I am expecting my first child...

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am six months pregnant with a girl and i have been having lots of second guessing about if i will be a good enough mom and if my husband being in the airforce will affect her in a positive or negative way... i dont known what to expect and its happening so fast!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sarah - posted on 07/31/2009




thanks everyone...... makes a lot of sense.... and ashley.... i love you you are like my lifesaver!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2009




she wont know any different! just do what you feel comfortable with as a mommy and she will love your more than anything, no matter what! and with josh being in the airforce, she will only know with what she is being raised to. she wont know the difference, she will think that other kids have different lives than her, rather than her saying her life is different.. does that make since?? just a few more months and you will have her in your arms and you wont even be thinking about any of this conversation!! Just remember that all moms and babies are different, being a mommy comes natural to every woman! you will be great!

plus i think when we were back in elementary, we were pretty good with our dolls..! lol haha the good days! Love you and baby Harper :)

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2009




Hi Sarah,
Firstly, congratulations!! What i wouldn't give to have my pregnancy all over again, it was bliss (i think i was very lucky lol). Everyone doubts whether they are up to being a parent or not. I think i spent the whole 9 months wondering how on earth i was going to cope and i had a husband at home lol.
If your husband is away in the airforce then of course it will be difficult. You just need to establish a support network of friends and family around you now to build on. I bet if you talk to him he feels awful about it too because he'll be missing out on his little girl. Still, take as many photos as you like - whatever anyone says, you can NEVER have too many photos!! I have thousands of Thomas (now 8 months old) but still feel like i could have taken more lol.
As your little princess grows up just let her know that just because Daddy isn't around, doesn't mean he doesn't think of her everyday. She will be so proud that her Daddy is in the airforce - as she should be! It will give her incredible bragging rights with her friends!!
If all else fails, you can always find help and advice etc on here. CoM has been a godsend to me. Whatever questions or problems you have, you can bet your bottom dollar that someone has already asked the question before. Nobody judges anyone on here and no question is too daft!!
In the meantime, keep your chin up! Everyone says that pregnant women are the most beautiful women in the world so embrace that and look forward to meeting your beautiful little girl who you would do anything for xx

Etta - posted on 07/28/2009




Everyone goes through some doubts and anxiety. Try to relax and prepare for the baby by reading and taking classes. Many hospitals have moms groups. It may be overwhelming when you're learning to take care of a new baby, but it's a great help and release to go to these groups. La Leche League is another good group.
Also, be sure to ask for help from family and friends.
Good luck!

Heidi - posted on 07/28/2009




Everyone goes through a bit of this. Try your best, give lots of love and patience. If you are positive about you husband being away, so will the baby. Lastly, just like "Big Brother"...Expect the Unexpected! Stuff happens and you figure a way to deal with it. My first had a blow-out while I was nursing her in a parking lot. I had clothes for her but not me! Otherwise use the "What to Expect The First Year" as a GUIDE. It helps. There are probably some groups in your area to find sanity. Bond with your Lamaze classmates. They are going through the same thing at the same time.

Oh...and life goes by faster the older you get, so slow down and enjoy being pregnant. Baby kicks are soooo coooool! I will miss them.

Heather - posted on 07/28/2009




Everyone feels the same way, at one point or another. You'll be great...just do what comes naturally...and don't ever be afraid to ask for help. :) Congrats!

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