Am I overreacting or should I be worried?

Annie - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




Hi ladies,

I am 23 weeks pregnant with my first born and I have started having some very vivid dreams these past few months, all of which result in my baby dying or even being killed. I rarely have pleasant dreams of him which bothers me as I love him so much already.

I am really starting to worry about this, I wake up in tears almost every night and now I'm starting to question the health and well being of my unborn child. Has anyone ever shared the same concern or know what I am going through? Please help! :(


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Jaime - posted on 10/01/2009




I had some really bad dreams when I was pregnant with both my babies. Also for awhile afterwards as well. Nothing ever came of it, although I had myself convinced that something would. Good Luck. and try to think positive!

Christine - posted on 10/01/2009




i had a dream that i had kittens and woke up hyperventilating. it was terrible! it took a lot of talking before i calmed down. now the dreams have all but gone away and mason is almost 5 mos.

Heather - posted on 10/01/2009




These dreams are normal. It is due to the fear of the unknown. Because you cannot see or hold your baby, you have this subconscious fear that you cannot protect them. That translates into your dreams as bad things happening because you feel helpless. Unless your doctor has given you a reason to worry about the health of your baby, try not to stress about the dreams. Sometimes your subconscious can play some really weird tricks on you.

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Hi, vivid dream, and nightmares, are common in pregnancy. I used to dream almost every night, and it was always bad stuff. As long as you keep up with appointments with your dr (or who ever you see), there isn't to much else you can do, and if's you've had your 20 week scan then they would probably have picked if anything was badly wrong. I used to sick in my doctors waiting room feeling sick until i saw his heart beat on the ultrasounds. When I felt like this, I was told, but many people, that it is normal and even a little expected for first timers to dream like this, and feel worried about their baby.

Ashley - posted on 10/01/2009




I had those kind of dreams too, I think that was because I had a miscarriage before, but it was also probably because it was my first full-term pregnancy. I kept watching all these Discovery Health shows about rare diseases and thought my child would get something.

It didn't help that at my ultrasounds they kept saying how big my baby was (and I tested negative to gestational diabetes) so I thought something was wrong.

BUT, it turned out that my little stinker (who was four weeks early...water broke at work, haha) was only six pounds fourteen ounces. :)

Don't fret though, I think most moms have them.

Congrats by the way!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/01/2009




They suck, don't they! I dream almost every night that my baby has been smothered in my bed, and she sleeps in the next room. Only upside to these dreams is that I wake easily and I then have a good opportunity to check on her, because she's a quiet sleeper. Actually, I wonder if that's why I have these dreams.

Heather - posted on 10/01/2009




I think every woman has experienced this in some way. My doc stated that it was probably the result of being concerned about this life-changing event and the fact that you want to be the best mommy you can. Therefore, naturally, you tend to worry about things, especially when you're sleeping and you don't have control over it. Don't worry. I'm sure that everything is fine and you'll be smiling at your healthy little bundle before long!!

Kate - posted on 10/01/2009




Annie, It's your first child therefore you are bound to be concerned about the pregnancy, birth and then the upbringing of your child. I think some worries are perfectly normal, after all you are about to responsible for a new life. Dont stress too much, enjoy every scan and kick. I wish you all the best x

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I had these types of dreams throughout my pregnancy, specifically in my second and third trimester. I have heard that they are very common. I used to have a re-occurring dream that my baby was in the bed with me and would be tangled up in the bed sheets and suffocate. This was before she was even born! I still have those dreams now (she is six months old), but they are not as frequent or intense as my pregnancy dreams. Hang in there! It's completely normal. You are going through a crazy change and headed for an amazing life altering experience which can be kind of scary. You are doing great!

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