having trouble organising a routine? what is yours?

Jodie - posted on 01/23/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




i want to set up a rountine for my two children with autism but i just don't know how to start anyhelp or examples would be appreciated thanks


Yvonne - posted on 01/25/2011




Your right consistency is important with any child, more so with ours. I have a four year old boy with aspergers & the hardest part of our routine is different days, different activities. I've found by introducing small choices into our daily routines it makes accepting different activities on different days alot easier.
Our morning starts by running to the potty the moment our eyes pop open, followed by fifteen minutes of quiet snuggles so we don't wake up crabby. We eat b4 we get dressed. I always give him two choices for breakfast because variety & choice are a gift. After breakfast we hose down & get dressed for the day. Again I give him two choices of shirts to wear that day. Four is too young to make these choices on his own without feeling overwhelmed, but too old not to value being given the option of making a choice himself. :)
With two little ones I might try to schedule certain meal options on certain days of the week as to give them something to look forward too. Today was Tuesday, which is either yogurt & granola or a blueberry bagel with strawberry cream cheese. My boy had his yogurt & granola but also asked for a banana as well cuz he felt like it. Always praise your kids when they make a decision out of the norm on their own.
Keep your daily routine's simple, the less hectic your routine's the more content your little ones will be.
My suggestion, take advantage of living in a smaller community by getting to know your neighbors.
We reside in a little bubble *our children's comfort zone*, by introducing them to this great big world outside of their bubble in baby steps they learn to relax & allow others into their world. We attend two afternoons of preschool Tues & Thurs which is very overwhelming somedays. More so as my son's issues are mostly social. So Thursdays after preschool we walk to our local grocery & buy two apples one red, one green, from a lady I've known for fifteen years. My son may not recognize her everytime we go or remember her name, but the routine & familiar face encourages him to acknowledge people in their places of work & appreciate the jobs they do in our community. This is his reward for following through with school even on days he doesn't want too. When I say it's a reward I mean seeing our friend, he's not even aware he's stepping out of his bubble because it's become part of our routine. :)
Our bedtime routine begins right after supper with a nice relaxing bath, followed by jammies, a light snack, brushing our teeth together, two books*which he chooses*, & a snuggle discussing what is on our agenda the following day *so we go to sleep with something to look forward too*
My son is just in the process of getting diagnosed, I've always known he was different than other kids. Our routine works for us. As parents we learn to adapt to our kids needs.
My only advice is patience & respect. You not only have one but two, keep your routine's as simple as possible for your own peace of mind. When introducing new activities, do so gradually. Respect your kids & what their capable of. They'll go farther in life with luv and understanding, then the strictest of routines.
Good luck Jodie, I'm hoping


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Jodie - posted on 01/24/2011




thanks katherine but unfortunately for me i live in a tiny country town in australia which makes it hard to meet other people outside the internet, we do have a bed time routine but i think it is more me that is having trouble sticking to it lol. it is so overwhelming my kids are 4 and 2 and newly diagnosed

Katherine - posted on 01/24/2011




Start with from the time they wake up. Do you want them to eat first or get dressed first? After they eat they brush their teeth, wash their face, get dressed. Do they have homework? You could have them do that. Then give them some down time, read, play etc...When do they go to school? How old are they? Structure is so important for children with autism, it's actually important for any child. These are just a few things I do with mine. At night we have a bedtime routine: take a bath get dressed, brush teeth, read a book, go to bed.
Do they have therapy? There are also some mommy groups you could get them into at meetup.com. Just type in the subject and where you live. I go to mommy groups all the time and my girls love it. You could do that once a week.

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