Bottle Feeding Mommies

Iysha - posted on 09/07/2009 ( 146 moms have responded )

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I formula feed my baby. I personally love bottle feeding. I can stick a bottle or two of water in my purse along with some pre-measured servings of formula when I go out with my baby, I don't have to pump, I know exactly how much my baby is eating and that she is getting the nutrients she needs. I can bond with my baby without breastfeeding, and at night I have all the bottles ready with water along with a can of formula at my bedside. It was way easier for me and my daughter than breastfeeding.

I cannot stand the comments from some breastfeeding mothers and others about how "bad" formula feeding is. I have heard comments that imply laziness, carelessness, even neglect from people toward bottle feeding mothers. Bottle feeding mothers are looked down upon and I really don't think that is fair.

Anybody have anything to say about this?

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Mel - posted on 10/13/2011

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Really K.....Educated......How about having a bit of commom sense. I don't know if you realize how ignorant you sound. Have you even stopped to think that in some cases new mothers have no other choice but to bottle feed. Mothers who wish they could breast feed but their baby absolutely can't latch or mothers who don't produce enough milk and have to see their child cry and know that there's nothing they can do to help. So seriously who is the bad mom?.....The mother who does what she needs to do in order to make sure that her new born baby gets everything it needs or the mother that is so hell bent in her ways that she would refuse to even consider something that could actually provide a good life for their child.

You sit there judging people and how much do you really know or want to know for that matter. If you are so against bottle feeding why come in to this circle where new mothers that may be absolutely devastated that they can't breast feed may want to come for support and the first thing they'll read is your poison. If you love your kids so much just ask yourself this....how would you feel if it was your daughter that needed the support and what she had was the trash that you wrote. Seriously for someone who speaks of selfishness I have to say you are the perfect depiction of exactly that.

Oh and on a further note as for your comment of this world going to the dogs because of mothers that bottle feed....personally I think that angry, negative people who can't keep their ignorance to themselves has a much bigger part to play in "this world going to the dogs".

The definition of a good mom in my books is a woman that loves her children above and beyond all. She will do what ever it takes to make sure that her children are loved, healthy, and happy. How she gets there is her perogative not yours or mine. Every body has there own story so please do us all a favor find something else to do with your spare time rather than going around proving to everyone that there are truly ignorant people out there.

Tracyham35 - posted on 10/17/2011

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K, how fortunate you are to be able to take the moral high ground on this issue.Perhaps you can join another forum which has other perfect Mothers to "debate" with. Meanwhile, the rest of us are not perfect, but doing our best, and trying to encourage and support other human beings instead of judging and criticising. A little humility, would perhaps make your opinion valuable - as it stands, you are coming off as patronising, holier than though, and , to be honest, slightly unhinged. I'm sure that was not your intention.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/16/2011

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K, maybe you and that stick up your butt should read a few of my posts and journey to the BREAST FEEDING MOMS forum which I'm a part of because I BREAST FEED MY BABY!

I breast feed, but my mother actually taught me some manners so I don't go around calling people I don't even know names and insulting them. And while doing that having a disreguard for science and genetics as well as proper English. Seriously woman have you heard of paragraphing your replies? My mom also taught me not to judge other people, it's a shame some others' moms didn't do the same

I was formula fed because my mom COULDN'T BREASTFEED BECAUSE I'M ADOPTED! I don't have asthma, I'm not obese, I don't have excema, I don't have allergies I have above average intelligence. The same with my brother. This may come as a shock but I know of people who were breast fed who have a lot of health issues. My ex and his brother both have severe allergies and my ex has scoliosis. A cousin of mine has scoliosis and asthma. My husband is prone to bronchitis whenever he gets a cold. I have friends who were breast fed who have allergies.

Moms shouldn't have to defend themselves against rude closed minded women with superiority issues.

Stephanie - posted on 10/15/2011

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I was a formula baby 25 years ago. My husband was a formula baby (soy too, of all things) 27 years ago. Neither of us are overweight, or below-average IQs, or ignorant for that matter.

With my first baby, I tried to breastfed. I wanted to. I tried for a couple of weeks but it was horribly painful, she wasn't latching well, the LLL nurses that were coming in trying to help weren't helping, and my poor baby was miserable and screaming because she was hungry. So we switched to formula. She was the healthiest baby out of everyone I knew with babies, including out of those that were breastfed. Everyone compliments us on how happy she is and her intelligence. I don't regret my decision.

Five months ago when my son was born, I pumped for a few days to get the colostrum but he was born with acid reflux and couldn't keep anything down. He went to the bottle straight away and was able to better keep the formula down. He has a very sensitive stomach so he receives half regular formula and half soy. He is also now a very happy baby.

