Toilet training my 3 and a half year old ASD Son

Kelly - posted on 01/17/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have always been one not to push him until he is ready to do stuff but i have now come to the issue that my 3 1/2 year old son really needs to be trained. I have tried on and off for the pass 2 years without any pressure but as I am expecting a baby in June I really want him to use the toilet before then. I have tried the big toilet with an seat insert, a potty and even suggested peeing in the garden but he hasn't shown much interest. He goes to a specail needs playgroup and they have a routine of taking him to the toilet through out the 2 hours but he always just stands,sits there until they allow him to leave the toilet area. i am at my wits ends does anyone have any suggestions.


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Katherine - posted on 01/28/2010




my son was the same. he was almost 4. he will do it when he is ready. it does take children like them longer. but that doesn't mean dont try. just keep tring . he'll do it!! what worked for us was praise, praise, praise!!!

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2010




3.5 years old is really young to be potty training a child on the spectrum. SO many children cannot be properly potty trained until they are between 3.5-4 years old, it just may not be something your son is able to do at this time. Does he have a developmental delay? If so, then you really need to look at his developmental age. I know it really really sucks. I have a 3.5 year old & a 13 month old. I had my second daughter the day my husband deployed to Iraq, and he had previously been away my entire pregnancy for training. It is so difficult to have two in diapers, but you do fall into a routine. Pushing potty training is VERY damaging to the process. It really has to flow and be something that your son wants to do. It really sounds like he doesn't understand what the potty is for. I highly suggest having him spend a lot of time naked (if you allow it - we have to monitor it because my daughter sticks things inside herself thus harming her girlie bits) and get a few small training potties to scatter here or there. The first thing to learn is that pee & poop go in the potty. Then you can move it to WHERE the potty is. That is how we will train Olivia, and that is a way that I've seen work with many ASD kiddos. But again. I personally feel like 3.5 years old is way too young.

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