Baby Number Two

Katie - posted on 08/20/2010 ( 77 moms have responded )

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My son is 5-months-old and was born in March, and we are thinking we want to start trying for our second in February (a month before he turns 1) so that are kids are kind of close in age. We don't want them farther than 2 years apart so I was wondering how long it took to get prego with your second child. With my first kid I got prego after being off the pill for just about 2 weeks, and was wondering if there is anyone that got prego that soon with their first and how long it took with their second. I am currently on the birth control Nuva Ring.

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Kirsty - posted on 11/01/2012

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me and my partner are trying for another my son is 3 mouths im just waiting to find out if im pregnant its hard

Nikki - posted on 08/20/2010

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We are in the exact same boat, we started trying in May when my son was 11 months, we want a 2-2.5 year max gap. Im still not pregnant yet but its only been 3 months. Now we are hoping to aim for November because I just started a new job and need to work there a bit before I tell my boss Im prego..... I know planning doesnt always go perfect. our first son was an accident but the BEST one we have ever made. I think a 2 year gap is perfect , they will be so close growing up yeah it will be alot of work in the beginning but so worth it, I too dont want to be too far from Ayden being young so Im still in the same mind frame

Kristy - posted on 08/30/2010

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I got pregnant with our 1st, we weren't trying, so dont know how long it took, and our 2, probably a few months, and our 3rd 1 period.

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Lisa - posted on 11/05/2012

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It took 8 months of trying to get pregnant with my first so we were expecting the same with the second when the time came. I was on the pill from the age of 15 and it had been working fine for me, but my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer just before my daughter turned 2 and I missed a few pills because of the stress. As aresult I ended up pregnant a year before we had planned! I think 2nd time around your body knows what its doing so it happens much faster :-) that's just been my experience, it may be different for you and the BC you are using

Angela - posted on 09/16/2010

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i had two miscarriages before i had gotten pregnant with my daughter. she was born may 2009 and i had found out i was pregnant again in september of 2009. i now have a 16 month old daughter and a 4 month old son. they are exactly 1 year and 9 days apart. i was not on bc the 1st time nor the 2nd but i am now on the nuva ring so not to sure how long it will take to get pregnant again i am assuming as soon as you take it out and after you have your period. when you try post and leave us know i would like to try for my 3rd next year sometime so all my kids are close just how you said you wanted them!! hope this helps in some way!

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me and my husband have decided that we want our children to be close in age our boy will be 9 months this month and we r going to start trying now we had always talked about starting when he was 9 months so that the next one would hopefully be born before he is 2 and not in the same month fingers crossed. we hope that it will take only 3 months as it took 2.5 when we started to try for our first when we had been told it would take a yr at least. we will keep ya posted

Alicia - posted on 09/04/2010

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My husband came back from Iraq right as our first son was turning one and we found out we were pregnant less then a month later. We weren't trying but we weren't not trying. Right now I have a little boy who will be 2 at the end of October and an 8 week old. It's a lot of work and I wish we would've waited a little bit longer but my husband is also deployed again so it's just me which could be part of that.

Christina - posted on 09/03/2010

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Well I was taking the pill and still got pregnant so I cant really answer that question we werent trying for our second so soon as our daughter is only 8 months but I am 2 months pregnant with our second

Shauna - posted on 09/03/2010

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My son will be 2 1/2 when our second is born .. Im finding it hard to bend and pick up after him tho

Melanie - posted on 09/02/2010

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I would stop the Nuva Ring. It took me over two years, after having it for 3 months, to get pregnant. And I won't ever use birth control in a synthetic form again. I was told I could start trying and should be pregnant within a year.

Marie - posted on 09/02/2010

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i say go for it! now! everyone is different, but everytime i have tried to get pregnant, it worked!

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2010

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my daughter is nine months, we started trying, but not too hard, when she was 7 months. i hope to be pregnant by or just after her first birthday in november. my boyfriend is convinced its not gonna happen again cuz our first took less than a month, but was a total accident. neither of us thought we could have kids. i keep telling him its gonna take longer if he keeps dwelling on it. we dont get too many chances to try though so of course it could take awhile! lol

Jamie - posted on 09/01/2010

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Yes I got prego very easy after my first... He is 21months apart from his older sister.... I was still on birth control when i got prego with him so i bet it will be very easy 4 u

Kami - posted on 08/28/2010

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I have a friend who already had one child and was using nuva ring, her and her husband were talking about another one but wasnt quit sure just yet. She was 3 days late on putting it back in and she got pregnant. It may be different with other woman but I know if u just mess up with some, it can be an automatic pregancy so i dont think it would take to long to get pregnant.... and it is really good to have your kids pretty close together so they can have a playmate.