Our public health nurse tried to give me hell over bottle feeding but I still don't regret it because I personally don't agree with "breast is best". It probably was at one point but we live in a completely different world than we did even 60 years ago. I know I can't afford to eat organic food, I often forget to eat when I'm busy taking care of my kids. I also live smack in the middle of downtown where all kinds of nasty pollution-causing cars, trucks, and buses are going by which our bodies absorb. After all, that's our excuse for using all of these creams and lotions that "fight free radicals caused by environmental stresses", right? How can we admit that our skin absorbs everything but not assume that it's going all the way in?

Read Kevin Trudeaus books. He refers to a study done on a group of women's breastmilk that tested positive for all kinds of scary things including jet fuel (falling from the sky when they fly over). There may be strange things in that can of formula but jet fuel isn't one of them.

Now, this is my opinion. I'm not against bottle or breast feeding moms because we're here to do what is best for our babies. Everyone can have their own opinion but there's no reason to try to impose our opinions on others. Nor is there any reason be nasty and rude about it either. Keep in mind, doing what is best for our kids also includes setting a good example. When you rude people get called to your child's school because your kid was bullying others or beating them up, you will probably realize that you're either the same way, or a complete hypocrite for punishing.

Ania - posted on 09/21/2011

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Briattany I can't agree with you on what is in formula and what is in breastmilk. Formula only feeds the baby with "dead" nutrients breast milk is a live liquid and it is not only immunity. It is also constantly changes its compositions to fit needs of baby breastfed babies have better gastric motility, mucosal mass, intestinal host defenses, brain and retinal growth. You should get your information straight. Also DHA and other added mechanically proteins enzymes etc are not well absorbed by human babies. It is good that we have formula because it can help to save life, but it should not be used if it is not necesarry.

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Wow!!!! I bottle fed all my babies after 6 months with 1 of my kids and 2 month with the other 3 I had because I suddenly stopped producing milk. Guess what, my kids are very healthy!!!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/15/2011

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Stephanie, I was a formula baby 30 years ago and my brother was a formula fed baby almost 27 years ago just like you and your DH. We're both healthier than my breast fed husband who gets bronchitis from a simple cold. :) My brother is also 6'0 and 148, far from being obese. I'm one of those people who believes to a point weight is genetic. I have a college education and am far from being ignorant as well.

I believe it's all up to the mom what she wants to feed her baby. I was adopted so I had to be bottle fed, but I was able to breast feed both my daughters. However my 7 year old didn't do very well and like you I got shit from someone else in health care. With me it was my daughter's nurse practitioner. My 7 month old is able to breast feed just fine though. My SIL just had a baby boy and doesn't breast feed. Her son is doing just as well as my breast fed daughter. It's not up to one mom to decide or judge what another mom does as long as it's not illegal or harmful to her child. And formula happens to be legal and not harmful.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/15/2011

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K, didn't your mother teach you that if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all? If she didn't, she really should've. Your behaivour is not something one would expect from a grown up. Your logic is flawed. It's a myth that all formula fed babies sleep longer than breast fed babies. Your 3% seems to have been pulled from your behind because I doubt it takes into account adoptive moms and mothers who are on different medications who can't breast feed. And your debate tactics are reminicent of a mud slinging politician.



You really don't know much about history either, have you ever heard of a wet nurse? That would be a woman called in to assist in feeding a baby because either the woman's status wouldn't allow her to feed the baby or she was weak or had died from child birth. Children used to die before the age of 5 reguardless of if they were breastfed or not.



It's down right sad when a grown woman has to reduce herself to scare tactics and fear mongering just because she doesn't like another woman's choice. I would suggest you leave, grow up and consider if you'd really want your children shouting at strangers that they've made bad choices and are uneducated



By the way, I typed this entire thing while BREAST FEEDING my 7 month old. Guess that formula my adopted mom gave me and the 'god given' ADD are good after all.

Kelly - posted on 10/14/2011

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K I think maybe it's time you left this forum. You are not bottle feeding your children so bug out and leave those of us that are alone. We don't try to attack you for the choices you are making so don't do it to us. Think about your behavior. You are a grown woman so act like it.

K - posted on 10/14/2011

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I'm sure many people could find something good about hitting kids(like they had no choice cause nothing else worked) or their kid having ADHD is not due to their parenting it's an act of god...or needing an abortion cause the pill didn't work bla bla bla...a debate is a way to voice your opinion on something you are passionate about NO MATTER WHAT THE TOPIC...

