Do you miss being pregnant?

Amy - posted on 11/21/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )

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My son is 11mnths and sometimes I miss being pregnant, But i also feel that its to soon to start trying. My husband and I have talked a little bit about it and we decided to wait at least 6mnths to a year for certain reasons. But sometimes I think now is the time. Has anyone else felt this way even though you know its not the right time? but is there really ever a right time to have a baby?

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Eleanor - posted on 12/06/2010

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Hi Mary,
No I didn't have pre-eclampsia. I actually had very low blood pressure early in the pregnancy. I'm not sure why I carried so much fluid towards the end. I live in NZ and my last couple months of pregnancy were in the hot summer, so that didn't help!
My complications were due to my sons position. I had a very fast moving labour, my contractions were 5 mins apart from the beginning and dropped to 1 minute apart & lasting 1 minute after only a couple of hours. He was posterior lateral (facing sideways) I didn't have any pain relief and because he was pushing down into my back my body starting pushing before I was fully dialated. His heartrate dropped and I was rushed in for a c-section. Scary! but I have a BEAUTIFUL healthy son and I would do it all again a million times for him! Just not looking forward to the pregnancy/labour 2nd time around!

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Rachel - posted on 12/10/2010

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Yes I totally miss being pregnant. I have an awesome pregnancy and would love to have another baby, hopefully a boy next time.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/08/2010

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No! The thought horrifies me. Not because I minded being pregnant - actually that was kind of fun - but because that would mean another infant to care for plus the one I've already got! The insanity! Some women can do it, but it's not for me. I'll wait a little longer, thank you very much.

Shonna - posted on 12/07/2010

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I miss being pregnant sooo much and it doesn't help that a lot of my friends are pregnant right now. I have a big case of baby fever, but then my one year old son throws a tantrum and I'm reminded that I am not ready to deal with two little ones.

Francesca - posted on 12/06/2010

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Just a warning-- I've had two babies now, and pregnancy with a toddler is a little different than the first pregnancy. I LOVED the first pregnancy, and the second wasn't all that difficult, but it's wearing. There's no time to rest when you feel like you need to. And if you wind up with physical restrictions (I was told not to lift my 2-year-old due to a blood vessel crossing the cervix) it's a lot harder to figure out how to manage.

That said, I DO miss being pregnant sometimes, and I miss cuddling a newborn. My December 2009 baby is so big now!

Letitia - posted on 12/06/2010

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I do miss being pregnant cant wait till i start trying for another but im gonna wait till april may next year that way i have more time with my gawjusssss daughter xx

Jessie - posted on 12/04/2010

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i miss my bump. my son is also 11 months. coz im only 16 i got sum horrible looks and comets wen i was pregnant but i still want my bump bak. i dnt no weather u did this but i used to hug my bump an it gave me a lot of comfort. i dnt think theirs a rite time for everyone to have a baby it jst depends weather u and ur partner are ready xx good look if you do have another xx

Mary - posted on 12/04/2010

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Eleanor, did you happen to have pre-eclampsia? your story sounds a lot like mine. i too swelled in my hands and feet, i was showing huge by 5 months. "oh you're big for 5 months are you sure its not twins? har har." I also had a difficult delivery that ended up in a c-section. i was on magnesium (which made me super high) and total compete bed rest for 4 days. but i still want to have more. statistics say that a lot of 1st pregnancies end up making the woman pre-eclamptic, but it's very rare to be pre-eclamptic in the 2nd pregnancy, so i'm not too worried. and if i do end up with it again, at least i know what to expect.

Laura - posted on 12/04/2010

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i know i would be, my son was 1 on the 2nd...but im due another on the 9th, im already panicking about not being pregnant anymore!! I just love being pregnant, but this is my 4th so will probably be the last time, ive a 12 year old son, 9 year old daughter and my 1 year old so pretty safe to say il have my hands full...im trying to remind myself just how uncomfortable i am at 39 weeks...but its just not that bad!! I know theres a very small gap between the 2 babies but with them both being boys i hope they get on!!

Eleanor - posted on 12/03/2010

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I had a love/hate relationship with my pregnancy. I was showing really early on and had a HUGE bump by the time I was 28 weeks. People were always commenting on the size, and asking if it could be twins etc. I also gained a lot of weight and carried fluid in my feet and face. I don't miss being big AT ALL. Luckily I lost all the weight thanks to breastfeeding.I did love feeling and seeing my son move in my belly, but considering he is now here with me I don't "miss" him. I much prefer him on the outside!!! I am nowhere near ready to be pregnant again. I hated being big and I had a hideous labour with complications that lead to an emergency c-section. Am very scared about having number 2 which I plan to have around a 3 year gap.

Alesia - posted on 12/03/2010

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I totally feel the same way!! I saw a newborn the other day and started crying cuz I miss that! Plus I have had some pregnant friends recently and seeing their stomachs move and hearing them talk about feeling their baby makes me very jealous!