Lylia - posted on 08/28/2010

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we started trying when our 1st son was 18 mths old, didn't fall preggers til 6 mths l8r, miscarried and was preggers again 3 mths. Our 2nd son was born in July, 1st son was 3.

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im preggie wiv my 2nd now. due n oct!! my 1st was nly 3nd hlf mths old. sure it doesnt take long at al!! i found i got preggie wiv both d week after my period. bu evry 1 s diff. al i can say s keep avin fun (f u no wat i mean) as many times as u wanted nd it wil happen. cuz ye both no dat ur fertile!!! lol ;)

Julie - posted on 08/28/2010

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Well we got pregnant with our 2nd when our 1st was only 8 months old. I was just getting ready to start the pill when I was late and realized I was pregnant. We weren't trying. We didn't want our girls that close together although now it's nice. It was oops letting my husband talk me into "no raincoat just this once." So I may not be the most helpful for you. Now our 3rd wasn't born until 4 1/2 years later. Partly because we wanted a longer space due to the 1st 2 being so close together. The other part though was that when I went off the pill I experienced what's called secondary infertility. I actually thought I was pregnant a few months after we started trying because I stopped having periods. 3 pregnancy tests were negative though including the last one at my doctor's and further testing confirmed I had stopped ovulating, partly due to an unexplained 30 lb. weight gain even though I was exercising like a fanatic and mostly eating salads. I wound up having to take Clomid and progesterone to start having periods again and ovulating so I could even try to get pregnant. After a couple months of that and still no success I had further tests done which revealed I had hostile mucus which was killing my husband's sperm. So after taking conjugated estrogen to neutralize the acidic conditions we were finally able to have #3. Just be careful because my first 2 are only 17 months apart and because my body hadn't recovered fully after the first baby, I started dilating at 20 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy and had to be put on complete bedrest, medication and constant monitoring the rest of the pregnancy. I went into labor 5 times and had to go to the hospital to have it stopped. I managed to go full term, but it was very stressful. I would consult with your doctor about whether your body is physically ready to try for a 2nd one before you do so that your baby has the best possible chance and you will be in good health. Other than that good luck. Having 2 children that little is very stressful especially if you have a very smart active toddler and a colicky baby like we did, but if mentally you think you can handle it more power to you. Come high school and beyond they will be really close, especially if they are the same sex. Before that it's a little rocky especially if they have opposite personalties like our girls do. We have 6 children though and we have found that they come when they are supposed to and somehow it all works out.

Rosemary - posted on 08/27/2010

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We started trying for #2 when Our son was 15 months, took 6 months to conceive, our son only took 5 months

Alison - posted on 08/27/2010

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My daughter was a year old when I got pregnant with my son. We decided when she was 9 months to start trying, however, I had a UTI which prevented me from trying that month. The next month nothing, but the next we were pregnant with my son who is now 19 months. I love the age difference, but it's alot of work! I want a 3rd, but am too tired at the moment! Good Luck to you! :)

Leanne - posted on 08/27/2010

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i lost a baby at 8 weeks never got period again because found out i was pregnant with my fith child after her birth waas breast feeding then when she was 3 months old found out i was pregnant again. i think i got then close enough lol. ones b day is march 19 youngest is april 1st lol

Alison - posted on 08/27/2010

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Hi there, I first fell pregnant on my honeymoon the first month off the pill. Just found out I am pregnant again with my 2nd child (we were using natural contraception, so I must have been a day out with my ovulation). Anyway my daughter Chelsea is 7 months old. Good luck Ali

Candice - posted on 08/27/2010

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Hi Katie! I was the same as you. We didnt want more than 2yrs between our children and as I was breastfeeding completely we decided not to bother with contraception. I got my period back a week before my daughters 1st birthday & fell pregnant on her bday. My two girls are 21 months apart...to the day (she was born on her due date)...and I wouldnt have it any other way! It is hard sometimes as my 1st child has eczema, asthma & wakes every night screaming due to the asthma....my baby now 7mths is an angel in comparison. But other than that the girls are the best of friends and to see them laughing together it justs makes all the tiredness go away. And my oldest daughter helps me so much...we want 2 more children but will have a larger gap between them to give my body a break :)

Nancy - posted on 08/26/2010

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Our daughter was 7 months old when we got pregnant with our son. I was on birth control pills for a few months, but stopped using them because they were affecting my moods too much. My kids are 16 months apart and while I wouldn't have it any other way, I'd highly recommend talking to some moms who have kids with such a close age difference about the ups and downs. Its very, very difficult with kids so close in age.

Abbi - posted on 08/26/2010

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took 7 months before we got pregnant again...I am due in a few short weeks and our kids will be 2 years apart. 26 months and I think its a great age gap b/c they can be friends! enemies at times too I am sure (: But kids who are farther apart just don't seem as close and then I hate it when I see parents making their 8 year old change their childs diapers and make the older sibling the permanent nanny...It is the parents responsibility to take care of the children. Yes having an older sibling help out is great and teaches them responsibility, but not making them the mom!