K - posted on 10/14/2011

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bit hard to do that while breast feeding lol...hard to use punctuation one-handed !!!!!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/14/2011

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Yes, finding a way to feed your child because you can't do it is a horrid choice! All bottle feeding moms are selfish bitches and should be burned at the stake and their children should be taken away! All bottle feeding babies grow up to be obese drug addicts on government assistance! Blah blah blah.

Seriously, I believe you only came on this thread K because you can't handle a real debate. You'd rather just attack someone's personal choice to feed their child instead of debate something that isn't personal to a lot of people.

BTW dear, work on your spelling, grammar and punctuation because it's pretty bad.

K - posted on 10/14/2011

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oh and if i put my energy into debating all the worse things people do to their kids id just be debating with another lot of excuse making people so whats the difference..??

K - posted on 10/14/2011

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obviously there are some people who CAN'T breast feed (3%)...so most of the time its a choice. No one should make people breast feed but they do have a right to an opinion just like on any other topic like abortion,smoking,working mums,stay at home mums etc etc. I realise that plenty of bottle fed babies are healthy and some breast fed babies are unhealthy but it also comes down to what happens in childhood and adulthood and how well people look after themselves,how they eat,their lifestyle..that makes a big difference as to what sort of illnesses they get beyond babyhood...Everyone knows that a bottle fed baby is more likely to sleep through the night earlier cause the crap sits in their belly and takes ages to digest,come on...are you serious!!!..Yes there are worse things a parent could be doing...but is that a reason to justify OTHER bad choices..NO it isn't but go ahead and do it if you feel the need. My first breast fed bub didnt sleep through till he was 12 months but my 6 month old breast fed sleeps through the night now. That has nothing to do with anything. Oh and just cause a doctor said formula is ok,doesn't mean its the best option...as if a doctor is going to try force something like breast feeding,thats not what they are there for plus most of them are rubbish,handing out ab's like its going out of fashion(probably to mostly bottle babies)..I'd rather go to my next door neighbour for advice rather than most gp's

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/14/2011

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K, I breast feed but I was bottle fed. You see I'm adopted and my mom who raised me from the time I was 3 days old didn't lactate. Same thing with my brother who is adopted from a different family. The worst we ever got was chicken pox. Maybe because we have good genetics who knows. However my DH was breast fed and he had pneumonia twice and now has recurring bronchitis. In fact he has it right now. My older daughter was breast fed and she had Kidney reflux. My 7 month old is breast fed and won't sleep through the night yet my nephew is bottle fed and will sleep 8hrs.

I believe people should ask themselves if they would allow theirr child to say to complete strangers what they're saying to other women? If the answer is no, then you shouldn't post it. Seriously, we're grown women, we shouldn't be trying to pick fights online just because some mom is feeding her baby formula instead of breast feeding. There are much more horrendous things that a parent could be doing, so why not put your negative feelings into that instead?

CRYSTAL - posted on 10/14/2011

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i bottle feed my daughter too and people tried to talk me into breatfeeding but i felt wierd about it for some reason but she is healthy as can be so i dont see what the big deal is. i even had a nurse i had to get a little snappy with because she was making it seem like i was doing a horrible thing by formula feeding but i just brush it off because if its working for you and your baby is healthy than thats all that really matters

Cynthia - posted on 10/14/2011

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wow calling bottle feeders morons that is a new low on Com's.

i wanted say that do breast feed but i see nothing wrong with the bottle my 1st son was bottle feed i just choose to breast feed my 2nd baby. what K is saying here is just wrong. the hospital where i had my baby gave me a supply of forulma when i was leaving the hospital, the crap in a tin was approved by our doctor and there is nothing wrong with it. it is the same stuff you can by at the store and i believe if it is ok by a doctor then whats the big deal. i don't understand why a mom would come on here and start calling names. it sickens me.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/14/2011

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Mel thanks. K sounds like a troll to me. No kids, only 2 posts in this forum. I wouldn't give her a second thought.

And there are bottle feeding mommies who bottle feed because their babies are adopted. The obesity thing makes me laugh my butt off. My brother and I are adopted and bottle fed. My brother is 6'0 and weighs about 148. I wonder if these militant EBF moms have heard about this thing called genetics.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/11/2011

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I do get support from her. When I'm up at her house and my 7 month old is hungry and in her nursing mood (ever since she hit 5 months she gets nursing and bottle moods) I just undo the strap, lift up my shirt and attach the baby. Moms know what they're doing for their babies.

Mel - posted on 10/11/2011

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you should be able to get good support through your mil. it's always nice to get support when you need the most. the most important thing is follow our instinct and do the very best we can for sweet babies

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/11/2011

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My first daughter had issues. My 7 month old has been easy to feed.

