13 month old daughter has started "screeching"

Whitney - posted on 11/28/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I don't know where she learned this, but my Daughter has started screeching when she gets mad! I try to ignore her when she does it, but does anyone have any ideas or how to nip it in the bud?


Laura - posted on 11/29/2010




This is a tricky conundrum: To allow screeching or to not allow it, that is the question. I actively worked to end that habit of expression in my daughter--IMO it is an inappropriate way to express oneself AND it is very disruptive to others when in public.

Ignoring certain negative behavior, like screeching, is usually a good first step to try. As others have mentioned, often the child will stop when it does not get the desired response from a parent. All that's needed is a bit of patience (and ear plugs!). HOWEVER, if the screeching behavior continues for very long and is goes unacknowledged , then one runs the risk of sending the message to the child that this is an acceptable form of expression/communication. Screeching can become a habit that then becomes harder to deal with. At this point parental intervention becomes needed.

When my daughter was little she tried this screeching only a few times (fortunately) and we immediately countered with a firm "no screaming, use your indoor voice, please" (the use of "no" is contreversial in and of itself, but we have always found it useful). Only after she stopped, and we waited a few moments, did her dad and I give her some attention. She only did this once (that I can remember anyway) in a public place where I immediately removed her from the store--which worked well because she didn't get to look at the toys there! We were consistent with how we dealt with this behavior and she learned pretty quickly that screaming/screeching was not a good way to get our attention. Afterall, part of a parent's job is to teach. Teaching children appropriate social behavior makes it easier for them to get along with others in the long run. My husband and I chose to teach her that this behavior was not acceptable early on rather than later. It saved my eardrums! Hope this helps a bit and good luck!


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Jenna - posted on 12/02/2010




Yess..my 6 month old daughter just started doing it!! I don't understand how such a little baby can be so loud!!..she usually does it when she's really tired...most of the time she'll do it until it turns into kinda like a growl...lol...i let her fall asleep, i think it's her way of soothing herself..(if that makes any since) but if it gets real loud i will pick her up and rock her to sleep..

Jevonna - posted on 11/30/2010




my son does this and he is only 6 months old. I think its because he likes the variations in his voice. he also likes to make the whisper sounds. I just praise him on the whispers and when he is screeching i tell him shhh soft voice

Sarh - posted on 11/30/2010




Maybe that is just her way of expressing her feelings? Or maybe she found it as a new thing to do to get the attention she wants even if you are trying to ignore it....?

Whitney - posted on 11/29/2010




Thank you everyone for the responses! It's kind of nice to know that it is a semi-normal behavior. I will keep up with the ignoring, and hope that she just gets over it.

Thanks again!

Amanda - posted on 11/28/2010




Yes the screech :) We keep ignoring it, although she is STILL doing it, we're hoping she will realize with time that we aren't responding to it. Eventually she gets distracted by something else, but still hasn't caught on that its not going to be encouraged. Good luck!

Kat - posted on 11/28/2010




omg, the screech. my son did that, too. only he screeched for no reason and when he was mad. he started at 10 months and stopped at 12 months (guess it got old for him) and started again at 16 months and is still going at almost 18 months. i think it's a way to get mommy's attention, and if you have a reaction to it (and who wouldnt - it could break glass), theyre like "oooooo - mommy reacted." once you get used to it, it'll stop when she discovers a new sound (my son went from screeching to growling)

Janice - posted on 11/28/2010




Its probably bad of me, but I enjoy it. My daughter doesn't say anything but Mom. So I enjoy her "expression", she will talk so enough. Then I will have her use her words. For now, she's talking to me.

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