How do I brake my baby always wanting to be held?

Jean - posted on 07/02/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




My baby was very good the first three weeks I had her she did not mind being in her swing or the crib while I did house work. Over the past week or so everyone has been coming over and holding her all the time.Now If I even go the bathroom she freaks out until you hold her...

I have always given her chest time were she sleeps on my chest I hold her a good part of the day just to interact with her but nothing like my house guest did. I feel that I had a good balance with her before they came and now that balance is just gone..


Kirsty - posted on 07/03/2009




As soon as I got my little one home she didn't want to be apart from me, I spent all my time sat with her on me, so I started going for walks, she would fall asleep without me holding her and start getting used to being put down. Have you tried putting her down with a t-shirt of yours next to her? I think after a while they want independence and start exploring by themselves! also try baby massage and yoga, it bonds you and she starts to be put down on the her blanket.

Minnie - posted on 07/03/2009




You can't change the fabric of her biology. She's a human infant, and human infants are made to be carried on their mothers' bodies. That's just the way it is.

Get a baby carrier- like a mei tai (what I'm using in my picture), or a ring sling. Pop her in it. She'll be comforted by your warmth, the sound of your heartbeat, lulled by your motion, and when she's older, she'll get to see things at your view. And you'll be able to get things done with two hands.

Angela - posted on 07/03/2009




I agree with the suggestion of wearing the baby. She is in that 2 weeks old to 6 weeks old where they just get fussy (particularly between 4 and 8 pm). It may be easier to wean her off being held all the time in a few more weeks.

Dawn - posted on 07/02/2009




try laying her down on a blanket on the floor to interact with her and not just holding her to interact, it may take several days, but she will adjust to not being held and you may find she really likes it. My now 4 month old liked to be held and we started doing that with him, just a few minutes at first and gradually increasing the time, now he loves being on the floor more than his swing or bouncy seat. I can lay him in the floor in the living room and go into the kitchen, can still talk to him and he can now entertain himself some, I can get stuff done without having to run back and forth. He'll stay in the floor for a couple hours, sometimes he even falls asleep laying there playing, that's if his sisters aren't being to loud.


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Rachel - posted on 07/02/2009




She's just had too much attention. My Belle would do the same thing for at least 3 days after we had a full day of company over. If she had a week of constant holding, she'll need some time to go back to her normal shedule where she feels secure without being held. She's just itty bitty. The house work will be there, so sit back and enjoy holding that baby when she needs it. Also, think about getting a moses basket to put her in and tote her around with you as you work if you don't want to get or use a sling. But your right, the normal schedule and "balance" like you suggested is skewed. You'll get it back as time progresses. :)

Mimi - posted on 07/02/2009




ohh i bought baby einstein n she loves it esp at nite time, but during the day, after i fed,burped,n changed her diaper..i would put her on a swing that plays music. n she will calm down till she gets bored.

Ez - posted on 07/02/2009




Try babywearing - it saved my life (and my house) when my daughter was brand new and just as you've described. Babies cry to be held because they need it. I understand your frustration at not getting things done but it really is just par for the course with a newborn. Obviously some things (like the bathroom lol) can't wait, and yes you do need to shower and eat etc. But everything else can wait. Your baby can't :)
I wore my daughter in her Baby Bjorn all the time. She had colic and needed the physical contact for comfort. So this was the only way I could do ANYTHING besides sitting with her on my chest. She LOVED it (would fall asleep within 3 steps) and it gave me the freedom to accomplish my basic daily duties. Just concentrate on getting the necessities done and either get someone else to help out with the rest of leave it til you get a chance. She will grow out it, I promise.

Vicki - posted on 07/02/2009




I would suggest to hold the baby.

Get a baby sling, so she can be close to you and you can have your hands free.

Melissa - posted on 07/02/2009




well she looks very new so it's my opinion....i would put her down to do what i had to do...making sure all her needs are met...feed diaper what i had to do while she cried unless it's a cry u may be concerned about...a little crying never hurt anyone

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