Mel I have the opposite issue with my mom. I'm adopted so I have no breast feeding support from my mom. I get it from my MIL instead.

Mel - posted on 10/11/2011

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tell me about it. i wasn't producing enough milk so i had no choice. my own mother came down on me about it telling me that what i was feeding my baby was horrible. i had such a hard coming to terms with it because i had breast fed my first no problem.
its nice to finally hear some positive!!!

Tisa - posted on 10/07/2011

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I breast fed my daughter for 5 months but I didnt really enjoy it. I also supplemented her with formula at nights which meant I could keep sleeping and send hubby in with the night feeds :) I had people say you cant mix feed and that I was damaging her tummy by giving her formula but now she is 18 months and she is happy, healthy and eats anything.

Donna - posted on 10/06/2011

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I don't like being looked down on for formula feeding my baby, either. I got all caught up in the 'hype' of breastfed babies being superior, that there is greater bonding between mother and child during breastfeeding, blah, blah, blah. I was in labor for 11 hours before my son was 'born' via C-Section. It was the most traumatic experience I'd ever endured. It was so emotional, that the father of my child was able to hold our baby first and I could barely touch him because I was strapped to a table so that I didn't "try to help with the surgery". Once in recovery, I was given my son. He looked at me like no one has ever looked at me before and I fell in love. He sucked at my index finger in my arms. The nurses asked me, in front of my uncle of all people if I want to breast or bottle feed. The moment I had to say 'breast' in front of my uncle - he left the room. The nurse tried to assist me - my son, having a nurse shove my chest into my baby boys face - he began screaming. I cannot even begin to be able to describe this feeling. As the day pressed on, I grew more and more tired and again and again the nurses tried to 'help' me with my decision to breastfeed. Finally, a young nurse came in, like an angel of mercy, she looked at me and asked if she could take my son out of the room and put him in the nursery so I could get some rest. I started to cry. My son wouldn't eat. I was in so much pain and so exhausted. She told me that it would be okay. So, my son was formula fed for the first time. More nurses tried to get him to 'latch on', but it hurt to get myself positioned properly, post-surgery and my son would just scream into my chest. I felt like a total failure as a mother, and people who say negative things about formula feeding don't help. I am pregnant again, and I am still trying to decide if I want to even attempt breastfeeding again, or if I just want to have the luxury of exchanging that long glance with my newborn baby. The more I've spoken to others about this, the more I find out that what happened to me isn't such a rare thing. I tried pumping, also. I felt stupid sitting next to my baby pumping breast milk into a bottle to feed him just minutes later. He preferred breast milk, but I never could catch up with his appetite.

MARTINA - posted on 10/06/2011

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I HAVE THEY SELL THEM AT BABIES R US. I HAD THOSE FOR MY SON BUT THEY DONT MEAN LIKE MELT MELT RIGHT AWAY BUT OVER TIME THEY WILL AND DO. ITS SOMETHING N THE PLASTIC THTS MADE FOR THE BOTTLES THEY I WAS TOLD WAS BAD FOR THE BABIES!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/06/2011

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Martina, where did you hear that? I heat bottles in the microwave and they don't melt. I don't believe I've seen glass ones around.

MARTINA - posted on 10/06/2011

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SOME SAY BREATFEEDING IS THE BEST WAY TO GO BUT IF YOU BOTTLE FEED U CAN NOT USE PLASTIC BOTTLES. U HAVE TO USE GLASS BOTTLES THE PLASTIC BOTTLES ARE MADE FOR ONE TIME USE ONLY BECASE WHEN U HEAT UP THE BOTTLE WHETHER ITS BOILING OR MICROWAVING THE PLASTIC MELTS INTO THE BOTTLE SO ITS RECOMMENDED TO USE GLASS ONES!

Hineh - posted on 10/06/2011

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Although I am a breast feeder, I totally 100% agree with what you are saying. No-one should judge you, as long as your baby is healthy and happy, then that's all that matters. Keep bottle feeding and ignore all the haters ;)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/05/2011

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Bethany, I've also found that the Born Free and Avent bottles work well with primarily breast fed babies because the nipple of those bottles is closer to the nipple of a woman's breast. But they do cost a little more. The Nuk works very well too. I use all three on my daughter because I'm not always able to feed her in public and her daddy likes to have turns feeding her as well.

