Sleeping at Night

Jayde - posted on 02/15/2009 ( 52 moms have responded )

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Anybody here have a baby thats still not sleeping through the night? feel like i am the only one in the world lol

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User - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter was up 1-2 times in the night until I started putting her to bed earlier. She goes down anytime between 5:30 and 6:30PM for the night, depending on the day and how tired she is. She wakes to feed sometime between 8-9PM, goes right back to bed and then I dreamfeed at 11pm. She sleeps till 6:30 or 7AM and talks to herself until we go into get her at 7AM, her first feed of the day. Every baby is different but this has worked for us.

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I tried the "white noise" thing last night, it worked okay. My son only woke up twice- instead of the usual 3-4 times. I just turned on a humidifier in his room.

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Jacqueline - posted on 06/13/2011

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i can give you a hint try giving your baby a bath before your baby goes to sleep and rub lotion on your baby it helps my son go to sleep and also try getting the lavender baby wash and lotion from johnson and johnson i hope this helps

Lisa - posted on 03/01/2009

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Quoting Heather:



My six month old is not breast feed and doesn't sleep completely thru the nite either.  He goes to bed between 7 & 8, is up around 11:30 pm and sleeps until 4 am and he is wide awake and ready to start his day.  His doctor said to let him cry until 5:30 and be consistent, every day for 21 days until he's formed a new habit.






Pediatrician said a six month old baby, on solids, at least 17 lbs is capable of sleeping thru the night.  You just need the 21 days of feeding at the SAME TIME every night (for us that's 11 pm..I set an alarm) and then let them wait until 5 am but not past 6 am.  In the mean time his crying is waking our toddler.  Just 18 more days and lots of prayer!






Hi Heather, is the 21day thing working?  My 6mth old twins are still waking between 10pm and 11pm for a feed, then sleeping through till about 5.30am.  Which is not to bad and I can't complain to much except then there are 2 of them to feed at a time so the feeds take twice as long as normal.  On top of this I have our 16mth old daughter to think of and have to try and keep the twins quiet so she can continue to sleep......  I can only pray for the night our twins sleep through from about 8pm.....

Whitney - posted on 03/01/2009

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My little one was getting up a few times during the night and putting herself back to sleep but one time during the night, she was not able to put herself back to sleep. My ped said that babies at 6 months do not need to eat in the middle of the night (it is habit for them and plus it is bad to have the milk on their teeth) and that we need to let her cry it out and she would learn to eat more during the day. We let her cry it out at 7 weeks and it worked so we did it again. It took her 2 nights and the past 2 nights she has slept through! She is a better eater during the day and I have also been letting her fuss it out for naps (previously if she did not go down, I would assume she was not tired and try again later. This was actually making her overtired and therefore was not getting a good nap). So, with her eating better and me enforcing the naps, I have found that it is really helping at night. She takes 2 naps (about 1.5 to 2 hours each) during the day! She has also been crawling around a lot so I think this mobility is making her exhausted! I am not counting n her sleeping through the night every night but I know she can do it and it is a step in the right direction!

Alisha - posted on 03/01/2009

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My daughter is 6mths and she only sleeps through about 3 out of 7 nights. She seems to wake up and want to play, then gets bored and grizzles until you come in and feed her. I am a little worried about this, as I am currently weaning her and don't want to be making bottles when I run out of breastmilk.

Sarah - posted on 02/27/2009

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omg! i'm so glad i'm not the only one up all night! does anyone else have a child getting up 4-8 times a night?

Adele - posted on 02/27/2009

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As has been said, I think babies need to learn how to fall back to sleep on thier own when they awaken in the night without being fed prior to them learning to sleep through the night independently. Therefore I would recommend working on that first and foremost. I have been using the methods in "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child", by Dr. Weisbluth, my little guy falls asleep on his own and I usually only need to go to him once at about 6:00 am or so to breastfeed him and then he gets put back in his crib awake and he goes back to sleep. He goes to bed between 6 and 7 pm each night, according to Dr. W. the more overtired your child is the more s/he will awaken. I find this with my little guy if he goes to bed late he always wakes up more during the night.
Once your little one knows how to fall back to sleep on their own then you may hear them moving around in the night, you may even hear them cry for a minute or two, but they will usually fall back to sleep on their own without feeding. In time they will learn that you are not going to come and feed them and they will stay awake for less and less time. Or at least this is what I find with my little guy. Who wouldn't love to snuggled and be fed hot milk each time they awakened, sometimes it becomes more of a habit then a need to really be fed.
Also my ped. recommended ensuring that my son's food needs were met during the day (which for him means feeding about every 3 hours and now he has solids twice a day but it is hardly any). He also recommends not going to your baby unless they are crying in the night, so although you may hear them awake it isn't always necessary to go into them.
Honestly though I wish you all luck with getting your little ones to sleep through the night. Sleep dep. can drive you crazy. So I recommend reading Dr. W.'s book and hopefully sooner rather than later your little ones will begin sleeping more.

