HELP!!! My Son Iz In My Bed Instead Of My Boyfriend!!!!

Lauren - posted on 09/13/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 7 month old son keeps awake at night untill he gets his own way and gets into my bed, meaning my boyfriend has to go sleep on the sofa, this has to stop its not fair on the other half and i need my son to learn that his cot is his bed NOT my bed! Any ideas how i can stop this or how i can start leaning him to stay in his cot???!!!!


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Sarah - posted on 09/14/2009




You have to start to learn how to say "no" and follow through. If this is something you are wanting to stop then you have to be firm. He has learned that if he does AB and C then you will give in. As he gets older this will get worse. You have to pick your battles. Some battles are worth fighting and some are not. Figure out which ones you want to fight and then stand your ground. You will most likely deal with some crying and less sleep for the first few weeks, but once your son figures out that you are not going to give in and let him have his way then it will get better. Soon it will get to the point that you will do your bedtime routine and be able to say good night and he will be sleeping the whole night in his bed.

Minnie - posted on 09/14/2009




Who's the adult who can compromise? Your infant son who is totally dependent on you for security or your grown boyfriend? Tell him to man-up, he's the one who can understand delayed gratification, not your baby. And why can't you three sleep together?

My bed is my little girl's too. Bedsharing is how families have slept for as long as there have been humans.

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you just have to be firm with your son... there are many many suggestions on this topic some suggest controlled crying and others music or staying in the room with them and each night getting closer and closer to the door until you are finally out the door.

I would suggest talking to a mother care nurse or community baby health group for more information.

one thing i found incredibly helpful was having my girls in a routine meant that i knew when they were tired and they will go to sleep relatively quickly most of the time.

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