Being a new mom is great

Brittany - posted on 10/04/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi to everyone, i'm a new member here on circle of moms and i just recently had my son two months ago. I am very happy to be a mom but at times I feel so depressed and sad, I feel alone, and at times, and because none of my other friends have children they tend to never have time for me and one of closest friends has turned her back on me. Should i confront her about the issue and what should I do about feeling depressed? I need your honest feedback, dont hold back.


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Meagan - posted on 10/06/2009




I'm so sorry you're going through this. The first thing you have to realize is that it's common - a lot of mom's feel depressed up to 12 or 14 weeks postpartum. I would take everything out on my husband - the poor guy. Once I recognized it as my hormones and that there wasn't anything really "wrong" with me, it helped me to cope. Make sure you are getting enough rest and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. A lot of that "alone" feeling that I was experiencing was because my husband was working and I felt stressed having to get up round the clock. But whatever you do - please talk to your doctor. Your OB/GYN will give you options and help you sort through it. Since it is more than likely a hormone thing, she might be able to help you work through it. And definitely talk to your friend. Getting things off your chest will help you too. Let her know how you feel and I'm sure it will make you feel much better. I hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your little one! :)

Courtenay - posted on 10/06/2009




hey i also had a son 2 months ago and am going through the same kind of issues... for me anit depresents r not an options. i have started doing things that i used to do b4 i had my son, going out for a coffee, going for a walk etc... you can still have your old life but now you have some to share it with and teach them that you dont have to stay home... try and smile and have a laugh... as for friends they always come and go, if they cant except you beacuse you have a child then stuff em... have you looked into going to a new mums group? i moved towns with my partner and am also shy, went to a new mums group and i love it... there are other women going through the same problems and you look at them and there kids and you look at your own and you know that your doing not a bad job....

hope this helps you.. best of luck

Iysha - posted on 10/04/2009




Call her and say that you feel lonely. Ask her to go somewhere with you. I feel lonely a lot too. I know people who have babies but they are either busy working or I have lost touch with them since High School. I get irratated because my boyfriend goes out whenever he pleases and I'm stuck at home or if I do go out, It's just me and baby or me, baby and a family member. I guess it just comes with the territory of being a new mother to an infant. I suppose it gets better when the child gets older because they don't have to eat as often. lol. Why not asking someone to watch the baby for a few hours while you go see amovie or go to the mall with a friend?

The loneliness will get better. I spend all the time my baby spends sleeping on here on most weekdays since I haven't been working. It seems to be a good outlet. I hang out at the mall or go to Target often too (looking at baby clothes) and I talk to other moms I see just shopping around too. lol.

Don't be afraid to talk to other mommies around your age when you see them and ask if they'd be interested in hanging out sometime with the babies or without. That way you can find playdates later and stuff.

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