Is it possible to have achild that doesn't like you?

Shauna - posted on 12/30/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son is almost seven weeks old. Me and my fiancee have returned back to work. Needless to say he spends a lot of time at grandma's house. There he is a complete angel, sleeps all night and is very aware during the day but not screaming. When either me or his dad are there he continues to act that way. The drive home he is sound asleep. The second we walk in the door...he screams bloody murder all night. Nothing will soothe him and he just doesn't seem happy. It can't be colic because it's not every night, just the nights he is home. His dad and I are feeling very hurt and abandoned by our own son. Does any one have any advice on how to make a better life at home for the three of us?


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Michelle - posted on 12/30/2009




Dont take it personal, he may justbe use to grandmas house because that is where he is when you are working! Babies are creatures of habit, and sometime a weird with change. As he gets older he will get use to the routine, and as he gets older he will form that bong with you and daddy. Dont worry he loves you both!

Plus grandma gets the pleasant rested baby during the day and you eventually get the tired cranky baby at night. When he gets older he will be awake longer and before you know it when you bring him home he will smile!

Natalie - posted on 12/30/2009




He may be having a little difficulty bonding (and maybe you are too). My son and I didn't bond immediately and it took a little time to get to know each other. Maybe when you are home with him try giving him as much skin on skin contact as you can and if you have a baby carrier/sling, put him in it as often as you can so he feels close to you. It's been proven to help babies bond and makes them sleep more contently at night. Hang in there - I am absolutely positive that you will grow to love each other. Sometimes it just takes a little time for everyone to adjust to each other and an everyday routine. Don't take it personally as I am sure you are wonderful parents doing the best you can for you son. He certainly feels your love and concern!

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