he is 5 years old autistic, and doesnt talk...potty training help plz :(

AISHA - posted on 08/11/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hello all,

I am a 27 year old divorced mother of two! I have a 7 year old daughter and a 5 year old son who is AUTISTIC. I am so overwhelmed b/c he is starting kindergarten this year, he doesnt talk and not potty trained...My question is with those two major things how do I get him to even be interested in potty training. He could care less but if wet will take his diaper off and throw it in the trash.


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Rachael - posted on 08/12/2012




It's not so much "training" as timing,,,,, Timing, timing, timing.... When I got my head around this it all came together. My son is Sev. Autistic now 9 year old, no speech. He was 6 when he started doing wee's in the toilet and it was a matter of taking him on a regular basis - not too regular (we mapped him for weeks - when he was wet, when he was dry etc.) to get the best results and outcome you need to do this. Check their nappies on the hour to gather the data... a few weeks is enough to get an idea of "around" the time to pop them on the toilet. Lot's of cheering and clapping on the successes even chocolate frogs.... We had tried when he was younger a few times and he wasn't ready - not even close. The School supported us by all of us following the same regime and within a month or two no more accidents. If I didn't take him there would be however.... so it's up to me to promt him or he would have accidents. The Poo's however are going to take a little longer. Will sit but wont do it in the toilet. Has to have a nappy on for this.... Time and patience and EVERYONE has worked hard in this area to get their kids going on a toilet let me assure you, your not on your own! Take your time and a deep breath and when you are ready to try again, map, prompt and cheer!!! It does happen!!! I used this resource to get my visuals to support him and still use them today.... http://continencevictoria.org.au/node/15...
Hope this gets you underway... it will happen but they do when they are ready and the School should understand and support you on this!!

Chaya - posted on 08/11/2012




Be patient and seek out support groups. I wasn't much different than your kid, my dad was a single dad until I was older. I'm sure he wouldn't have gone to a support group even if one was around. I was 12 before I spoke. I don't want to scare you, I'm definitly not your kid.This will pass and he'll become a job keeping, interest pursuiting, etc. member of society.
Toilet training: Try bribery. If he wishes a game or toy, offer to buy it for him if he starts using the potty. Try telling him he doesn't have to use diapers if using potty, etc. I gave my extremely normal kid m&m's for successful potty training. In short, find his currency and use it.

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