I need all advice on how to get a 6 mnth to sleep through the night!!

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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I thought I knew all the tricks but he refuses to sleep longer than 3 hours at a time. I know he can because he's done it a couple times before and his first 3 months he slept from midnight to 6 every night. I am nursing and I have tried giving him cerel before bed, tried letting him cry it out (that just ticked him off and had us both up till 3 am). He is on a very good schedule through out the day and goes 4 hours between feedings. I lay him down for naps during the day awake and he goes to sleep on his own and takes two two hour naps.

Are there any other tricks I can try because I am so tired!!! When he wakes at night he eats and goes back to sleep. If I don't feed him and try to get him to go back to sleep he just screams. HELP!! I know he can do it, I just don't know how!!

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Bilhah - posted on 10/29/2015

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Sometimes babies at this stage are so fussy that it becomes a frustration to make them asleep them. They also cry a lot. The only thing I know to deal with this problem is babies magic tea. It soothes the newborns and infants and they remain more comfortable than any other solution can do.

Jessica - posted on 02/16/2009

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Quoting Anna:



LOL maybe you'll have to move back  home......yay for 6 hours,,,,,did you get any sleep yourself??





Of course not I was waiting on him to wake up.  I got up about 15 minutes before he normally does and then couldn't go back to sleep because I knew he would be waking up soon.  So I waited for almost an hour and then finally dozed back off.  Then an hour later I was awake again to go check on him!  lol  I have a motion sensor and I still feel the need to go and check to see if it's working!  I may never sleep!

Anna - posted on 02/15/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

....Which is why I am demanding that we get one of our own!



LOL maybe you'll have to move back  home......yay for 6 hours,,,,,did you get any sleep yourself??



keep us posted on how you're going.......

Jessica - posted on 02/15/2009

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I would be happy with 6! But he did sleep from 11:30 to 6:30 this morning!! I am attributing that to his swim last night in grandmas hot tub....Which is why I am demanding that we get one of our own!

Anna - posted on 02/15/2009

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Quoting Sara:

And my opinion that for a breastfed baby of 6 months - 8 hours is a long time to go without feeding. So if you can make 9 or 10 pm to 5 am... I'd call that sleeping through the night!



Yep  8 hours is good......I have been weaning our LO off the Dream feed so she's just starting to sleep last night from 10..till 7am, (first time in ages!!) Een when she slept from midnight till 7 I was sooo excited that I called it Sleeping thru.... ;0) hehehehe

Sara - posted on 02/14/2009

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Isn't it amazing how every child has their own quirks and challenges... and how something that works so perfectly with one doesn't work at all for another? I think your gradual change is a good plan, too. We've been struggling with the night time wakings/feedings recently too, and I'm actually attributing it to her poor feeding habits during the day. She's just one of those kids who NEEDS to see what's going on all the time. And so she gets really distracted when she's nursing. As a result, I don't think she's getting all the calories she needs during the day, and so she's waking to feed at night. I've been trying to cluster feed before bedtime (every 1.5-2 hours) as she's able. It's helping. She's now up 1x a night, instead of 2 or 3... And my opinion that for a breastfed baby of 6 months - 8 hours is a long time to go without feeding. So if you can make 9 or 10 pm to 5 am... I'd call that sleeping through the night!

Anna - posted on 02/14/2009

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Jessica, well done on making some changes, it's not easy to do is? I think the gradual change is the way to go.......

We use a similar approach to Bethany but our LO never managed to get into a space where she does the same thing everyday, but we have a 4 hourly feed routine, with rough awake times and sleep times. I use a theory called E.A.S.Y. See the link I posted before if it interests you....

Also, I think it is important for anyone posting on a forum anywhere to be mindful to show respect to each other and the way we parent....it takes afterall many different people to make a world, and what works for some doesn't necessarily work for others ;0)

Good Luck

Jessica - posted on 02/14/2009

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Just to let you know I tried moving it up by an hour last night and he woke up at 1 and then 6am but he is still in there trying to talk himself back to sleep. I am going to try and move it up a little each night so it's not a shock to his system! And believe me if I thought it was safe for us I would never let him leave my side. He would sleep with me every night. It's just not possible in our household and I never needed to do it with my first child. They both are large children for their age and the bassinet only would work for so ling before he was too big for it and it was only waking him up anyway because he couldn't move. I totally support co sleeping, it's just not for us.

Stasia - posted on 02/14/2009

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Jessica you have very valid points for not co sleeping and though I am a co sleeping supporter I think it is definitely not the right choice for you and your family and I also find it unfortunate that we can't ask questions without being judged.
I think its great you are trying to adjust the bedtime, we had to do it too around that age (our girl was also going to bed around 930-10) and now she is in bed sleeping around 730-8. Hope it all works out for you!

