baby calming advice

Shantanna - posted on 10/31/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




my son is 1 month and does the normal 1 month old things such as whining and fussing for no reason i can find. my solution for it has been to either get upset and irritated or to simply put him down and let him scream for a while. i do not want to be doing either of these because it is not his fault but at the same time i don't know what else to do. i have tried all the calming techniques from the experets, they dont work. so if you have any ideas please post.



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Iysha - posted on 11/01/2009




I like to give my baby a baby massage and talk to her softly when she is crying. It helps to calm her down just enough that after, I can hold her and put her to sleep.

I watched a movie while I was in the Hospital about soothing babies. There was like a 4 step process... 1) swaddle, if that doesn't work, 2) add a pacifier, if that doesn't work, 3) add SHUHing sounds, if that doesn't work, 4) add a little jiggle on the baby's side. I used to have to do all 4 at the same time. now, just a swaddle and a jiggle can do the trick.

Good Luck =] It gets better.

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2009




Also do you notice he tends to fuss more in the evening around 6pm? Try getting him to snuggle with you at this time and have a feed, then try getting him to sleep so you can avoid this horrid time of day...

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2009




And donr forget hes only been around for 4 weeks, ull be a dab hand at soothing him just need to give it a little time and lots of patience. Make sure your calm when you go to him and try and get him inot a little routine so he knows whats going to happen next...This way when you put him down at the same time every day he knows thats whats going on and mommys coming back soon.

You have to find something that works for you both.

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2009




Hi Shantanna,

All the suggestions above are really good ones to try and calm baby.Is he bottle/breast fed? Maybe hes a little bit hungry and needs a fill up? What is his cry like? like hes in pain or just wanting attention? If you try all the above and nothing works, (def try changing his milk if you think he could be gassy) or try feeding him a little bit more upright and then keep him upright for 20 minutes to let his milk settle. Make sure you get some wind out of him before you lie him down again. It sometimes took me ages to get something out of my daughter but it def helps them settle.

Maybe you can try letting him sleep on one of your jumpers so he can smell you and this may comfort him.

Take him for a walk in the buggy. Wrap him up and go for a long walk.

Give him a warm bath...this may help ease any pian he may have if hes got a poorly tummy. Give him a nice gentle massage rubbing in an outward circular motion around his belly. Also you can try putting on some classical music or music designed especially for baby. I got a wonderful CD from Pampers my daughter loved it.

I even made up my own song along to one of the tunes and used to sing it to her which really seemed to calm her down. I still sing it now, she loves it (though i cant actually sing lol).

Putting her in a baby sling worked very well when I was trying to do dinner.

Im pretty sure youll get loads of different ideas from moms on here soon x

Jamie - posted on 10/31/2009




My little boy is 2 months now and I went through the same experience you did! I'll just tell you a few things I've tried. The first thing I did was I made sure there wasn't anything wrong that I could find (hungry, diaper, fever, etc.). I did talk to my pediatrician and she asked if he was gassy. Turned out he had an upset stomach from the gas. So we switched his formula to a sensitive tummy similac and gave him Mylicon drops. He was less fussy. I got frustrated and all that too, but you need to try your best to stay calm because babies do pick up on the frustration and it can make the situation worse. Try the 5 "S"'s like Sarah suggested to get him calm. We found that Landon liked to be swung so we went and bought a swing and it worked wonders. Other things we tried was just talking to him, bouncing (gently) with him (surprisingly that worked too), we put a book in front of him and read it to him (I think it just distracted him and gave him something else to focus on) and changing his environment (walk him around outside for a few minutes). Well that's all I have to offer, I hope you find a solution!

Sarah - posted on 10/31/2009




Sorry, but unfortunately some newborns just cry! Many newborns don't like to feel alone - have you tried a carrier or a wrap to keep him close but leaves your arms free? It's okay to put him down crying in a safe place for 10 minutes so you can calm down & take a few minutes to eat or pee - it's crazy how new moms can go all day without doing either! The 5 "S"s give some good ideas for soothing a fussy baby - Swaddle, Shush (white noise), Swing/Sway, Stomach/Side positioning, and Suck (soother/pacifier). Good luck - if nothing works, just remember it DOES get better with time.

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