Christina - posted on 08/26/2010

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I was really lucky. I got pregnant the first month I tried with my first one, and then got pregnant the first month I tried with my second one. They ended up 2 yrs and 3 months apart. It was a good distance apart I think, but they are both girls and fight A LOT. My son is 2 yrs 9 months younger than his youngest sibling and they get along like two peas in a pod. But they are boy and girl, which I think makes a difference.

Cecelia - posted on 08/25/2010

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I have a April baby (2007) and a March (2010) baby and I am also wanting to start trying. There is no right or wrong time you just have to weight the pros and cons. You'll have one baby just learning to walk still in diapers and needy, will you have enough time and patience to deal with another baby that will be that much more demanding? Good luck!

Katie - posted on 08/25/2010

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My son is 8 months old and my husband and I know we want a second baby so I asked my OB/GYN about when having another baby would be best for my body and she told me that I should wait 18 months after giving birth to try for another in order to give my body enough time to recover and to prevent any complications with the next pregnancy.

Sarah - posted on 08/25/2010

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well see with my 2nd i did not no i was pregant till 4 months gone and my son was only 6 months when i had her i found it was hard to get them to bond as they was so young but it is not to hard to get preant after have your frist child

Michelle - posted on 08/25/2010

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We fell pregnant with our second son at our first attempt. There is 2 years difference with our boys. Good luck.

Debbie - posted on 08/25/2010

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My kids are 15 months and 1 week apart!! My daughter stopped breastfeeding at 6 months and then 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant!

Melinda - posted on 08/25/2010

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dont take it as a sure thing that it will be easy the second time around.. it took 2 years and clomid to get pregnant with #2, guess I stopped ovulating.. I am now trying for #3 and gonna have to do clomid again.

Nicole - posted on 08/25/2010

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:) Got pregnant right away with #1, took us a year and a half to get pregnant with #2.

Melinda - posted on 08/25/2010

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We chose to wait 3 yrs between our First and second child and then our son was 5 mths old when I fell pregnant again with our third so therefore he is now 14 mths old and we have a newborn, With experience I wouldn't recomend to have Children too close together don't get me wrong I love all 3 of my children but its a lot of work with one just over one and a newborn

Mandy - posted on 08/25/2010

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my 2 are about 4 years apart through choice, but I did fall with my 2nd the 2d month of trying (I think it would have happened the 1st but my hubby was away at the right time of the month) and I was using the Mirena coil prior.

Katie - posted on 08/24/2010

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Neither of my pregnancies were planned. With my first I was not on any birth control. My boyfriend and I were together for just over a year when I got pregnant. After he was born, I went on the depo shot. I missed my second shot in Dec and got pregnant the first week of January. My first son was 7 months old. My boys are 15 months apart in age.

Jenn - posted on 08/24/2010

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It's funny how we happened to find out we were having baby #2. I had gone into the doctors on the day of my sons first birthday to go back on birth control since we didn't really think of having another baby anytime soon. Well, I found out that same day that we were having our second son. With my first son, we got pregnant about 3 months after I went off the pill. With my second, it must have been a month before our first sons birthday.

Andrea - posted on 08/24/2010

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Hi,
I had my first son in July of '09 and found out that i was Pregnant again in Spetember. My kis are now 11 months and 1 weeks apart. It's kool!
I was on birthcontrol with my firs and i missed in two weeks of the set and than just stopped and it took me 3 months to concieve. My second Son i was Nursing my first and got pregant with in that week of trying. I never had a periode yet I just know that ne of the three try's we concived and he was born this past June. We are planning on trying again this spring for another one. I love the idea of having my kids close.

Christian - posted on 08/24/2010

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My husband and I conceived when my first born was 17 months old and we are due to have baby #2 about 1 month after he turns 2. Still close enough in age, I would have liked a little closer but it works for me. We didn't seriously TRY though, we were just thinking, if it happens it was meant to be, if not oh well.

Brooke - posted on 08/24/2010

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I waited a long time i had my first one in 2005 and my 2 one in 2010. i got pregnant fast with my 2 child right after we started trying.

Lisa - posted on 08/24/2010

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My daughter was 13 months old when I got pregnant with my son. I went off the pill and 2 weeks later was pregnant it was the same for my daughter 2 weeks after going off the pill we got pregnant with her. My daughter is now 22 months old and my son is 1 week old and I love every minute of my busy life even though its exhausting

Sara - posted on 08/24/2010

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My children are 22 months apart. I stopped breastfeeding to give my body a break before getting pregnant again, and got pregnant the first month we tried.

Brittany - posted on 08/24/2010

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My little boy is a year and a half and I'm currently pregnant with another :) After I have my son we didn't use condoms or nothing and it took me almost a year to get pregnant again. It took me about a month to get pregnant with my first! Good luck!

