Sharing a bedroom with a boy and girl

Sam - posted on 07/24/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




At what age should you separate a brother and sister if they are sharing a room? Does it change your answer if one of the children is autistic and doesn't understand normal circumstances? My son is autistic and is 6; my daughter is 3 1/2 and they are sharing a bedroom, separate beds of course. What do you think?


Tammy - posted on 07/25/2010




i live in a two bedroom apartment it is large with two double bedrooms and all four kids share (three boys and one girl) the youngest a boy is the autistic one they dont seem to mind it although im sure they would like their own rooms.....


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Mary1959 - posted on 04/11/2011




my son is 8 and my daughter is 9
they do not want there own room
they love the big bedroom in basement

Jane - posted on 07/26/2010




I think puberty is pretty much the great divide to sharing rooms. :) You won't want to explain to the little sister why big bro has "fur" to use my son's expression... :)

Irene - posted on 07/26/2010




My son Phoenix is 4. He is autistic and shares with his three sisters, aged 5, 3 and 2. His specialist says he needs his own room as he is going to affect the girls sleeping patterns. The opposite has happened. Since putting them together, he has developed the same bedtime routine as the girls. Its great. I think until he reaches ten, I will continue to have him in the same room. Another thing to consider is whether he will be able to manage the change in routine if they are seperated? I know Phoenix is not too good with change. Good luck

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I don't think age matters as much as long as everyone (you and the kids) are comfortable with it. I would separate them around age ten or eleven if my kids shared a room, which they pretty much do anyway except when they are asleep and then only because I make them sleep in their own rooms because they would stay up all night playing. My daughter is 6 with ASD and my son is 3 btw.

Julie - posted on 07/25/2010




the laws in the UK state that siblings of different sexes should not share a bedroom from the age of 11, however this changes to 7 if they are half sisters or brothers. You know your children, and you know what's best for them, so if you think everything is going well leave it. I have a teenager with Down syndrome who shares a room with her sister, I bought a huge set of shelves to use as a separator so they still have some privacy :)

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