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2011

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@ Bethany, try Nuk. Our daughter and I had the same issue as you, she took to Nuk very easily. Also, when I gave her a bottle, I made sure she was next to my chest, so she could feel my warmth and hear my heartbeat.
I actually found bottle feeding really easy. No more tears from Baby cause she was starving, no more tears from Mommy cause she knows she can't provide naturally.
Don't worry about your husband, he'll either eventually get it or will be stuck in his own mindset. Your job is not to please him, but to make sure your little one gets the nutrition he needs.
Good luck!!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/04/2011

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Tracy I agree with you it's crazy what some moms do just because they don't agree with something. I breast feed my 7 month old along with bottle feeding her (I live in BC's central interior where most roads are in the mountains). I couldn't breast feed my 7 year old as much as I wanted to because of things going on in my personal life and the fact that she just wasn't latching or gaining weight. I couldn't let my baby suffer just because breast feeding was supposed to be good for her.

I'm adopted, I was given formula from the time I was born because my birth mom didn't want her milk to come in and my adoptive mom didn't lactate. It was the same issue with my brother who was adopted 3 years after me. We grew up fine. The worst we experianced was chicken pox and we're both well adjusted intelligent adults. That's what gets me pissy when EBF moms try to say that formula is poison (or like smoking while pregnant) and that formula fed babies will have issues later on in life. The only issue I have is with snarky breast feeding moms who pass judgement on women who don't breastfeed.

My SIL is bottle feeding her 2 month old son right now and he's got a better appetite and is growing faster than my 7 month old.

Worry about what you'll feed you child later on in life (my 7 year old loves fruits and veggies her grade 1 teacher and her babysitters have pointed that out to me) which tells me I did a good job raising her so far. :)

Tracyham35 - posted on 10/04/2011

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Hi! I breastfed my daughter. Does it make me a better Mum than bottle feeders? - absolutely not! Formula is amazing stuff - it's the choices we make when weening that have more significance to the health of our children e.g., salt and sugars etc... And later on too. I can't tell you how many children I see eating junk food on their way to school!!!!!
Please don't fall foul of those competetive mothers who feel they have the right to judge you. Just feel sorry for them that they haven't got anything better to do than pat themelves on the back! And pass comment on something which is, frankly, none of their business. :)

Ania - posted on 10/02/2011

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That's what I'm talking about. Seriously nobody here knows how to have a proper debate. And Meggy I didn't compare formula feeding to smoking I just compared the phrase that people use "my body and my baby - my decision" And again you don't understand what I tried to say to you. you are getting my comments all wrong - the one that were towards you, but if that's how you want to get them it is your choice. There is no point to talk to people like you because you will always try to make an attacked victim out of yourself. Poor you everyone is attacking you for not breastfeeding. I bet you feel like martyr. Good luck with everything

Cynthia - posted on 10/02/2011

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i did both. with my 1st son i bottle fed with my baby i breast feed. i can say they both have their good and bad points. if i had to pick which one is my favorite it would be breast feeding ONLY because for me it is easier. not saying making a bottle is all that hard but in the middle of the night all i got to do is pull it out. i am not against bottle feeding. i am just lazy. and having milk right there on tap is awesome for me. i hate this debate. to hear some of the moms here talk about breastfeeding like you suck if you dont breastfeed really bugs me. as long as you feed your baby one is as good as the other. this is my opinion

Ashley - posted on 09/30/2011

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Ania if you arent judging your friends why are you judging us? I wasnt trying to start a fight anywhere until i saw rude comments. You know what this thread is about so if it makes you so angry that mothers formula feed why even bother? Just like i dont go into a thread that is related to breastfeeding as i never did it so i have nothing to say about it. Not quite sure why you are comparing formula to smoking a cigarette. Is there nicotine in formula? If so then fine but until you see nicotine as an ingredient dont even compare formula to cigarettes...lol again that made me chuckle. Yea you are right some people do like to stir things up and its funny how you are one of the one's stirring things up but yet you talk like Meggy and i are. Meggy has stated that she breastfeeds ..you dont see her starting fights with us moms that formula feed just because she feels shes better than the rest of us. I honestly dont care what you do with your baby so really mind your business and you shouldnt care what i do with my baby. If this post angers you so much well then maybe you should stop reading our comments because as long as you keep going on and on about your views i will keep responding. Another thing notice how coming from a formula fed mom i'm being calm and not the least big angry but yet you and that other one (dont even feel like looking at her name thats how much i care) are getting all angry about the subject. Well if you breastfed then you shouldnt be getting all worked up about formula

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/30/2011

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Ania, you're a bit of comic relief in the same way my ex's wife is. How in the hell is smoking a cigarette the same as giving your baby formula? Are you friggin' kidding me? You just equated what my adoptive mom did to me by giving me formula with doing something that has been proven to cause health problems. Someone having the nerve to ask me if I thought I'd be smarter if my mom had breast fed me and having the nerve to tell me that my older daughter probably had kidney reflux because I didn't breast feed her enough. Now that and your assinine comparissons, that's what makes me angry.

