What has happened to my baby??!!

Andrea - posted on 12/02/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




My LO will be 1 year on the 15th. Up until 3 days ago, she has been very good about playing by herself, entertaining herself, would sit in her high chair and feed herself while i tend to housework and such, but 3 days ago, all of that stopped. If i put her in her room and walk out, she immediately cries. If i even begin to put her in her high chair, (much less leave the room) she cries. She is fine as long as she is in the room with me. She doesn't even have to be held, just be in the same room. i have been trying to figure out what has changed and i can't come up with anything. Anybody else with a December baby having a problem like this? is this a phase? i have been leaving her to cry, hoping she will stop, but she doesn't. She will cry until i come back, no matter how long it takes. What am i going to do?


Sandra - posted on 12/02/2010




Separation anxiety. But don't worry, it is a phase. It's pretty common at this age (usually 12-18 months but can happen as early as 6 or 7 months). Some children just get it worse than others. Here's a article that might help. It explains why children do this, how long you can expect this phase to last, and what you can do in the mean time to help them cope.



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Hayley - posted on 12/08/2010




My daughter turned one today... and 3days sgo started crying and wouldnt leave myside, however was fine today so im hoping she was just feeling a liitle out of sorts? who knows

Andrea - posted on 12/08/2010




Jennifer suggested peek-a-boo as a remedy to the situation and it's been working. i started doing it the day she responded to my post and immediately got results. since then, she is slowly getting back to her independence. Thanks Jennifer!

Michelle - posted on 12/08/2010




YES! This is exactly what I am going through. It was like a switch flipped one day. My son cries as soon as I am out of arm's reach!

It's reassuring to hear this is completely normal and many people are going through it. I am just trying to talk to him when I go out of the room and then comfort him when I come back. But I am trying not to let it stop me from my everyday life. The worse is dropping him off at daycare though, he hugs onto me for dear life and my provider has to pull him off me. So sad.... I know it's going to get better though. Good Luck to you too!

@Sandra- Thanks for the article post- VERY helpful!!

Alandra - posted on 12/05/2010




haha i know Exactly how you feel .. I thought maybe it was because he was teething as well . But even when i leave the room with other family holding him he gets upset . I dont mind though as long as it is just a phase hahaha ...

Kim - posted on 12/05/2010




My boys do that times 2! I have twin boys and every time I leave the room they both chase after me, especially if they are cranky. It can be frustrating at times, but like others have said, peek a boo works great. I tend to just act really silly till they stop being upset and they get over it quickly.

Candice - posted on 12/03/2010




Yeah just separation anxiety. My lil fella had it around 8-9 months old and it was a testing time. A lot better now thankgoodness but I guess could get worse again before i know it.

User - posted on 12/03/2010




My son has (hopefully) just finished that phase. I couldn't even changes places on the couch without him having a meltdown!! It felt like it went on forever, but in reality it was 'only' a couple of weeks. I went halfway between letting him cry it out and carrying him everywhere. Afterwards, I remembered my older son doing the same thing right about this age.
Good luck!

Aneta - posted on 12/03/2010




thats separation axiety. And its normal to happen. I have to do the housework either during my daughter's nap or in the mornings before my husband leaves for work or on weekends. Everything except for vacuum. That one we do together with my daughter! :D literally coz that's the only case when i put her in walker and she tends to stand always next to me while I vacuum :))

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2010




I have the same problem with our son when I zip out of the room to the washroom or kitchen. I try to sing to him. Sometimes it works sometimes he is tired or getting hungry and wines for a minute or two then finds something to keep himself busy. Do you play peek-a-boo? I hide behind the wall and bounce out saying peekaboo and sometimes he thinks that's what I'm up to so he sways back and forth in anticipation of me coming back. I wave goodbye when he's whinny which doesn't help in the moment but I have to believe it will in the long run make him understand I come back. Good luck but this too shall pass.

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