Bethany - posted on 02/13/2009

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Hope it goes well! Would you mind giving an update after a week or two? I'll be curious about how the new bedtime works out.

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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I am going to try the 7pm bedtime. I know he is sleppy at that time. The 10 bedtime is just the time he has gone to sleep since he was born. I tried a few times moving it up but with no success. He would sleep from like 8- 10 and then think it was play time for a few hours. Maybe now that he is a little older I'll try again. Sounds like you have a pretty good schedule going on. We'll see how he adjusts to a 7 bedtime.

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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Quoting Joyce:



i think it's unfortunate that society today thinks it's acceptable to set emotional and physical boundaries with babies. i think it's animal instinct to co-sleep. well, at least i'm not the one with the sleep problem. i got both daughters to sleep through the night at 6 weeks. if they ever happen to wake up, i just turned over to offer them my breast and we both fall asleep (not the big girl now, she's weaned). my 3 month old is down for the night at 8:30 and both girls wake up at 7 in the morning. the best part aside from her sleeping all night is seeing her cuddle with her big sister. too bad you are so dismissive - good luck!



 



 



I think that it is unfortunate for you to judge how I choose to care for my children.  I don't disagree with co-sleeping.  I had him in my room in a bassinet set up right next to my bed and was able to roll over and nurse him back to sleep.  At five months I put him in his crib and I still have the same bond with him as if he was in the same bed.   My husband is 6'4 and we don't have a bed big enough for all of us to sleep together safely.  You want to buy me a king size and I will happily try it your way.  I am thinking about the safety of my child and the feelings of my oldest child.


 

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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Quoting Joyce:



i think it's unfortunate that society today thinks it's acceptable to set emotional and physical boundaries with babies. i think it's animal instinct to co-sleep. well, at least i'm not the one with the sleep problem. i got both daughters to sleep through the night at 6 weeks. if they ever happen to wake up, i just turned over to offer them my breast and we both fall asleep (not the big girl now, she's weaned). my 3 month old is down for the night at 8:30 and both girls wake up at 7 in the morning. the best part aside from her sleeping all night is seeing her cuddle with her big sister. too bad you are so dismissive - good luck!



 



 



I think that it is unfortunate for you to judge how I choose to care for my children.  I don't disagree with co-sleeping.  I had him in my room in a bassinet set up right next to my bed and was able to roll over and nurse him back to sleep.  At five months I put him in his crib and I still have the same bond with him as if he was in the same bed.   My husband is 6'4 and we don't have a bed big enough for all of us to sleep together safely.  You want to buy me a king size and I will happily try it your way.  I am thinking about the safety of my child and the feelings of my oldest child.


 

Bethany - posted on 02/13/2009

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Is there a reason normal bedtime is 10pm? Meaning, does his daddy work late or something? Otherwise, I would really suggest putting him down at 7 for bedtime. When he wakes up because he thinks it's a nap, nurse him or do whatever you do to get him back to sleep, and put him back down. He may fuss quite a bit for a few nights, but then he'll get used to it, and will probably sleep until 6 or 7am. Maybe longer.

It sounds like he's just overtired, which would make him wake up frequently at night. My daughter is a terrible sleeper whenever she stays up that late. She seems really happy and awake, but that's only because she passed her natural bedtime and is running on pure adrenaline.

Our basic routine at 6 months was: 7am wake up, 9am nap. 11am wake up and lunch, 1pm nap. 3-3:30pm wake up and dinner, 5(ish)pm catnap. 6:15ish wake up, nurse, back to bed by 7, and she'd sleep all night. Not that our kids are the same, by any means, but sometimes it helps to see what another schedule looks like. :)

Joyce - posted on 02/13/2009

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i think it's unfortunate that society today thinks it's acceptable to set emotional and physical boundaries with babies. i think it's animal instinct to co-sleep. well, at least i'm not the one with the sleep problem. i got both daughters to sleep through the night at 6 weeks. if they ever happen to wake up, i just turned over to offer them my breast and we both fall asleep (not the big girl now, she's weaned). my 3 month old is down for the night at 8:30 and both girls wake up at 7 in the morning. the best part aside from her sleeping all night is seeing her cuddle with her big sister. too bad you are so dismissive - good luck!