You have bottle feeding moms as friends? Well good for you- what do you want from that a gold star?

Not everyone uses the anonymity of the internet to stir things up and act catty, most women I know on here know how to have a proper debate and RESPECT other's decisions. They don't accuse women of feeling guilty for choices they made when they defend their choices as ytou have. I'm the same way I am online and off line. If you had said this to my face, I would've had the exact same reaction as I am having now. It seems to me that you're the only catty one on here Ania and I pity you for having nothing better in your life than to sit around at home and judge moms who have decided that breast feeding wasn't for them or who couldn't breast feed in the first place. You're nothing more than an internet bully. I've seen no other responses, save for yours and that other EBF mom, that were catty and attacking of bottle feeding moms. Any mom who replied to those posts was merely defending herself from an attack.

I breast feed, my sister in law bottle feeds. Due to issues her son had during birth (the umbilical cord was around his neck when he came out and he didn't really cry for a few weeks) she's had issues finding a formula that works due to his digestive issues. This is GENETIC though and nothing to do with her choice to give him formula. The best support I feel I can give her is to do what she feels will help her baby and that as a family member I'll try to be there for her. That's what all moms should do, not jump on someone's case for feeding their child formula and certainly not make such absurd comparissons between smoking and giving formula.

Ania - posted on 09/30/2011

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The funny part about this debate is that it just makes me angry when women start to talk about these topics and even though I don't agree that babies should be formula fed I have riends who bottle feed and they know I breastfeed my almost two year old and nobody is judging anyone. Anonymity of internet makes us all monsters. Some people love to stir things up hence the catty responses of all women.
I don't understand why women think that breastfeeding benefits last only when baby is breastfed. It is investment into their future. Completely of the topic I recently saw a young women who looked like she was around 6 months pregnant walking with a lit cigarette in her hand. Are you going to say she has a right to do that because it is her body and her baby?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/30/2011

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B sometimes I hate it myself because there are times my 6 month old wants nothing but me and I just want to nap!

Serena, I feel bad for you. My mom would do the same thing to me with my baby when I still lived with her. Cover up or go up in your room to feed her. She wouldn't let me feed my baby in public either. But I think it's because I'm adopted and she's just not used to the idea. I never had anyone be rude to me in my home town or where I live now about breast feeding in public. But then again I haven't tried breast feeding in Alberta and that;s supposed to be illegal in that province.

Ashley, she makes me laugh too. I work in Health Care myself and I see plenty of people who just shouldn't be there because they have no bloody idea how to be compassionate. I saw her on another thread on breast feeding moms yelling to fire the pediatrician because he suggested bottle feeding. No mention of formula, just a bottle. Hello, you can feed your child breast milk in a bottle.

Luckily for bottle feeding mommies most breast feeding mommies aren't judgemental harpies going off about how they're right and you're wrong. Breast may be best, but it's not the choice for everyone. And some babies are also adopted. That doesn't mean they won't be just as smart as breast fed babies. So suck it up butter cup

Ashley - posted on 09/30/2011

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LOL see i find this all funny because first of all the topic of this convo is bottle feeding mommies. So when you come in and start attacking us for formula feeding yea of course we are going to defend ourselves. Sorry Kelly but even if i did it for my own personal reasons that MY business not yours. If my children are being abused, not fed, dirty/ripped clothes then fine step in but other than that no it's not your buisness what i feed or do with my children. You act like you are extremely "caring" but all you want to do is put us down because you worked in healthcare. Well sorry but when it comes down to it my family doctor is the one and ONLY one i listen to when it comes to healthcare people. I've had many people in the health care industry not know what they are talking about. I had this discussion with him when i was pregnant for my first and whether i did my research or not again is not your business. Like i've said numerous times i formula fed simply because i didnt feel comfortable breastfeeding. I'm not going to say i try because i didnt. I didnt want to. So if that makes me selfish then so be it. Guess i'm an extremely selfish mother who doesnt put her children first at all. I guess we have different meanings of selfish because i am by far the least selfish person i know especially when it comes to my children. If i need something and they do they get it first but i guess i should be getting myself what i need first because i'm so very selfish...LOL

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I am so glad u posted this. I have a 4 week old and I hate breastfeeding. My husband is pushing me to keep doing it but i am getting really sick of it. I feel myself getting very irritable in the evening. I want to feed my baby formula but I have been trying but he won't take a bottle. Any suggestions? I don't care anymore at this point what my husband says because I take care of our baby 99% of the time and I need to keep my sanity.