Stephanie - posted on 12/02/2010

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I miss it too. Every time I see a new baby or see someone who's pregnant, I get a little bit jealous and wish it was me. I was really upset at one point and moaned at him about everything when he said we could have another one yet but recently he's changed his mind and we are going try for baby number 2. There's never a right time for anyone. It's you and your husband feels about it.

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I feel the same way every day. I miss being pregnant, and i also miss the little tiny baby stage when he would just sit there and cuddle with me. I miss it like crazy. but i know it is not the right time, but i have even called the Dr to get my iud taken out a time or 2 then canceled. I don't know if it is a normal feeling or not but it is pretty intense some times. Aaden will be a year old in just 7 days.

User - posted on 12/01/2010

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I do not miss being pregnant at all! Im small so carrying around the extra baby weight was very uncomfortable for me and always put me at risk for having preterm labor. With my 11 month old son I was constantly in the hopsital doing stress tests due to him having a nuchal cord times two. These tests should have taken 30 minutes but I would be stuck there for 5 or 6 hours. I also have a 5 year old daughter at home and it was hard constantly being away from her and spending most of my time in and out of the hospital. My husband and I are done and I am very happy with the two. I also like the age gap because my daughter helps out a lot with my son and he absolutely adores her :)

Diana - posted on 12/01/2010

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I miss some things about being pregnant, but I love the time I am spending with Alexander. We promised that we wouldn't try until Alex was a year old. We are 35 and 38 respectively, so we don't have a lot of time to wait, but want a little time apart.

Aneta - posted on 12/01/2010

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let's put away the "romantic" part of the story. I don't miss it. Getting fat, mood swings, feeling heavy, not being able to sleep at night, stretch marks, fighting with post-pregnancy weight, postpartum depression. Hmm, I think it will take me at least 5 years to forget all these :)

Ambryn - posted on 12/01/2010

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I believe everyone is having baby fever. My son will be one in 29 days. We talk about having our kids close in age. We both really want another baby. We have not decided when to start trying again, but we know we want to by the time my son is two.

Serree - posted on 12/01/2010

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I have b/g twins and I totally miss being pregnant, I would do it again in a minute, but my husband doesn't want anymore, at least not now. we will see how he feels in six months to a year.

Mary - posted on 12/01/2010

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it seems to me that the women who are pregnant now are the ones who dont like being pregnant lol.

i guess we forget what it was like. the 1st 4 months of mine was TERRIBLE. all day nausea.

but after that i loved it. i mean, of course, i was moody, and tired, and my feet were swollen, and my back hurt, but i think that the good outweighed the bad. every movement, every sonogram, even the excitement i felt when i was in the hospital is enough to make me want to have more.

Amber - posted on 12/01/2010

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I know exactly how you feel... both emotionally and financially it is NOT time for us to have another baby. In fact my Fiance says he may not EVER want to have a second child. But I do miss being pregnant. I was miserable near the end due to complications but for most of it, it was amazing.. feeling her move and watching my belly grow. I think almost every Mom at some point (especially first time Moms) miss the feelings they got when they were pregnant. Unfortunately in this situation we need to listen to our brains.. if we can't afford a baby right now, then we have to wait. I'd love to be pregnant again but I don't want to have a second child before I'm ready financially and emotionally to raise another baby.

Corrinne - posted on 12/01/2010

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hi. i really miss being pregnant. my son charlie is 1 a week on tuesday and i would love another one now, but then i think that if i have another i might miss things with charlie and he won't have all my attention so i feel i should wait till he's about 4 so that he's had all my attention then i can give it to my next baby when we do have one.

Melanie - posted on 12/01/2010

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I miss being pregnant so much! Milla will be one in two weeks time. She was such a busy little bee in my tummy! I miss every kick and push and bump she gave me! The same with Isabelle. I would love to be pregnant again. I think it's a privilege that women where the one's chosen to carry that little life inside us. That first movement, oh, I miss it. I love my kids now that they are growing older too, but oh it was wonderful to feel them growing in my tummy too.

Sarah - posted on 11/30/2010

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@ Sasha You are not the only woman who does not like being pregnant.. I am on my fifth pregnancy and I have never liked it.. I don't mind labor and delivery and I love my kids even though babies are a lot of work... but I have never liked being uncomfortable, bloated, touched, moody, and everything else that goes with pregnancy.. lol Glad to know I'm not alone. :)

Paula - posted on 11/29/2010

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I def. miss being pregnant and I will miss my twins being babies. I have often brought up having another baby to my husband, but I think he is happy with just the two.

