Having your children in the room during delivery....

Megan - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




I am just curious to see how many moms have had their other children in their room when they are about to give birth to another child. I had my 4 year old in the room when I gave birth to my son and she loved it. I wanted her to feel special and apart of everything. She was one of the first to hold him and she just felt so special. I had family members telling me not to have her in there but I am so glad that I did!


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Andrea - posted on 01/12/2010




I would have done it in a heartbeat.. If my daughter wouldn't have had Gastroschisis (insides where outside body).. He was a part of every thing up until D-day.. Other wise he went to every ultrasound (40+) every high risk, normal doctors app and Non-stress test.. He got to come to the hospital 4 days after she was born and when he got in to the NICU to see her, he looked at her and said MOMMY my Sissy Jay Jay... ( her name is Jaya) Then he told me i kiss her please mommy.. Not a dry eye in the room.. Even with her silo holding her insides up didn't scare him he just seen her... Till this day if any one makes her cry he yells at them.. He is 2 years old and She is 9 months old...

Mandy - posted on 01/12/2010




i had my year old in the room with me when i had my second child and she did just fine. :)

Kelsey - posted on 01/12/2010




Reading your question almost brought a tear to my eye. Before reading that, I would be against it because I would worry that it would scare them, but if you think they can handle it, I think you should definately do it! Thats just beautiful! Im going to keep it in mind when I have my second!

Megan - posted on 01/12/2010




I had family members telling me not to have her in there and some family saying it would be fine. I asked my daughter and she said she wanted to be in there and then she didn't and in the end she stayed and was so happy she did. She loved that she got to see him right away.

I didn't scream or show any signs that I was in pain, even though I was, because I didn't want to scare her. I would even look over at her and smile and say "hi" lol......I think us mothers know our kids and know if they can handle it or not. My daughter and I always watch the TLC birth shows or baby show so she had an idea of what it would be like.

I know some hospitals have classes they recommend you go to in order to have your child in the room. They almost kicked my daughter out because one of the nurses askd if she went to the class and I had no clue about any class. The doctor ended up letting her stay...SO all of you who may be thinking about it might want to check about classes so you are not disappointed when the time comes and your child can't be in there!

Catherine - posted on 01/11/2010




I am not pregnant, but when number 2 comes along I want my son to be there.

Brandy - posted on 01/11/2010




I'm not going to do it. During this pregnancy, I've had some gall bladder issues because of the hormones and there were a couple times when my daughter saw me down on my hands and knees moaning and groaning in pain and she was frantic. She is 20 months old and she kept coming over to me and putting my hand on me saying "mommy ok? mommy ok?" and she had tears in her eyes and looked on the verge of crying then wouldn't leave my lap for the rest of the night and she is usually a very independent little girl. She's just too young to understand at this point I think that even though I'm in pain, I'll be ok.

Ashley - posted on 01/11/2010




nope i wouldnt....dont think it's a place for children but thats my opinion

Leanne - posted on 01/11/2010




I think that it's a great idea! That is of course if your children are able to handle the situation.. Sometimes you cannot help but let out a yelp of pain! It could really upset a young child, and if they are to old they may feel scarred to be there. x3

I plan to have another baby in around two years and I will ask my son if you would like to be there (he will be around two at the time). If he wants to then I will let him and make sure that someone else is there to hold him or to comfort him (possibly even take him out of the room if it gets to intense for him).

Megan - posted on 01/11/2010




lol.....I didn't want my daughter to look down there either but she kept walking over and looking. We all kept laughing and put her in a chair farther back and to the side of me and then we looked at her and she had her head cocked and was trying to look around people to see down there. I am glad that I had her in the room...she is also very close to her brother and loves him to pieces! I also just made sure that I didn't scream or anything to let her know I was in any pain. She was awesome and she will be in the room for my next one also.

Ashley - posted on 01/11/2010




i'm planning on having my now 1 year old (21 months at the time of my delivery) in the room when i deliver in august:) as long as i have an epidural. i don't want him to see me in any pain but i honestly don't see anything wrong with it. when i delivered my son my sister and her 2 boys ages 6 and 8 were in the room with me and the youngest was the first to hold my son and thought it was awesome and to this day out of all my nieces and nephews those two have a really strong bond:) don't worry they didn't look down there at all

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