Serena - posted on 09/30/2011

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On the other end of the spectrum, I've gotten negative comments from people recently about me breastfeeding my 6-month old in public. She is big for her age (22 lbs, 28 inches), so many people assume she is closed to 9 months or so. I've been told how inappropriate it is to nurse in front of my other children or in public places (even though Im completley covered by a blanket). I think there areare INDIVIDUALS, not a whole group of moms, that make these comments to both bottle feeding mothers and breast feeding mothers.

WIth my first born, I was 18 yrs old. I really got nasty comments about breast-feeding. I was told many times that I needed to feed him in the bathroom. My response always was that I would be happy to if they would take thier own lunches and eat in the bathroom as well!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/29/2011

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Kelly, I'm adopted and another member in the breast feeding mom's forum actually asked if I thought I'd be smarter if I had been breast fed. That irks me right up with the same someone saying that I didn't breast feed enough for my first daughter and that's why she got sick after saying that the reason I was healthy was because I had good genetics.

I'm happy with my choices and I wouldn't change what I did with my older daughter (except maybe the father because he's an ass) She's smart, friendly and healthy. I don't like when breast feeding moms come down on bottle feeding moms for their choices. That's what I have an issue with. When peopel try to make other people feel bad about their choices.

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Look Ashley.. The reason ppl are saying you are selfish is because your original statement sounded exactly like it was all about what you wanted, what was easier for you. All I wanted to ask was if you bothered to do any investigation into what I think is an important decision to make. I did work in healthcare and I do care about what other people do with themselves and what they do to their children. I care too much apparently. And Meggy, if I knew back in 99 what I know now about breastfeeding I would have been able to continue. That is my personal demon. I don't have a single thing against formula because I suppelmented with my daughter bc she was born 9lbs 11oz. She popped her first tooth at 3.5mos and started turning away so I weaned her completely and formula fed her. I'm grateful for the experience and even more grateful for the knowlege I have today about breastfeeding my son. You all have a blessed life and let none of our babies have any serious illnesses.
Kellz

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/29/2011

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Ania, when did I say I felt guilty? Or anyone else for that matter? It's not like I mentioned who it was who implied that my older daughter was sick (She had kidney reflux when she was almost 4 months old) because she wasn't breast fed enough although we both know who it was who implied it.



If you and Kelly don't agree with mommies who bottle feed, then you should keep your rude comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate your children acting this way towards other children. So why do it to other mommies? There's no need to try to impose your beliefs on other women who don't do what you do.If you don't agree fine, but don't make an ass of yourself. Don't assume that someone arguing with you feels guilty either. You riled that lady up so what do you expect? A cupcake? Get over yourselves and stop acting like childish trolls.



I breastfed both my girls and they're both fine. I also gave them formula (My younger one is almost 7 months so she still gets formula because as I keep saying I live in the central interior of British Columbia, so mountain roads anyone?). My SIL formual feeds her son. I'm not about to get on her case about it because that's her decision. Maybe she's a mom who just doesn't feel comfortable breastfeeding, some women don't like the idea. I believe she did her research and decided what's best for her and her son. It's not my place to judge her or any mom who doesn't want to breastfeed or can't breast feed. Just because I decided to do it doesn't make it right for every mom. No breast feeding mom should get on a formula feeding mom's case because that's not what we'd want our kids to do to other kids.

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Really all this is is people looking for an argument. Ania if you read Meggy's post properly she stated in there that she breastfed her daughter. I said i had formula fed and Kelly's post was rude. It was the way it was worded and she's now the one getting all defensive. I am not less of a mother because i formula fed. I'm equal to every other mother because i fed my baby. My babies were happy healthy and had full bellies and at the end of the day thats all i gave a crap about. I honestly dont care how you feed your baby...thats your baby not mine. I care about my children not yours or anyone else's. So you keep breastfeeding and i will keep formula feeding. I enjoyed formula feeding i have no regrets and dont feel the least bit guilty about it. It was my choice, my body and my babies. They are happy healthy children who dont care that i formula fed them all they care about is having a mother who loves and cares for them. Which i do. It's rediculous to be putting other mothers down because of how they choose to feed their babies. At the end of the day we are all mom's doing whats best for OUR children.

