MIL Help??

Erin - posted on 04/30/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




So my MIL wanted a grandson and is now very "depressed" she isn't going to get one first. She doesn't speak to me AT ALL and she won't even give me or my family the time of day. She has never cared for me and her son being together. I gave his family the choice either change the way thet act towards me and my family or not to come around my child. He won't speak up to her or against anything she says. i'm ready to call the quits. It's been over 2 1/2 months since she has even asked how the baby was doing. Am i a bad person for this? i want my daughter to know both of her grandparents, but i don't want the hositilty around her. Is this "bad parenting" as they tell me or am i thinking completely clear? Should i feel bad for making this choice or do i stick it out and deal with all the pain? I I have spoken with my fiance on numerous occasions about how his mom treats me because of my pregnancy. We've been together of and on since 6th grade, we're both graduated and living together for the past 1 1/2 now going on 2 years. She has only gotten worse through the time, he won't stand against her and i don't know how to tell him either he does or i leave. I would never keep him from his child, but as far as i'm concerned she has no rights to my child. How can i make him GROW UP and be the man he needs to be?


Lydia - posted on 08/12/2012




you can't make him grow up, but you can clearly tell him that he should be a man and step up against his mother's behavior if he loves you and wants to be a husband and father he should have the guts to stand for his family.

and just as a side note... maybe inform his mother that the sex of her grandchild has been determined by her sons sperm not by you... ;-) sorry for the sarcasm, but really how dumb can a person be giving you a hard time for something that is completely out of your control.

maybe you can make some sort of peace with your MIL by making sure she knows that you want her as part of your family life but in a way that is good and healthy for your family. she is probably jealous and afraid because you took her son away and she is no longer in control... typical mother-son issue unfortunately.

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