How to prepare your toddler for another baby?

Kimberly - posted on 08/19/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have a 2 year old toddler, and now i am 4 months pregnant of my second child.
People are telling me to prepare him from now on, but how should I do that?
He is so attached to me and his father, that I am scared for jalousy problems.
Any advice on how to prepare him??
Thanks guys!!


Emily - posted on 09/06/2011




My son was 2 when I got pregnant with my daughter. What I did was talk to him frequently about the baby and what to expect. Also, I got him his own baby doll that he could "take care of." He seemed to enjoy changing the baby's diaper.. However, it is really difficult to truly prepare them.. no matter how much you prepare and educate, it's still quite an adjustment when you do bring home the new baby. It helps to give the older one a sense of responsibility so they feel included.. such as having them fetch burp cloths and what-not.


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Havefaith09michaia11 - posted on 09/12/2011




I would get a baby doll and pretend it real. Let him love on him. When he goes for the eye say no eyes be getle. He will get use to seeing you carry a baby, ping it down for naps and to be kind to the new baby. Get the swing and other things out now and tech him its not a toy. I wish I did this with my daughter.

Kimberly - posted on 09/12/2011




Thanks guys, I will try these things. I am just now in the second trimester, so he has enough time to get used to it ( hopefully)

Michelle - posted on 09/12/2011




My daughter was 21 months old when I had my second this May, I told her mommy had a baby in her belly towards the end but I don't think she really understood. I do know that since bringing little Wyatt home Megan has handled it great, always giving him hugs and kisses, no resentment or jealousy, which I was afraid might happen. Probably get a lot more of that when they both get older :-) I will say that I think she knows when I am nursing him I can't get to her, that is when she decides to start getting into everything, little imp :-D

Kimberly - posted on 08/26/2011




Thanks Diane,
The problem that I have now, is that when we are sitting with the 3 of us watching tv, he would tell me "no baby mammy" , that's what scares me. i will try the books and the cartoons for sure.

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I would try to find a book. There's tons of them out there. Like how to be a good older brother. I'm sure there's simple board books on the subject of having a baby sister or brother.
And i dunno how dad is gonna feel about this, but maybe it's time he has a boyish doll to play with. Doesn't have to be pink and frills, and maybe could even be a caillou or diego doll, or something and play with him and pretend to feed the baby and he can help and change the baby and he can help.
Hope that helps!
There's always shows like Caillou too where he's the older brother and has a baby sister. Or Max and Ruby.

HTH! And Congratulations!

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