my almost 3yr old won't leave his clothes on HELP

Lenni - posted on 01/20/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hi I'm new here and I have three kids my son has autism and wont leave his clothes on we have tried everthing to keep him from taking his clothes and pullup off. please help


Sasha - posted on 01/26/2009




Rule 1, don't let them see you stress about it, rule 2, don't let them see you stress about it, rule 3 get a good fabric softner and the heating high enough for few or no clothes, rule 4 don't let them see you stress about it. My son was mostly nude untill school age, and then he would strip when he got home. He still goes down to boxers when he gets home. Ultimatly remember that he is avoiding clothing because it is at best uncomftable and at worst painfull to wear clothes. 'forcing' him to keep them on may be one trauma than he need not experience in a world that is going to be difficult for him anyway. If he takes his nappy off and wees on the floor, yes, it's a mess you have to clean up. If he get's a lifelong hangup because he was sealed into painfull constraint the problem will be with him for life that cannot be cleaned up. All all times remember that things will not always be as they are now. There will always be new battles and struggles, but no matter how endless the clothes problem seems at the moment, it will not last for ever. All the very best.


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Katie - posted on 01/25/2009




My daughter was like that and for her it was sensory related.  I removed all tags from all of her clothes.  I put her in onesies until they didn't fit her anymore.  These worked well because if you put them on inside out then the snaps are harder to get off which helps keep the pull up on.  I put her in the most comfortable clothes I could find and watched to see how she responded to different fabrics.  For example, my daughter loves leggings but won't wear jeans.  Figured that one out using trial and error.  During the winter, she'd wear a blanket sleeper backwards so she couldn't undue the zipper.  Eventually, she got over her need to remove her clothes and I knew what clothes to buy for her sensory needs.  In short, it really was a great deal of trial and error.

Laura - posted on 01/21/2009




If it helps any, my 9 year old strips to his underwear as soon as he gets home from school. I wish I had some help to offer, but know you are not alone in this.

Jayne - posted on 01/21/2009




hi lenni its me again have you tried a reward chart start off small and build up gets a favourite sweet if he can leave his pants on for ten mins or watch a favourite programe little and often is the key easy in the house impossible if you want to go out remember visual stimulation rewards and your trusty friend the timer xxxx callum cannt wear socks cant stand the feeling of them also can wear a jumper one day but cant the next dosnt like the feel. may be give him a choice of two tops two bottoms let him feel them and let him decide remember patience

Lisa - posted on 01/21/2009




my son was a nudie booty too. he still wanders around in his undies when he's home. we did the duct tape on the pampers too that helped. once he started the preschool disabilities program at school, it was easier. 10 other dressed kids at school definately helped.

Shelly - posted on 01/20/2009




I know it sounds weird but if you are really desperate try duct tape. Especially on the diaper. After a few days of the duct tape on the diaper he stopped trying and I was able to discontinue the duct tape

Kerry - posted on 01/20/2009




Hello Lenni, I hope someone can help with ideas for you to try.  Here in australia it was not an issue, young kids below school age, often roam free most of the day. We dont have the cold you guys get so there is no real danger.

Some kids are sensitve to certain material blends (feels like sandpaper or makes them hot), Try 100% cotton to see if it lasts longer on his body.  Let him roam free in the house and perhaps try the pictures of the order to put his clothes on, for when he is going outside. Maybe tell him that outside the house he needs to wear clothes because if he doesnt the birds might think he was bird food.  Or that little old ladies get scared when people dont have a shirt, shorts and shoes on, and its not nice to scare little old lady's is it?  he may be a little young for that approach tho.

Somehow turnign the clothes into a game might work with a young one. which colour shirt today?? hmm what colour do you want today?  oops i think that one is hiding, (pretend search).

good luck. Kx


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