Sara - posted on 02/27/2009

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Quoting Palma:

Sara, can you tell me more about the sleepeasy solution? How does it work?


Essentially, you look over your child's sleep habits - timing, associations, environment - and plan out a routine and "least cry" method of helping them learn to put themselves to sleep.  The method is pretty straight forward for bedtime and naptime.  They also give a great method of night-weaning that is gradual and doesn't affect milk supply. 



There are a lot of elements they have you look at, so it's a litle difficult to explain in one post.  I recommend getting the book if you can.  www.sleepyplanet.com

Sara - posted on 02/27/2009

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We were having the same issues with sleep as most of you. I looked into Ferber, but it seemed too aggressive. We tried Sleepeasy Solution instead (same principle, just a little gentler), and it's worked wonders. The night weaning is almost done - which is good, since I go back to work in a few days - and he's self-soothing to sleep after no more than 10 minutes of fussing. Took us about a week.
The lack of sleep is tough. I wish everyone much luck :)

Lauren - posted on 02/27/2009

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Quoting Anna:



You mentioned the Ferber method.  I am contemplating buying the book.  Has it worked for anyone else?






I bought the book too.  There is a Ferber community on circle of moms.  The mom who started but a real nice description and said she would help in anyway. 



 



My daughter was sleeping through the night.  Now she is up 1-2 times. 

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My son still sleeps with me too. I deperately want him to sleep in his crib, and he will for an hour or two at the most, and then wake up crying. I'm hesitant to let him cry it out because I'm afraid he'll wake up my 3 year old, who wakes up halfway through the night as it is. Needless to say, I don't get much sleep at all...and some days it just kills me! Helllllp!!

Alizbeth - posted on 02/26/2009

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It makes me sad that he is not sleeping yet, but it helps to know that there are other children out there that are the same. I'm trying to space out his feeding during the day so he wont want to eat as much at night. Also we think he might have a reflux problem. 

Sarah - posted on 02/26/2009

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Quoting Laura:



Quoting Brie:




Ughh....our daughter WAS sleeping through the night, only getting up once at 5 am to eat, then went back to bed until 9. As soon as she started teething, she began getting up every 2-3 hours!! I am going crazy from lack of sleep, and I don't know what to do :\









same here!!! lol





you's are not alone, my baby is 6month old and used to sleep most of night now he is up 5-6 times at least throughout the night..when you work out what settles them let me no please lol

Hayley - posted on 02/26/2009

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Yay! I dont feel so alone anymore! I felt like everyones baby was sleeping through but mine!!! THANKS xx

Cindy - posted on 02/25/2009

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Wow, do feel better that their are so many of us! Also felt like the only one. My lo goes to bed at around 7, then wakes between 11.30 and 1.30 for a feed, then just wakes up again twice during the night, just pat him to sleep again and then he sleeps agian. My duaghter woke up for her bottle till she was a year!

Anna - posted on 02/24/2009

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I've been doing the Ferber method for  a week now and feedings have been cut down from every 2 hours to once a night!!  wooohoooo!!!! I could cut back on all feedings but I"ve chosen to do it gradually. By the end of the week tho I"m gonna aim for no feeds from bedtime to morning *big sigh of relief*

Alizbeth - posted on 02/21/2009

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Mine is teething and has a problem with being put down. He is not sleeping through the night yet. 

Jody - posted on 02/21/2009

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I am right there with ya.  Mason still gets up every 3-4 hours.  The pediatrician said some babies prefer smaller feedings more often (he doesn't eat more than 4-5 oz at a time).  Lucky us...LOL

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I was having quite a time with my son. I subscribed to a program at sleepsense.net. It focuses on getting a routine going that cues your baby that it is time to sleep and then helping the baby learn how to soothe themselves by being present but not a crutch. He is only waking up once around 3 am now. What helped the most was putting him to bed earlier. He was going down between 9 and 10:30 and now we put him in his crib around 7:30 and he is sleeping until 7am with just the one wake-up. Having time to myself to unwind has helped just as much as getting some consolidated sleep!

