How do I fix this?!

Tiffany - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




The last few weeks I have been bringing my daughter (3 months old on the 17th) into my bed after her night time feeding. She is put in her crib initially at the beginnnig of the night, and does fine in there at that time. I've been doing this for convienance (I find it easier to feed her in my bed lyeing down, rather than sitting in the rocking chair). A few days ago, I read in the newspaper that a 6 month old had suffocated sleeping with their parent/s. After I read this, I made sure to remove any extra blankets or pillows, but I still can't get this out of my mind. And im paranoid now that somthing might happen. This has only been happening for about 3 weeks, but I guess it's been long enuff for her to get used to this routine. Now, whenever I try to put her back in her crib, she wont fall asleep.. she just lies there and cries. I've tried leaving her for a while to see if she might fall asleep, but nothing.. she just WONT sleep in her crib. Im getting pretty frusturated, and have no idea what to do about this. ANY IDEAS??


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Mona Joksch - posted on 10/07/2009




I had both my babies in a crib next to our bed, but just as you've experienced, it's much easier to feed lying down. After feeding at night, we would both fall asleep, but when I woke, I always put the baby back in her crib. What I've learned, is that the transition goes much smoother when they have their own bed cover in my bed. That way they don't wake up because of the change in temperature. When it comes to cosleeping, it's normally no problem avoiding suffocation if the baby has its own cover, and the parents are non-smoking and not influenced by alcohol or drugs. The main reason for suffocation is that the baby gets too warm under the parent's cover. Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 10/07/2009




Sharon, Yes the crib is pretty much 2 feet away from my bed. I guessed that mabye she like's the warmth in my bed, rather than in her crib. Because I make sure not to keep lots of blankets in her crib. And unfortunately, the crib does not have wheels (which Im regretting not buying one with them for this reason). And Donna, thanks for that tip. Im going to try that forsure tonight! Christine, Im keeping my finger's crossed that this works :) I definitly agree that them sleeping in their own cribs may contribute to them finally sleeping through the night. It makes sense, when their so close to you and can feel you/smell you next to them. Thanks for the advice ladies! :)

Christine - posted on 10/07/2009




i live in indiana and there are TERRIBLE commercials on tv about co sleeping, with the slogan "babies sleep safest alone." the only thing i could find on youtube was a parody making fun of the PSA but it really scared me because it came out around the time my son was born. cosleeping deaths are not that uncommon and my son sleeps in his crib now for the same reason i didnt smoke while i was pregnant. i just cant take that chance. the only thing that helped me get my son out of our bed was my shirt (like donna said), many trips into his room with a pacifier, and consistency. it was hard to hear him cry but he now sleeps through the night and i like to think that the transition is the reason. good luck.

Penny - posted on 10/07/2009




haha i have 3 and did it with all of them it would b rare for that to happen mine r 12 9 and 3 but when each was about 3 it was hard to get them out of my bed lol but its cumfort

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2009




Is the crib in your room? It might help her just to hear you. Otherwise you could get one of those cosleeping things where they have their own little bed in your bed. My advice, however, would be to break this habit while its relatively easy.... have you got wheels on your cot/crib so you can rock her to sleep?

Donna - posted on 10/06/2009




Maybe put her in her crib when she's asleep and put a top of yours in with her she will be able to smell your scent and that may settle her.

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