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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He does get sleepy around 7 and he takes about a 30 minute nap then, he won't sleep any longer than that. Then he is up until 10 which is his bedtime. I spend from 9-10 feeding bathing and everything else. He is always asleep by 10:15-10:30. And yes he does have set times that he wakes normally 2:30 and 5:30 and then he wakes for the day between 8:30 and 9. He won't eat again until 10 and then breakfast and then about 10:30 he lays down again and takes a 1-2 hour nap.

I won't allow him to co-sleep simply because we never did it with our oldest and he knows that he is to sleep in his bed. I don't want to cause tension with his brother if he sees him sleeping with us and wonders why he's not aloud to. We never had this problem with him. I let him cry it out one night and he was sleeping through the night every night since.

Bethany - posted on 02/13/2009

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Oh, I was going to mention the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth.

Bethany - posted on 02/13/2009

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I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son! Lack of sleep is a killer. :-/

I have a couple questions for you: what time is his morning wake time, and what time does he go to bed? Does he wake up at the same times every night?

I've found that a consistent morning waketime helps. Also, most babies naturally get tired around 6 or 7pm, and if you put them to bed when they start showing signs of tiredness it really helps them sleep better and longer at night. Sometimes they can get "stuck" at waking up at a certain time every night, but if cry it out for a few nights hasn't worked for you, you may need a different approach.

If my daughter wakes up early, I feed her then, put her back to bed, and wake her up again at 7am, which is when we begin our day. Even if she wakes up at 5:30, I still get her back up at 7, then down for her nap at 9.

BTW, I'm sure there is a reason you don't co-sleep, and that is definitely not the only way to get your child to sleep at night!

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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He has a bedtime routine, he first eats dinner and that consists of some kind of fruit with cereal mixed in it and a jar of dinner food like pasta and vegies. Then he gets a nice warm bath and gets lotion rub down. I have been doing this since he was born. I massage his feet and his belly and his back and everything. Then we go into his bedroom and turn off the lights and he nurses and usually falls asleep while nursing but sometimes he will still be awake when he is done and I lay him in bed and he goes to sleep. He sleeps through the night about once a week and I can't figure out what I do those nights any different than the other nights. Like last night he slept from 11 to 3 and then didn't wake up till 9:30.

Candace - posted on 02/12/2009

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i heard that if u give them a warm bath right befor bed that, that would help

Anna - posted on 02/11/2009

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try http://www.babywhispererforums.com/ this has kept me sane the bok I used "The baby whisperer solves all your problems" by tracy Hogg and belinds Blau...it's fantastic i learnt so much.....there are techs such as wake to sleep adn pick up/put down....I always remember thou that my Lo is an individual and wasn't born out of a text book Good luck! it is a super friendly forum BTW nad everyone shows respect......

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2009

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i'm with joyce here...is there a reason why he can't be in your bed? it may seem strange at first but you will get used to it and may even find when he is big enough to get out of your bed, he will because he knows he can come back any time he likes. its not for everyone, i know but our two year old is in our bed almost every night and we have still managed to get pregnant again...so it doesn't really put that much of a dampener on things...just have to co-ordinate the times a little more, thats all! good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2009

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My 7 month old does the same thing.  She wakes up every 3 to 4 hours to eat.  She is however formula feed so easier to feed her.  I don't know how long you plan on breast feeding but if u are transitioning to bottle soon at least u are not up long when he wakes to eat.  But I also did hear there are books.  But I figure every kid is different and some just won't sleep through night yet.  I even read that only 1 in 6 six-month old babies sleep through the night.  Hopefully he just grows out of it sometime.

Joyce - posted on 02/11/2009

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maybe try feeding him more before he goes to sleep. if it's an emotional thing and just needs attention try having him sleep in your bed. i got both daughters to sleep through the night by co-sleeping. co- sleeping is a big commitment, you might have him in your bed for some of the night and transfer him in his crib lather. i personally love sleeping with my girls in my bed, you might too.



cheers!

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2009

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I recommend the book The No-cry Sleep Solution" it has been recommended to me and I am reading it right now. Mostly it talks about routine and documenting sleep patterns etc. There is a 10 step program and mothers sware by it! I am breast feeding and bottle feeding. My schedule is baby massage with grape seed oil, (recommended from my massage therapist), I used a video from the library to learn infant massage) step two take off diaper, step three bath, , then sometimes put cream on baby and dreess then step 4 breast feed then 2oz bottle , then I turn out lights in the room, play the little lighted up mobile, rock her with a soother and play enja soft music. I then place her in her crib while still awake put the soother in and hold her hand. she is usually calm at this point after a minute, I leave the room and keep coming back in and checking every few minutes. At 6 months cereal is ok maybe he needs more and is going through a growth spurt. Good Luck

Jessica

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