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I agree with Kelly Meggy if you feel guilty for any reason don't put words into my mouth. I never called you less of a mother because you formula feed you just did it yourself.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/28/2011

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Kelly, Beg your pardon, but didn't you type this:

"Ya... did you do any reasearch before you decided to take the formula route? There are many studies and published documents about the benefits of breastfeeding. Would you just march out and buy a car without doing some investigation on the type of vehicle you want? "

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i'm on of these mum who thinks whatever works for you and your baby then tha's all that matters. i did ebm my daughter till 8 months and my son is 7 1/2 months and has both to me so long as your baby has a full tummy and is happy then who cares if it's breast or bottle. i agree i get tired of hearing women bager other women because of the way they choose to feed their baby at the end of the day we're all mums and we want what's best for our babies we shold be supporting one another not disrespecting each others choices.

Kelly - posted on 09/28/2011

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Whoa!! Hold your mightier than thou horses.. I was only asking if you had acctually done any reading of scholar documents from university studies. I'm 36.. how old are you ppl.. Act your age ppl.. and don't crucify a person when they ask a question.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/28/2011

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I'm just seconding Ashely's reply. People who make rude comments like that do get bottle feeding moms angry. Seriously pry that stick out of your butt, it's not up to breast feeding moms (which I'm a part of) to dictate how other moms feed their babies. No one died and made us as breast feeding moms queens of how to feed babies.

Kelly, I was bottle fed and perfectly healthy. And no my mom wasn't being uninformed or lazy, I'm adopted. Before you decide to attribute my health to my genetics my older daughter was breast fed and then had kidney reflux. Someone (another breast feeding mom) implied that maybe it was because she wasn't breast fed enough. That insulted me. So, if you're healthy on formula it's genetics but if your kid gets sick it's because you didn't breast feed enough? WTF people.

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2011

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@ Kelly....See it's comments like that that make people angry about this whole thing. Did i do my research?? I spoke to my doctor. Thats what i did. I was formula fed as a baby and i'm still alive. If i were to ever have a third would i formula feed again?? YUPP! i would in a second. My reason? because i dont feel comfortable. Thats why i chose formula. My kids are healthy and love me just as much as they would if they were breastfed. I actually enjoyed formula feeding but breastfeeding is not for me. And i'm sorry but comparing formula to buying a car is completely different

Kelly - posted on 09/28/2011

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Ya... did you do any reasearch before you decided to take the formula route? There are many studies and published documents about the benefits of breastfeeding. Would you just march out and buy a car without doing some investigation on the type of vehicle you want?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/22/2011

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Serena, sometimes I think I breast feed because I'm cheap and lazy! lol



I was self concious when I started breast feeding in public, but now I don't even think about it as long as I have a cover. However since my baby reached 5 months (she's 6 months now) she's been playing with everything so I just give her a bottle when we're out. Besides has anyone ever tried to nurse while grocery shopping, walking down the street, or driving?

Serena - posted on 09/22/2011

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I Breast feed because I am lazy! lol. I don't want the trouble of fixing bottles all the time. I can just lift my shirt and Im good to go, lol. Bottle feeding is fine. It's a personal choice. I chose breasfeeding for my kids, but that was my choice. I would never tell someone that they made hte wrong desicion for their kids. Its up to the mom! I breastfeed b/c of hte convience. I don't have to pack anything when I go places and have our technique down - we wrap up in a blanket and no one even knows what i'm doing unless they start looking for the baby lol. With my first child I didn't want to pump (it was a lot of trouble) I switch back and forth. He got breast when I was home and formula in a bottle when I was at work. It is totally a personal choice, and neither choice is better than the other.

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I LOVE that babies have advocates. Breast feeding is best, and I will try to do MY best to educate mommies, but I won't force it, make it sound like they're bad mommies or lack education or are selfish. I'm looking into having a breast reduction, because my breasts are ruining my life, physically and emotionally. I know it's POSSIBLE to breast feed after a reduction, but not always, and I may just not be up to having to try so hard to do something that came so naturally with my son.

That being said, the thing I greatly dislike about this whole new movement towards breast feeding being the "norm" is that there is a lot of fear mongering and misinformation about pediatricians and formula. The 21st century has given us tremendous opportunities, I see no problem with taking them. Formula makes it easier and less embarrassing to feed your child in public. For me, it wasn't my modesty that prevented me from feeding in public, merely the fact that I have extremely large breasts, and my son refused to nurse covered. I really would have been sitting with my boob hanging out if I'd nursed in public every time I needed to nurse. It's helpful to mommies who can't breast feed and don't have access to donor milk, or who just choose not to fight for their breast feeding relationship. Attachment parenting works for some, it would NEVER work for me, neither would have baby led weaning.

I just think, modern technology is not something to be suspicious or hateful towards. I don't get mad at people who choose not to keep televisions in their homes, don't get mad at me for choosing TO partake of one of the wonderful modern inventions that allows us to be parents while maintaining some sense of individuality from my child.

/soapbox

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