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I have a 5 1/2 autistic son and I am have problems is 3 areas can anyone help?

Candy - posted on 08/07/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 51/2 and autistic, we started potty training last summer and so far he goes pee pee on the potty but wont poop, hes not afraid of the potty or bathroom,it seems he just has a concentration issue, he will sit there and starts flapping his hands, or babbling or tries to hear the tv (which is like his life) and no matter what i say it doesnt happen, hes ok with just going on himself (he doesnt like to be wet though, thats why pee was easier) he really doent go the same time every day so I dont know when he has to second issue is that he just doesnt request when he needs to go potty we constantly remind him every 2hrs or so he will go pee pee indepently though once he is reminded but wont tell me when he has to go on his own.....and my third and newest issue is that now im having a problem with his sleeping at night he falls asleep in his bed with the tv on by himself and after he asleep i go in and turn it off, its been this way since he was a baby and he would sleep all night just fine, recently hes been getting up around 3 or 4 and I find him in various places of the house, either in his older brothers bed or the bathroom floor always with the light on, so i figured he was having nightmares but being that he is not independently verbal he cant tell me so i started leaving the tv on and putting it on mute now thats not working last night he got up at 4 and was up until about 3 this afternoon then he finally took a nap (which he never does anymore)...we are definitely going to have an issue when school starts again and he cat miss school because of lack of sleep....never mind I have a 7yr old and a 4mnth old to take care of during the day...there are no room for naps for mommy! lol....Does anyone have any advice on either one of my issues...Please Help! Thanks


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Noelle - posted on 08/11/2010




I used a book called 'toilet training for individuals with Autism and related disorders' to help get my son potty trained. we also used a picture chart with velcro on each picture. when he completed a task he got to move the picture to the other side. he loved this and things when much better once he could see what we were trying to accomplish.

Kelly Smith - posted on 08/09/2010




My 5 and a half year old just started potty training this Summer. He does go pee and poop on the potty during the day, but still wears "special pants" at night. We ended up putting the small potty, we got originally, in his room. He did start going poop on that after a few initial accidents(our son does laps around his room before he poops, so it gave him easier access once he was ready to go). We just recently took the small potty out of his room and so far he seems to be going on the big potty pretty well. you might want to try giving him a picture book he likes or a reward(something you get 5 M&M's when you poop). We also gave A LOT of praise. I hope all goes well.

Jane - posted on 08/09/2010




We established a "nightmares" bed in our room. An air mattress on the floor by our bed that the kids (any of them) can use when they wake up at night. They sleep better that way.

As for poo training, some of mine learned earlier than others. The thing I finally did for my boy with PDD was to allow the potty in the living room. Every day at the same time, we sat him on it for 20 minutes, like it or not. It may have been cruel, but it was far worse having him hold it. I told him if he went, I would be so proud I would dance with him. And when he went, I did!

I still sit by the littles' (ages 10, 9 and 6) beds while they go to sleep. It helps them fall asleep. Also, my boy with PDD-NOS likes to sleep with the dog, it's like having a weighted blanket. :)

This too shall pass!

Rebecca - posted on 08/07/2010





I have a 8 years old with autism and he too was 5 when he was potty trained for pee but also had problems with the pooh part, he too loved the tv so we had a portable dvd player and i watched and would put him on the potty and he watched the movie and would go. It was time consumeing and at the time i had a one year old. As for the sleeping my son still does not sleep through the night we have good days and bad, he too watches tv in his room it is his relaxing time, sorry but if you find anything that works please let me know. It took a while for the peeing on his own but it did come.

Good luck


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