Sept. 11, 1997

Amy - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter was born Sept. 11, 1997. She was turning 4 years old the day the planes hit the towers. We took her out for a birthday celebration that day like we ALWAYS do... and she chose a place we knew have their servers sing to you & bring out a little treat. We informed the server of our daughters 4th birthday being that day & she would love a song. It was at that moment the server looked at me & HATEFULLY says "This is NOT a day to celebrate!" I was very upset by his response. It was MY DAUGHTERS 4th birthday reguardless of the sorrows in the world around us. She was an innocent little girl who was TOO young to understand what had happened that day.

Now every birthday she has there seems to be at least one person that will give her that disappointed look that her birthday falls on that day.



How are you dealing with others that may have a negative outlook on your childs birthday? Or have you even noticed anyone like this in your life?

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Danielle - posted on 09/07/2011

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People are born everyday and her being born on 9/11 was the shining light on such a very dark day. With all death comes new life. 9/11 was tragic and I'm sure it is hard on her. But remind her that with Tragedy comes miracles and new life is a miracle no matter what day it falls on. just try not to plan her party with friends on 9/11 when there are so many people who are reflecting on the past and remembering those lives lost. Have her celebration with friends the day before or after, but still celebrate her birth as a family at home on her special day. Most people I know will have birthday parties on the weekend before or after their birthday simply because their day is in the middle of the week and more people attend on the weekend.

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Yeah, we get the ohh's and the big eyes from people occasionally. I just think people are uncomfortable and don't know what to say so.....sometimes their remarks happen to be ignorant. Some people have said "What a terrible day to be born!" & I've already been asked..."So, do you celebrate his birthday on a different day?" To which I reply..."No, we celebrate the day he was born ON the day he was born. It's not his fault this happened and to change the day is just not right." I understand it is a very sad day for our nation but it was a wonderful day for our family.

Caitlin - posted on 05/03/2009

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I had to deal with that for a while, as that date is my daughter's birthday. I would get the ohh! and then ohh... First excited then sorrow as they realized it... It sucked for a while... It doesn't happen near as much now.. I actually had someone ask me to let them know when I was due with another baby... then they would know when the next national tragedy would happen.. I would just smile and nod at them.. Some people can be very rude, and not realize the impact of what they say to the people around them.. I just ignore them..

Caitlin - posted on 05/03/2009

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I had to deal with that for a while, as that date is my daughter's birthday. I would get the ohh! and then ohh... First excited then sorrow as they realized it... It sucked for a while... It doesn't happen near as much now.. I actually had someone ask me to let them know when I was due with another baby... then they would know when the next national tragedy would happen.. I would just smile and nod at them.. Some people can be very rude, and not realize the impact of what they say to the people around them.. I just ignore them..

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