4 month old - trouble sleeping

Kristi - posted on 12/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter is almost 4 months old now and still has a very sporadic sleeping schedule - especially at night! Sometimes she will sleep for 6 hours without waking up but most nights she only sleeps for about 4 maybe 5 hours and wakes up around 1 or 2 in the morning. Ever since she was born she has been very finicky about her sleep cycle - most days she only cat naps for an hour at a time! ANY SUGGESTIONS, IDEAS OR REASON'S why she may be doing this???



Jackie - posted on 12/11/2009




My daughter is going to be 4 months old the day after christmas. I have been fortunate to have her sleeping through the night the past month. The only time she has been waking up in the middle of the night is when she is hitting growth spurts. My suggestion is to do your best as to keep her up as much as possible during the day, keep her busy with shiny things or lights or whatever happens to amaze or keep her attention. Then at night when its time to go to bed for her, go to bed yourself. Thats what I do. My step son has to go to bed about 9 or 930 every night for school so when he goes to bed the whole family including my daughter, myself, my husband and even the dog. But doing that you limit all noises in the house that could wake her up. Also trying feeding her before bed, if you are bottle feeding try a slight bit warmer water, not hot but just really warm like you would make yourself a hot glass of milk for you only not steaming for the baby and then rock her to sleep. These are things I do with my daughter and have been fortunate with getting full night rest. In bed at 9 or 930 and up around 6am except during growth spurts then its up at 4am for 30 mins and then back to bed. Hope this helps.

Emma - posted on 12/10/2009




From what I've heard, babies internal clocks don't kick in til around 6 mo old. But there are things you can do to help you baby during this time. Take her outside during daytime hours, make sure your lights are on (if you have a dark place) during the day and have no noise, no lights on during the night time hours.

This may sound mean, but when my son wakes up for a feeding during the night I don't say a word. I feed him, change him and put him back to bed. If he fusses, I repeat the cycle. But, when he was waking up for over a month at 4am and just wanted to be comforted I started co-sleeping with him. He still goes to bed in his crib but after midnight I pull him into bed with me.

My son also catnaps during the day, he has about 6-7 30/45 min naps during the day depending on what time he wakes up, and occasionally I breastfeed lying down in the afternoon and he ends up sleeping for about an hour when I do this (whether I stay lying down or not).


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Ashley - posted on 12/18/2009




My son is 3 months old and he would usually wake up two times during the night. I would try to keep him up during the day and that didn't seemed to help. Someone had told me to just let him sleep as much as he wants to during the day and he should still sleep at night. He used to go to bed around 7pm and sleep till 10pm or so, go back to sleep and wake up around 1am and then go back to bed and wake up at 4am or 5 and be ready for the day. Now, I let him sleep during the day, usually every two hours he is falling asleep anywhere from 30 min to an hour and 30 min, eats, gets changed, plays and smiles for awhile and then falls back asleep. At 9:00 I give him a bath and then lather him up with night time sleep lotion, feed him, sometimes read him a book and let him fall asleep (somtimes the swing works best and then transfer him to the crib) and is asleep by 10/10:30 and sleeps all night!! I sometimes hear him wiggling around on the monitor aroun 1 or 2 so I go in and put his pacifier back in his mouth. Last night I heard him but didn't check and he must have fell back asleep because he was still sleeping at 7:30 this morning! A bath at night really seems to be working for us! And don't forget the bedtime lotion (also bedtime bath-waiting to go to the store and buy some)

Renae - posted on 12/13/2009




Her sleeping is perfectly normal. Between 3 and 6 months you can expect her to still need one or two night feeds, 4-6 hours sleep at a time is normal. The cat napping is also totally normal, almost all babies do this. They go through a phase of only sleeping for one sleep cycle at a time (usually 30-45 minutes, an hour is good). The cat napping should stop around 6-7 months.

Emma mentioned that her internal clock hasn't kicked in yet. That is true, latest research says that the "clock" isn't fully functioning until 40 weeks old (that's about 9-10 months).

Jodi mentioned the book Save Our Sleep, lots of people swear by this book it is worth reading.

In all, your baby is doing exactly what she should be doing for her age. I see no reason for you to intervene.

Naomi - posted on 12/11/2009




is she alert and wanting to play at night? or is it just that she's up to eat or be changed and then back to sleep? My son has always been great with knowing night and day, like he does get up a lot in the night lately, (he used to do 8 hours, now more like 4 or 5 ) but I just pull him out of his bassinet into bed, nurse and in 15 minutes he's down again, I can stay half asleep the whole time. Thank goodness he still fits the bassinet! I try hard not to change him if possible, to keep him quiet and not excited. don't talk to him or interact except for what's necesssary. Other than that, Hang on! This season doesn't last forever!

Jodi - posted on 12/11/2009




I recommend a book by Tizzie Hall called Save our Sleep, my sister in law calls it Save our Lives lol I tend to agree with her. As with any book you take from it what you need and what is relevent to you but it has worked miracles with my bub.


Christina - posted on 12/11/2009




My daughter is 4 months also and she rarely sleeps through the night. We just started her on cereal and it seems to be helping. I used to take her out of the crib when she wakes up, but I try to just check her diaper and if it's dry, I give her a binky. Sometimes she goes right back to sleep. I realized I could try this after so many nights that I would start breastfeeding her and she would fall right back to sleep. I think the best advice is to just go with it for now. We have to be patient. They will eventually sleep through the night and probably within the next couple months.

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