for periods of time, and she's refusing to settle, then maybe she'd cope without a nap....or you have a clever little girl who knows how to get her way ;)

My little girl is 22 months old, and sometimes refuses to go for a nap, if she's not asleep by 1.30, I don't let her nap, and instead put her to bed at between 6/6.30pm.....I think in our household it might be time to abolish naps altogether, because we are having trouble with her not being fully ready for bed at her usual time, so for us I would say she's outgrown her normal daytime routine...good luck!! ('',)

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Hi there. I don't know if this will help but it works wonders with my daycare kids....and my little ones as well...

Try a small glass of milk...and soft noise....sometimes I even turn my daughters tv on and turn the sound off....we are also on a really tight schedule.....everything usually happens at the same time every day....so my youngest daughter knows what happens at all times of the day...breakfast, outdoor play time, lunch, thirty minutes of coloring and learning time...then night night time...I always make sure that snack is directly after nap time...my daughter really looks forward to that snack....every day a new treat....I hope that any of these things may help...

I stopped morning naps around 18 months and it makes it a lot smoother of an afternoon

Good Luck to you and if you need anything else feel free to message me... :)

Krista - posted on 05/27/2009




i don't know what you definition of cry it out is, but i have a 21 month old as well who began to refuse naps. staying in the room made him tantrum even harder and i found that if i just gave him a kiss and said nap time and walked out, he would yell for a minute then lay down. i guess it depends on how long your little one would protest, but a minute of crying really shouldn't hurt her tummy, but no, i wouldn't leave for more than a few minutes! it also only took two naps and he stopped refusing to go down. sorry i don't have a suggestion that doesn't involve crying, but babies cry!

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