Lisa - posted on 02/19/2009

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Quoting Jayde:

Sleeping at Night

Anybody here have a baby thats still not sleeping through the night? feel like i am the only one in the world lol


my son is almost 6 months old and is not sleeping through the night, either.  Sometimes (like 3 so far) he has slept 6 hrs srtaight, but mostly I am getting up to nurse him about every 2 hrs.  There are also the nights where he will not stay down more than 1 hour at a time!!  



 



I can't believe that I can bet by on so little sleep!!  Good luck, just know you are not alone...

Whitney - posted on 02/19/2009

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It worked for us in terms of helping her put herself back to sleep when she gets up at night but she is still not sleeping through the night. She goes down at 8 and gets up a few times but puts herself back down but would eat once during the night. She has recently moved her night feeding to 5 in the morning (for some reason she is not able to put herself back down then) but she typically eats and requires me to rock her a bit before she goes back to sleep until around 7 or 8. No need to buy the book, there is info online about it but you pretty much let your child cry and go in at different intervals (whatever is comfortable for you) but I think it is 5 minutes and then you gradually increase the intervals. Hope this helps. Just google the ferber method and you will get tons of results.

User - posted on 02/19/2009

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Quoting Anna:



You mentioned the Ferber method.  I am contemplating buying the book.  Has it worked for anyone else?






I have had a lot of mom's recommend his book. I think it helps out a lot if you are willing to let your baby cry a little . I do like how it is a gradual approach which helps. But I know that a lot of mom's also say that they do have to retrain their baby if changes in their routine occur. Such as moving, going on vacation, being sick, and teething. I should probably retrain my son and that is why I am having the troubles with his sleep right now. But it is hard to want to go through that again and I think a lot of mom's feel the same way and just deal with getting up several times during the night. I didn't follow his plan completely because I use a binky to calm my son down and he doesn't recommend using anything but to let them self sooth. It is worth a try though it helped us out I just have to get up the courage to try again.

Anna - posted on 02/19/2009

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You mentioned the Ferber method.  I am contemplating buying the book.  Has it worked for anyone else?

User - posted on 02/19/2009

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My son was doing great at sleeping ttough the night he would go down at 7:00 and sleep till 6:00am. He did this for a while until Thanksgiving he started waking up at 4:00am to feed. Now he has been doing that for the past couple of months. I figured I really couldn't complain since that is 8hrs. but then he goes right back to sleep. Now he has started to wake up at 11:00, 1;00, 2:00 and then t oeat at 3:00. I usually give him his binky at the other times. But I am afraid I have started a bad habit. We have a bedtime routine where we put him in his pajamas feed him ( and he usually falls asleep nursing) , read to him, pray with him and then out him down to bed.  We did do a version of the Ferber strategey where we put him down more awake and let him cry till he fell asleep. I probably should start this again but am not looking forward to hearing him cray. Also I heard that I should't be letting him fall asleep nuring but it is a hard habit to break. Any suggestions?  

Anna - posted on 02/19/2009

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Oh thank god I found this message board.  I have a six month old that will not sleep for more than 3 hours while my friends' babies who are only 3 months are sleeping 10 hours straight!!!!  He is breastfed and eating cereal and mushy veggies now so he should not have to feed during the night.  Maybe it is because I am still swaddling him and he cannot self-soothe?  Problem is, he cannot get to sleep if he is not wrapped up tight. Is anyone else still swaddling?





Nicole - posted on 02/19/2009

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My son will be 6 months old soon and he is still up twice a night most nights. He is up long enough to take his bottle then most nights goes right back to sleep, sometimes he stays up for as long as two hours! We're all tired! haha, all we can do is hang in there and wait for those nights when we get a full nights sleep!!

Maria - posted on 02/18/2009

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I feel so much better knowing I am not the only one. I just know when I go into the peds office in 2 weeks she is going to tell me he should be sleeping all night. I'm reassured knowing there are other families going through the same thing.

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2009

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Wow...this is amazing!!  Thank you, ladies for helping me feel "normal".  My 6 month old is right there with all of your babies.  She goes to bed (usually no problem) around 6:30pm...but is then awake and wanting to nurse every 3-4hrs.  Fortunately, I'm awake, at most, 20mins.  At least we all know we're not the only mommies sleep deprived!!  

User - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Brie:



Ughh....our daughter WAS sleeping through the night, only getting up once at 5 am to eat, then went back to bed until 9. As soon as she started teething, she began getting up every 2-3 hours!! I am going crazy from lack of sleep, and I don't know what to do :\





same here!!! lol

Samantha - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter is 6 months and it was such a struggle at first to get her to sleep through the night, maybe try doing the exact same routine night after night and make sure their naps are good during the day

Renee - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son is also a little over 6 months old and gets up around 1130, sometimes around 2, and then around 4 or 5 before I leave for work.  He too is nursing, so I know that is part of it (and the comfort) but he weighs 20 lbs, so his pedi said he shouldn't need to eat more than once at night.



We are trying to work on having him self soothe, sometimes it goes really well, but now he's teething and really congested so it is not going well! 



I too get a lot of flack from my family for not being peppy and cheerful etc.  But seriously I'm tired!  I have my beautiful boy who doesn't like to sleep and then 150 kids at school that I have to take care of too (granted they are much older, so they have a whole different set of issues)

Shaunte - posted on 02/17/2009

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Our 6mth old is not sleeping thru the night yet either and I thought it was only us going thru this, now I know that we are not alone in this journey. Thanks all for sharing.

We have a routine as well bath, bottle and bed occurs from 8ish until 9ish. She most times falls asleep between 9:30 and 9:50, most recently we have been trying to put her to sleep by 8:30. She gets a 4oz bottle before bed and most times she eats it in its entirety.

She will sleep, lately from the time she is laid down for a 5 hr stretch and wake to eat and most nights go back to sleep for a 2-3 hr stretch wake to eat and then back to sleep for a 2 -3 hr stretch before she is up for the morning. The past two nights she is waking up and wanting to play the second time she wakes up this is around 4-5am ish. My husband who has weekend night duty has fed her and allowed her to put self back to sleep if he cant rock her to sleep and surprisingly it has worked. She was up on and off in the crib, no crying just playing for almost an hour before she fell back to sleep. She didnt cry( surprisingly) she was full and cooed and made noises in her crib in the dark until she fell asleep. It was nerve wrecking for me, but it worked.

I will try the 21 days of feeding at the same time....it is worth the try!!

Heather - posted on 02/17/2009

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My six month old is not breast feed and doesn't sleep completely thru the nite either.  He goes to bed between 7 & 8, is up around 11:30 pm and sleeps until 4 am and he is wide awake and ready to start his day.  His doctor said to let him cry until 5:30 and be consistent, every day for 21 days until he's formed a new habit.



Pediatrician said a six month old baby, on solids, at least 17 lbs is capable of sleeping thru the night.  You just need the 21 days of feeding at the SAME TIME every night (for us that's 11 pm..I set an alarm) and then let them wait until 5 am but not past 6 am.  In the mean time his crying is waking our toddler.  Just 18 more days and lots of prayer!

Ashley - posted on 02/17/2009

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my son usually sleeps through the night... but not always... He sometimes gets up for a bottle and then is off to sleep again. I do not let him sleep past 5 pm or he is up all night...he sleeps much better when he has a bath before bed and a nice warm bottle. Hope this helps :)

Whitney - posted on 02/17/2009

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Reese turned 6 months on the 11th! She slept throught he night for about q week straight (12 hours) but then she stopped. She gets up a few times at night but puts herself back to sleep. She has started getting up between 4:00 and 5:00. The doc told me to let her cry it out or to offer her water because it is bad for the milk to sit on her teeth. She said we can do 6 ounces of water but she does not really like it. We have been able to rock her back to sleep the past few nights but last night I gave in and fed her 5 ounces and I am going to gradually decrease it. I don't think she is hungry, it is just a habit! I may have to let her cry it out. The doc said even if she is hungry to let her cry it out and she will learn to eat more during the day.
In regards to self soothing, she is able to do that most of the time. We pretty much taught her to do it at 7 weeks by putting her down drowsy but awake and let her cry. It was awful but worked, I just don't know why she cannot do it at 5:00 am! But, I cannot complain too much because it is only once and sure does beat those every 2 hour nursing sessions!

