
Iysha - posted on 09/07/2009 ( 146 moms have responded )
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I formula feed my baby. I personally love bottle feeding. I can stick a bottle or two of water in my purse along with some pre-measured servings of formula when I go out with my baby, I don't have to pump, I know exactly how much my baby is eating and that she is getting the nutrients she needs. I can bond with my baby without breastfeeding, and at night I have all the bottles ready with water along with a can of formula at my bedside. It was way easier for me and my daughter than breastfeeding.
I cannot stand the comments from some breastfeeding mothers and others about how "bad" formula feeding is. I have heard comments that imply laziness, carelessness, even neglect from people toward bottle feeding mothers. Bottle feeding mothers are looked down upon and I really don't think that is fair.
Anybody have anything to say about this?
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Mel - posted on 10/13/2011
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Really K.....Educated......How about having a bit of commom sense. I don't know if you realize how ignorant you sound. Have you even stopped to think that in some cases new mothers have no other choice but to bottle feed. Mothers who wish they could breast feed but their baby absolutely can't latch or mothers who don't produce enough milk and have to see their child cry and know that there's nothing they can do to help. So seriously who is the bad mom?.....The mother who does what she needs to do in order to make sure that her new born baby gets everything it needs or the mother that is so hell bent in her ways that she would refuse to even consider something that could actually provide a good life for their child.
You sit there judging people and how much do you really know or want to know for that matter. If you are so against bottle feeding why come in to this circle where new mothers that may be absolutely devastated that they can't breast feed may want to come for support and the first thing they'll read is your poison. If you love your kids so much just ask yourself this....how would you feel if it was your daughter that needed the support and what she had was the trash that you wrote. Seriously for someone who speaks of selfishness I have to say you are the perfect depiction of exactly that.
Oh and on a further note as for your comment of this world going to the dogs because of mothers that bottle feed....personally I think that angry, negative people who can't keep their ignorance to themselves has a much bigger part to play in "this world going to the dogs".
The definition of a good mom in my books is a woman that loves her children above and beyond all. She will do what ever it takes to make sure that her children are loved, healthy, and happy. How she gets there is her perogative not yours or mine. Every body has there own story so please do us all a favor find something else to do with your spare time rather than going around proving to everyone that there are truly ignorant people out there.
Tracyham35 - posted on 10/17/2011
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K, how fortunate you are to be able to take the moral high ground on this issue.Perhaps you can join another forum which has other perfect Mothers to "debate" with. Meanwhile, the rest of us are not perfect, but doing our best, and trying to encourage and support other human beings instead of judging and criticising. A little humility, would perhaps make your opinion valuable - as it stands, you are coming off as patronising, holier than though, and , to be honest, slightly unhinged. I'm sure that was not your intention.
â¥âªMeganâ«â¥ - posted on 10/16/2011
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K, maybe you and that stick up your butt should read a few of my posts and journey to the BREAST FEEDING MOMS forum which I'm a part of because I BREAST FEED MY BABY!
I breast feed, but my mother actually taught me some manners so I don't go around calling people I don't even know names and insulting them. And while doing that having a disreguard for science and genetics as well as proper English. Seriously woman have you heard of paragraphing your replies? My mom also taught me not to judge other people, it's a shame some others' moms didn't do the same
I was formula fed because my mom COULDN'T BREASTFEED BECAUSE I'M ADOPTED! I don't have asthma, I'm not obese, I don't have excema, I don't have allergies I have above average intelligence. The same with my brother. This may come as a shock but I know of people who were breast fed who have a lot of health issues. My ex and his brother both have severe allergies and my ex has scoliosis. A cousin of mine has scoliosis and asthma. My husband is prone to bronchitis whenever he gets a cold. I have friends who were breast fed who have allergies.
Moms shouldn't have to defend themselves against rude closed minded women with superiority issues.
Stephanie - posted on 10/15/2011
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I was a formula baby 25 years ago. My husband was a formula baby (soy too, of all things) 27 years ago. Neither of us are overweight, or below-average IQs, or ignorant for that matter.
With my first baby, I tried to breastfed. I wanted to. I tried for a couple of weeks but it was horribly painful, she wasn't latching well, the LLL nurses that were coming in trying to help weren't helping, and my poor baby was miserable and screaming because she was hungry. So we switched to formula. She was the healthiest baby out of everyone I knew with babies, including out of those that were breastfed. Everyone compliments us on how happy she is and her intelligence. I don't regret my decision.
Five months ago when my son was born, I pumped for a few days to get the colostrum but he was born with acid reflux and couldn't keep anything down. He went to the bottle straight away and was able to better keep the formula down. He has a very sensitive stomach so he receives half regular formula and half soy. He is also now a very happy baby.
Our public health nurse tried to give me hell over bottle feeding but I still don't regret it because I personally don't agree with "breast is best". It probably was at one point but we live in a completely different world than we did even 60 years ago. I know I can't afford to eat organic food, I often forget to eat when I'm busy taking care of my kids. I also live smack in the middle of downtown where all kinds of nasty pollution-causing cars, trucks, and buses are going by which our bodies absorb. After all, that's our excuse for using all of these creams and lotions that "fight free radicals caused by environmental stresses", right? How can we admit that our skin absorbs everything but not assume that it's going all the way in?
Read Kevin Trudeaus books. He refers to a study done on a group of women's breastmilk that tested positive for all kinds of scary things including jet fuel (falling from the sky when they fly over). There may be strange things in that can of formula but jet fuel isn't one of them.
Now, this is my opinion. I'm not against bottle or breast feeding moms because we're here to do what is best for our babies. Everyone can have their own opinion but there's no reason to try to impose our opinions on others. Nor is there any reason be nasty and rude about it either. Keep in mind, doing what is best for our kids also includes setting a good example. When you rude people get called to your child's school because your kid was bullying others or beating them up, you will probably realize that you're either the same way, or a complete hypocrite for punishing.
Ania - posted on 09/21/2011
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Briattany I can't agree with you on what is in formula and what is in breastmilk. Formula only feeds the baby with "dead" nutrients breast milk is a live liquid and it is not only immunity. It is also constantly changes its compositions to fit needs of baby breastfed babies have better gastric motility, mucosal mass, intestinal host defenses, brain and retinal growth. You should get your information straight. Also DHA and other added mechanically proteins enzymes etc are not well absorbed by human babies. It is good that we have formula because it can help to save life, but it should not be used if it is not necesarry.