So pissed off right now!!!

Heather - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son just came home from school with texta all over his face. I asked him did you do that in the class room and he said yes. Where is the supervision of my child. This is ridiculous.

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Paulette - posted on 10/16/2009

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Sorry to hear the school aren't listening to your concerns and keeping you informed. I can understand it might feel like you are fighting a losing battle but never give up. You probably have already tried speaking to the deputy principal and or principal without any more success but if it is a state school then you have the right to take the matter to a higher authority. I know personally I am like a dog with a bone and the more resistance I come up against the more I want to fight. I am definitely the squeaky wheel that Sherry mentioned and you particularly have to be to get anywhere with public servants. Have you looked into the possibility that there is another school not too far away that might have a better program in place for children with ASD? Unfortunately I sent my son to a school that doesn't have a full program but for the time being he is happy and has a few friends so I am reluctant to move him but I know their was another little boy in his class who was Autistic and his mother move him to another school close by half way through the year because it had a lot better program for him and apparently he is doing really well. Good luck.

Sherry - posted on 10/16/2009

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i'm sorry you are having such a hard time with his school. but remember the old saying the squeaking wheel gets the grease. you will always have to fight for your son's rights. some people just don't get it. i have seen the looks of annoyance on many teachers and aids faces, but i'm very lucky that the principle of the school is wonderful and has addressed every concern i have with my 5 y'o son. also remember that the school recieves special funding for special needs kids, so by law they are required to provide every thing that your child needs. if they learn that you will not tolerate this, they will make sure that your child is taking care of properly. we actually moved because our previous school didn't offer the services our son neede. also if you don't understand something about his therapy make them explain it to you. these are paid employees and everyone has a supervisor that you can go too. i'm sure there have been times the school has gotten tired of my questions and my demands, but this is my child and if i have to been a paing in the behind so be it. please always keep in mind if it were their child and your were providing services they would hold you accountable. God bless you and your family. i know how difficult this is for you. you are your childs voice, so give him a loud one!

Heather - posted on 10/16/2009

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Well I spoke to this relief teacher today. Apparently he has been no problem at all this week and the texta on the face was somthing that " couldn't have been avoided " . When I asked if he had been able to stick to his routine and IEP + IBP she looked at me blankly. This school was great but it seems they are pushing Jayden aside. There is another autistic child in his class and his aide time is in the arvo so everyday his mother gets feed back from his aide. Why is it different for me? Jaydens' aide has never sent anything home to alert me to his progress or any problems they are having. When I ask his "normal teacher" she can comment on some things but she has 15 other students so she doesn't tend to work one on one with my son. Why are things different for me???? I'm tiered of fighting and having to run around and seek things out all of the time. I have had that many meetings with the school I have a file full of meeting notes and reviews. I'm just tiered of all of this. I don't know where to turn any more.

Paulette - posted on 10/15/2009

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I would be extremely annoyed with the school too. I hope you can sort the problem out as it can sometimes just take one small thing to upset them so they don't want to go anymore. I worry all the time because my son has been in mainstream Prep all this year and it has taken until 2 weeks ago to get a diagnosis from the Psychologist and I still have to go back to the Paedricitian for him to review her report and fill in the appropriate forms to get him further assistance at school. To make things worse they are a multi age open classroom which means he has prep and grade 1 kidsin his class, he also has 2 teachers who job share and there is another class down the other end of the classroom and he has that teacher for certain things as well. They also had 2 different relief teachers for 2 weeks and have now just finished having two trainee teachers. It seems like complete chaos to me but considering my son handles it very well now. Not so good the first and second term but says he likes all his teachers and so far besides always losing things and a couple of scuffles nothing serious. At least he hasn't been refusing to go to school as much but he does still sometimes feels sick on the way from anxiety.

Heather - posted on 10/15/2009

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First I would like to apologise for my bad language. Jayden is in mainstream but has been allocated an aid. He has had a relief teacher this week so I was expecting some problems, but this is a supervision problem. I am going to the school this afternoon to ask what happened. I am hopeing that this relief has kept his routine other wise it is not going to be an easy term for any one. Is normal teacher is a blessing she has a degree in special needs and has been very proactive in supporting my views and opinions and she works well with Jayden. So for the sake of every one I hope this relief hasnt dont too much damage.

Amy - posted on 10/15/2009

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i would definitely go right to the school if i were you. there may be a perfectly good explanation for it but if there is it should have come home in the form of a note from the teacher.

Rachel - posted on 10/15/2009

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Oh my so sorry to read this, to hear your son who can be easily victimized has had this happen at school. Have you contacted the school to ask what report they have on this incident? Is your son in a specialist school? Seems to me what ever the case some action needs to be taken and fast because the problem could be the tip of the iceberg.......with little communication from your son, which is to be expected I hope some answers and actions to prevent this from happening again are taken quickly. Hope it gets sorted for your son and family, keep us posted. Best wishes x Owens mum x

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