Maria - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hannah, this is probably not what you want to hear but it is what worked for me. I was only gettign 2-4 hours of sleep a night until I started giving Micah a bottle before bed. I gave him 6 oz of formula with 1-2 table spoons of cereal mixed in. He could then sleep for a good 4 hours (If my daughter didn't wake up screaming with teethign pain:-( ). i was sad the first time, but greatful for the sleep. I also realized that his reflux is not as bad when he is given a bottle (partially becasue of positioning and partially becasue of my diet I think). After seeing him do so much better fro a few weeks I finally weaned him. I cried, but for me it was the right choice. My milk was drying up anyway with the lack of sleep and stress of working I wasn't drinking enough. He was so much happier and slept so much better on the bottle. I'm still up with him to eat once and give him his paci 1-2 times. But it is much better than before. I also lay him down at 8:00 with his paci and Musical Seahorse. He is usually still awake and I just let him talk himself to sleep. If he cries I go in and put the paci back in his mouth but don't pick him up. I will not pick him up again until it has been 4 hours from his last bottle, he just gets the paci.

Maria - posted on 02/16/2009

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Honestly, what bugs me the most is when my family (parents and siblings) keep asking me "what's wrong" or "Are you sick?" I AM TIRED BECAUSE MY BABY DOSEN"T SLEEP AL NIGHT!!!! I feel like I'm a bad mom or somthing becasue he dosn't sleep more than 3-4 hours yet. I know I shouldn't feel that way, but they make me feel like there is somthign wrong. My older daughter didn't sleep through the night until almost 10 months, by then I was 4 month pregnant. It was only a few months later that I got pregnancy insomnia. In the last 2 years I have gotten good sleep for only 4 months. I average 5 -6 hours of broken sleep before gettign up at 5:30 to go to work. In the evenings I feed, bathe, and bed the babies. i feel like I don't even have the time or energy to play with them. I have kept my older one up until 9:00 some nights just to spend some time with her.

Hannah - posted on 02/16/2009

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Is there any solution to this problem behaviour. Can anyone share any self soothing stratergies for breast feed babies

Hannah - posted on 02/16/2009

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Hi I am new to this forum but same old problem - sleepless nights. My Son just turned 6 months and is breast feed so he wakes up every 3 hours nurses for few min and goes to sleep again. My body aches everywhere and feel sluggish during the day time.

Julia - posted on 02/16/2009

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My daughter still wakes up 2 times a night and 7 hrs was the longest she ever slept (it happened 3 times maybe). I am tired from getting up during the night but try to catch up during the day and take little naps.

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You're not alone...my son is 5 1/2 months old and also usually wakes up every couple of hours.  Sometimes he will sleep 3-4 hour stretches every couple of days and he breast feeds usually 2 times per night.



Hey Rebecca - I'd love to hear how you make out with 'the no cry solution book"... I have made it almost 1/2 way thru the book so far and we are trying to work on a more consistent bed time routine.



 

Maria - posted on 02/16/2009

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My little guy is still gettign up at night too. I am workign full time and have a 20 month old as well so I am EXHUSTED!!! I have been tryignt o give him cereal rright before bed but becasue of his reflux he can only have about 6 oz in his stomach at a time which is not enough to get through the night. I keep a bottle of water sittign out with the formula ready to go in it on the side table. I also have a diaper and clean jammies laid out if needed. I always put him to bed awake, so when he is finished eating I just put him right back to bed. I'm awake 20 minutes usually, but once a night isn't to bad.

Rebecca - posted on 02/16/2009

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I am getting up many times too, sometimes she is up every couple hours, sometimes she sleeps 3-4 hour stretches. 6 months of sleep deprivation is getting old! I have been trying things from the no cry sleep solution book, but my husband says Emaline is doing the no sleep cry solution. I am hoping that she starts getting there soon!

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My boy was only getting up once or twice- now it's more like three- four times. My sister told me that once her son learned to put himself to sleep (self soothing) he woke up less often. I'm trying to help my son with this, but he just cries and cries. Anyone have any tips?

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2009

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My son sleeps at most 4 hours and every now and then (maybe once a month) I get 6 hours out of him. I am breast feeeding so that is part of it, but I think he is just active. My mom said I did not sleep through the night until I was about a year old. You are not alone and what does not kill us makes us stronger (at least that is what I try to teel myself at 5am after Gibson has been awake thrre times already!)

Brie - posted on 02/15/2009

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Ughh....our daughter WAS sleeping through the night, only getting up once at 5 am to eat, then went back to bed until 9. As soon as she started teething, she began getting up every 2-3 hours!! I am going crazy from lack of sleep, and I don't know what to do :\

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My daughter is not sleeping through the night, she is breastfed, and is 6 months old. She is still getting up anywhere from 2-4 times a night. I am so tired....

Megan - posted on 02/15/2009

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You're not the only one. My son is six months and he is still getting up at least once if not twice a night.  I keep hoping that one of these nights he will sleep through but it hasn't happened yet.

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