Aspergers and Regressive behaviors

Becka - posted on 11/15/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Aspergers and regressive behavior , there are days were i feel that my 9 year old is regressing to some habits that i thought he out grew, he is in the 4th grade and is taking stuffed animals to school, talking baby talk some times here at home and wanting more hugs kisses and noseys at bed time , I feel so very stressed. Any help or thoughts would great

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Deidre - posted on 11/17/2009

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From what I have been told this is normal for children with Aperger's. As their hormones and season's change kids seem to regress for a bit then they will be better again. My son gets some regression when the time changes and as the season changes. Are there any OT tools that you have to help him at home?? My best advice is to try and stay patient and talk with him to keep asking him how he is feeling. To see if something has "triggered" it. Hope it helps some!

User - posted on 11/16/2009

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Lots of typical children, before the onset of adolescence, appear to "regress" in their behaviour and become quite lovey dovey and cuddly. It is almost like it is one last kick at the can before that huge life transition takes place. I taught the middle grades for a numbers of years (4,5, & 6) and you would be amazed at the stories I heard from parents and what I have observed within my own extended family of 14 nieces and nephews..I wouldn't worry unless you see a loss of communication and previously obtained social skills that are necessary to his getting along outside of home.

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Stephanie - posted on 03/20/2014

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I am a single mother with the father completely out of the picture, and I have a son with aspergers that is seven. I realize that it has taken him a little longer with development which I totally understand, and my son also at times is cuddly as well. My frustration is the regression, I get frustrated with myself as a parent because I wonder what I am doing wrong or what I should be doing to help him. It is not when he cuddles with me or tries to act like a baby at home that concerns me. He does not have a problem at school, he does pretty good, he even read out loud in class when the school had a party, he waited for me to come so I could watch him. His regression happens in his karate class that he is in. In the beggining when he started karate, it took him of course a little longer to adjust and then he was doing pretty good, and now he is in the bigboy class with a gold belt, but lately I have noticed that he is not focusing, and he does not do what he is supposed to in his karate class. It is almost like he has forgot everything that he has learned, but I know that he really has not. His karate teacher is fully aware and understands the situation in fact he has other students with aspergers some that are finishing highschool. I want to find different ways to help him, but also worry that I might do too much and cause him to have anxiety. I know that he is only seven, but I did not want to wait too late because I have a cousin that is twenty five with aspergers and her parent homeschooled her and kept her out of the public fearing that outsiders would be cruel, and now she does not even speak. I don;t want that to happen to him so when I realized something was wrong when he was about 15 months, I put him in ECI, early child intervention, following with speech therapy. He also attended a daycare that I worked at so he could be around other children. He went to public school in kindergarten, and that is when he was tested, now he is in private school still involved in speech. Last week I put him step and strides, a place that can work on some other therapies with him. I am thinking about changing his diet, I have heard that the gludient free diet would help. It can be hard at times to keep up with all of this because at the moment I am finishing my college degree for elementary education. Is there anything else that I can do for my son?

Amanda - posted on 11/17/2009

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My son is 14 with Aspergers, sometimes they regress due to anxiety. Cognitive behavioural therapy helped. His school support system provided a child physcologist and it helped. There can be many reasons for the regression as mentioned by the other moms on here. Just keep up the good work and give him loads of hugs and kisses and reassurance. Ask the school if he is having any problems and relay your concerns back to them. Asking your son what is wrong can be like drawing teeth I know and you dont always get the full picture. In my case I found out my son was being bullied badly as he is in mainstream. The school noticed the change in his behaviour but could not explain why. I was lucky enough to get some sort of communication out of my son and now we work all the time to maintaining his happiness and security at school. Please do not be alarmed though your son may not be getting bullied. It could just be something said to him that has upset him which may have caused the regression.

Donna - posted on 11/16/2009

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I agree with the others, don't worry about it since it is perfectly normal. My son regressed to the point that we had to put him on meds once he hit puberty. The regression was not in all areas, but enough it became a problem. Don't worry about his being more cuddly as long as it doesn't become a "sexual" type of behavior.

Jaime - posted on 11/15/2009

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P.S. . . . I would cherish every moment that your son wants extra love, even if it does seem to be regressive behaviors. the fact that he wants affection from you speaks volumes!!

Jaime - posted on 11/15/2009

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All that is perfectly normal. I don't know what to do about it, and I never tried to change those behaviors in my daughter. when she is happy and having a good day she sucks her thumb more, carries her blankie, and talks baby-talk. she is in middle school. . . I am just grateful that she is not regressing in motor skills or speech. her behavior is still improving, and that has not regressed either.



the only other thing i can think of is maybe a reaction to a certain food. do you have any diet restrictions for him? GF/CF diet? low yeast diet? any supplements that he takes? any slight change in those things can cause regressive behaviors too.

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