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1st baby took 2yrs to get pregnant but our second only took 2 months! Our sons will be 17 1/2 months apart I am due Jan 2011

Cassandra - posted on 08/24/2010

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my daughter is nine months old and my husband and I are starting to talk about a second baby. Im really starting to want one but I dont think we are financially stable for two little's. My hubby's favorite saying " we'll figure it out" and we dont want the kids to far apart no more than a couple of years.

Elysia - posted on 08/23/2010

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my first took me about 9months after i was treated for endometriosis and my 2nd was only 5/6months. i never went back on birth control after i had my son but i was breastfeeding

Melanie - posted on 08/23/2010

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Hi katie, I have 2 boys, aged 11. & 5. and my baby is due in 8 weeks, so they are all spaced 5 & half years apart. it has it's up side to wait so long, because then one child is completely out of your hands and you can give baby his undevided attention. however, the dont really "grow up together" in the sense that they have completely different interests. they do get along fine for now, but I'm afraid, once the older one starts high school, all that wil change, so I really think the sooner you have all your kids, the better

Jamie - posted on 08/23/2010

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Well, I got pregnant with my first child after 1 month of trying. When she was 10 months old my husband wanted "protection free birthday" sex. Well, I am now 5 months pregnant from that one time. lol. We are happy about it just a little shocked still. lol. Good luck!

Bernadette - posted on 08/23/2010

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Oh, and another thing I forgot to mention: I am one of five children, and there was approximately 2 years between all of us, except me and the next one up from me (I am number 4). She is three years older than me. As a result, my younger sister and I were kind of separate from the three older sisters so it was always "the big girls" and the "little girls". My younger sister and I were always close, as the older girls obviously grew up faster than we did and grew out of the things we were into long before we did. It was nice that we always had someone to play with. It was also great having older sisters as they could do other things with us that we couldn't do on our own, and would also do a lot of things for us, but there is just something special about having someone close in age that you can grow up with and share everything with. My younger sister and I are still close and still do a lot together. And she adores my daughter.

Bernadette - posted on 08/23/2010

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I was exactly the same. I didn't want more than two years between my daughter and our next one either. She was born in April 09, and around Christmas we started to discuss when we might start trying for another one. We both agreed it wasn't quite time to start trying yet as we weren't ready to share our time with Ella just yet. We were enjoying her way too much! We did decide, however, that we would stop trying NOT to get pregnant. We knew there wasn't much chance of it happening anyway since we weren't actively trying and due to tiredness, work and the fact that Ella still sleeps in our room, we were hardly ever doing the deed anyway! Even despite knowing it wasn't likely though, after three months of getting my period I was feeling a little disappointed that it hadn't happened, so we decided to start actively trying. Since we still weren't getting much opportunity to do so, however, we thought we might try to increase our chances by at least making sure we were doing it at the right time of month so I started using an ovulation kit. We had another two month with no success, but on the third month we got lucky! Now our new baby is due 2 days before Ella's second birthday. So anyway, I think you can maximise your chances by using an ovulation kit so that even if you don't get the chance to try as often as you'd like, you can at least work out when is the best time to try. They are available at the chemist or supermarket, and it worked for us!

Faith - posted on 08/23/2010

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we started trying for #2 when our son turned a year old. He turned 1 january 3rd and we concieved late january. We are expecting our baby girl at the end of october. We aren't haveing any more after her.

Robin - posted on 08/23/2010

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I am 4 month preg with second and my son just turned 1 in Aug. We thought of really trying in Aug but I got preg right away, it seemed that as my son weaned himself from me I got preg. So you probably will have no problems.

Sue - posted on 08/23/2010

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I waited for a to have my second only cause we waited so long to have our first. Was hard to get pregnant in the beginning. we tryed ivf before falling pregnant with our son aidan naturally. After years of being together not using much contraception at all it just happened. I was on the pill when i was 19 went off cause it made me ill. So now after having my second i had to go on in for the first time since then and im now 33 and i hated it cause same thing, ill again. But the likeliness of falling pregnant was all to commen so i have to be careful. You should start trying when your ready, don't wait cause it may be easier/ harder its up to the gods!!! They say that those nuva rings can prolong how long it takes to get pregnant, but everyones different. By the sounds of it u got pregnant easily with your first, so just give it time and still nothing then see your doctor, they may recommend you take vitamins to increase chances. Good luck .

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i wasnt on any birth control before becoming pregnant with my kids! we just decidd to stop using condoms! for the first it took about 7 months of unprotected sex but for the 2nd it took nearly 14months so it could take a while! it just depends on how your body reacts and if it wants to get pregnant! i dont believe in planning as such because if it is meant to happen then your body will let it!!
good luck!! xxx

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