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Sarah - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




First I should say that I'm fortunate enough to be able to stay at home all day with my little guy. He's about 10 and a half months now and I enjoy (almost) every second of being with him and I honestly would not trade it for the world. I find myself, however, wondering if I'm doing right by him. He doesn't seem to want to "play" with him and would rather go off and do his own thing. It almost feels neglectful of him (which I'm absolutely NOT - I am attentive to what he's doing).

Ben is my first and he has my undivided attention. I take him once a week to a Little Gym class but other than that, we're home about 90% of the time. I was just curious - what do some other mom's do all day with the kids, especially little ones under a year?


Jennifer - posted on 11/02/2010




Our son is going to daycare in a few months and I got a sample schedule from them so I've been trying to mirror their routine. Each week they have a theme so maybe pick a theme for yourself and do an hour activity of that per day ... like kitchen fun so let them play with kitchen items that day or week or fall fun and go for a walk and explore different fall concepts like cool, leaves, etc. They do a story time and two walks a day plus snack times and circle play with a particular toy or toy theme (balls etc). Check out the baby centre website because they have a Let's Play section and each week it's two new activities to do with that developmental age. Hope this helps!


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Delilah - posted on 11/05/2010




My twins take turns as one loves to entertain himself and crawl around everywhere, playing in different corners, climbing all over everything in sight (including me and his brother) and my other son wants you to entertain him. They also love playing with each other while my son (the observer who likes being entertained) laughs hysterically at my other son (the entertainer). It's hilarious to watch them play together! As far as going out vs. staying in, I try to balance things by going out everyday (usually during the morning) and spending the half of the day in or going on a nice, quiet walk. We tend to be involved in a lot of Mom's club events (playgroups, park dates, etc.) and library programs. It's very expensive to take twins to stuff, so we haven't gotten to involved in the paid Mommy and Me programs yet, but we have still found something to do almost every day :)

Sara - posted on 11/05/2010




my daughter is busy busy busy but she just loves being with me and cries if she can't see me and wants to 'help' me in everythign i do, we are home 90% of the time too and my partner works away and so it is just me and her. We have playgroup and sign lessons on a Thursday but that is it. She has recently found shy and buries her head in me when someone looks at her. She can play on her own but she prefers to dance with me and sing action games. It gets difficult in cleaning and ironing etc But I do find the TV is good for things like that. We go for walks and the park and have teddy bear picnics for lunch. We haven't been swimming yeti would love to but I can't find a constume to fit me thats not a fortune. (poor excuse I know). in summer we play splash or I will fill the tub up with water and she can swim in the bath. we write letters and make cards to grandparents. we have even played with finger paints and pencils.

Lorelle - posted on 11/03/2010




in nice weather, I take my son for a walk (which I dont think he likes because he's confined in the stroller) and we go to the park and have a swing.
We go to parents and tots swimming once a week. It's a 30 minute class and at least 30 minutes afterward to get us both washed, dried, and dressed. I live in Ontario, Canada and we have a provincial program called Best Start where you can go to certain schools where they have a drop in centre in a classroom that is set up like a kindergarten class where the kids can play with the toys, each other. I go once every two weeks for a special 1.5 hour "Baby's day out" program for kids under 12 months. I used to visit with my friends who were also on mat leave but slowly all my girlfriends are going back to work. See if you can find some play groups in your community. It's hilarious to watch them play with other kids, even though it consists mostly of taking toys out of each other's hands and looking at each other.

Dani - posted on 11/02/2010




This is a great question ! my lil girl is exactly the samething, always off on her own she has her lil habits like playing in the tupperware cupboard while i do the dishes and if she wants my attention she will bring me her toy and we will play but 2 seconds later shes bored and off on her own again. she does really like the chase me game and will sit on my lap to watch mickey mouse club house. But she also is not cuddley at all ! extreamly happy always talking laughing and giggling luvs to sing and dance , just busy busy .

Sarah - posted on 10/30/2010




My 10 & half month old is quite an independent little lady and will happily entertain herself and explore, but sometimes she likes to have me (or Daddy, when he's home) close by. She loves playing with all her soft toys in her cot (not sure why, but she thinks it's great fun!), so if I feel like I need a little break during the day I'll pop her in there and she'll happily entertain herself for at least 20-30 minutes at times (which is great just to have a wee breather - I feel I need it sometimes, as she's already down to 1 nap per day and she's a very active wee thing). But I don't do it too often, because I do feel a bit guilty about leaving her in her room on her own. Doesn't seem to bother her though!

We do go off to a few things during the week, like swimming lesson once a week and also a Play group, which she loves. We're home the majority of the week, and currently are without a car, so when the weather's nice we go out and explore the garden and that keeps her busy for ages. Normally I would try get out at least once a day, for a walk or visit to the park or beach. Some days we just hang out at home and do quiet things like sing songs, dance, read books, play the piano (I play and I also sit her on my knee and let her bang away), blow bubbles... And I have to admit, I do put the TV on occasionally too, but it's normally just in the background, while she plays with her toys.

User - posted on 10/30/2010




Right now, Tyler's into emptying buckets,and knocking down towers. So I clean the playroom,a nd he goes behind me 'destroying' it! We do Legos. I build the tower and he knocks it down. Mostly though, like you say, he likes to be on his own, playing his piano, or playing with his cars.
Love the profile pic, BTW!!
Personally, it may sound bad, but I'm enjoying it as long as possible, because soon enough they go through the stage where they can't do anything by themselves and want you to play with them all the time!!

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2010




awesome, this makes me feel so much better. Ben sounds like most other babies - he will play with me and I do interact with him (we spend quite a bit of time in his room each day with me reading to him and him playing). I'm pleased that he does want to go off on his own and knows how to entertain himself and I don't feel so bad, now, about letting him do that! :)

Tiziana - posted on 10/29/2010




I have the same thoughts, my lo just likes to play on his own, when I try to play with him he'll play for like 2 minutes and then he moves away and does his own thing, I guess it's a good thing, it tells me he is very independent. And he does sometimes come to me and wants me to play with him or chase him around the house.

Jasmine - posted on 10/29/2010




We are we're home most of the time to, for the first month after i had him we were snowed in! But we usually play little games, i've taught him a few funny things like 'high 5's' and we read books as well we also have little sing songs. He is happy to play on his own but like you i feel like i'm neglecting him if i just let him get on with it. Other than that we go to mother and toddler twice a week which is how i keep my sanity and we are about to also take up swimming. Freddie is ten months old.

Cecily - posted on 10/28/2010




mine is the opposite. he always has to have someone playing with him. when its just us at home, we play games scoot around in his walker or push his walker. sometimes we go outside or to the park. he is a handful. it changes everyday. sometimes i wish he would be content playing alone! lol!

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