Brittany - posted on 11/28/2010

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I have felt this way in the last two months or so too, even though I know we can't afford another child, and our 11 month old would be too young in nine months to have a newborn. Every situation is different, but I definitely feel your pain. Its just a motherly instinct :")

Melanie - posted on 11/27/2010

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I miss it a lot! My cousin found out recently that she is pregnant, and I am so happy for her. This will be the second baby in the family. But, I'm also really envious. She gets to go through feeling him or her move for the first time, and then all the time, the ultra sounds, hearing the heart beat. Makes me want to do it all over again! I don't think there is ever a "right time" to have a baby. Everyone can sit down and write out a list of why they should wait, but my son wasn't conceived at the most ideal time, either, and now I would never change a thing.

Laura - posted on 11/26/2010

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I miss little things, like the moment you find out you're pregnant, and the anticipation of meeting the little person being created. But I'm scared to death to go through labor again. Not that mine was horrible, I just did it natural w/no epidural. I tore really bad, lost a lot of blood, and couldn't see my daughter right away because they had to fix me first. I couldn't get up for a whole day because I'd lost so much blood, and ended up having PPD for the first 8 weeks of my daughter's life. hahaha not to sound completely depressing now! Because man oh man, do I love my girl! And now that she sleeps all night, and we have our routines, my husband and I are talking about the second baby (that I was so against in the beginning). But as much as I'd like Olivia to have a sibling close in age to play with, I need my alone time with her for a bit longer. Maybe by next fall all the pregnancy "fun" can start again... :)

Helen - posted on 11/26/2010

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I hated being pregnant at the time but I miss it now! Personally I would say though, try to wait a bit if you can, I've got twins and having two the same age (or nearly, as yours will be) is hard! I love my girls to bits but never have enough time to spend with just one of them, to enjoy them and notice all the little things they are doing... for me I think if I was pregnant now, I would be feeling rough and wouldn't be able to enjoy these tiny years with my first child, and then when the new one came I would have the older one to worry about so wouldn't have the time to spend with the new one! Thats just my opinion though, you might find it easier - different situations, different people cope differently! Good luck, whatever you do x

Sasha - posted on 11/26/2010

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My son will be 1 on Dec 10th and I'm 18 weeks pregnant already. It's going to be very hard work. Our boy still wakes up 4 times most nights and we're both pretty sleep deprived. We made the decision to have our 2 kids very close together before moving onwards and upwards in the raising - with the pregnancy and labour long behind me! I seem to be the only woman out there who doesn't enjoy being pregnant. I'm so happy for the women that do enjoy it though!!

Natalie - posted on 11/26/2010

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I do miss being pregnant, but I'm enjoying watching my little guy grow up and learn new things all the time. I don't know if there is ever really a right time to have a baby but my husband and I are going to try to have another now that he is almost a year.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/25/2010

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I do but I think it's because of all the attention I got from the hubby.. I know we can't have another quite yet

Jessica - posted on 11/23/2010

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I miss it so much! I loved everything about being pregnant! I would love to have another but I don't know if we could afford to do that right now... My husband says he is happy with one but then he also says he would love to have a son so I think he wants more. I guess anything is possible :)

Vanessa - posted on 11/23/2010

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I would LOVE to have another baby.. but I definitely don't miss being pregnant. I did enjoy being able to feel my son moving inside of me and kicking all the time and being able to rub my tummy and smile, but I was so uncomfortable with myself during my pregnancy because I gained almost 5o pounds AND i had so many back problems and my feet would always hurt and I couldn't stay away from pickles, so of course i always looked like a blow fish.. especially my ankles and feet. But my husband and I have been talking about a baby #2 maybe in the next year or two...looking forward to having the baby here, but not looking forward to the pregnancy itself.

Mary - posted on 11/22/2010

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i am itching to get pregnant again. I miss it so much. plus i had some complications in my last preg that made me end up with a c-section. i was so bummed about that but at least were both alive and healthy. but im still hoping for a more natural birth next time.

my son is not sleeping through the night yet, so thats one of the reasons were gonna wait.

im also in 2 weddings in may and i really wanna have fun, i dont wanna be pregnant. I was soooo sick during my last one.

plus theres money issues. my husband and i dont even have health insurance (though ironically having another baby will get us health insurance for a few years but i dont wanna have a baby for that. it's just wrong...)

We're gonna talk about it again next summer.

User - posted on 11/22/2010

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I miss it, and, as silly as it sounds, I miss the labor part also, BUT we are done with 2!! :)!! ONly you and your husband can decide if it's time. My kids are 2 years minus 5 days apart (yup, 2 Dec. bdays) and I enjoy the age gap. Close enough, but not too close!

Nikita - posted on 11/22/2010

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i miss it heaps. i love the bond that a mum and baby make, when it moves when know body else knows, things like that. we dont want another til samson is 3. Everytime my period is a little late i get excited... just incase i am.. sad i know. i just look at it this way. im enjoying my samson time. as soon as another baby comes he wont get as much attention.

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