Labour/Birth experience?

Paige - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )




I was/ am a wimp when it comes to pain normally. But if I'm honest My birth experience was a liberating one. I would not say that giving birth was painful, i would say it is uncomfortable. I had contractions at an infriquent distants apart for twenty four hours, started having five minute apart contractions on tuesday night at 9:00pm, didnt go to the hospital till 5:30am, my mum didnt want to go because she though i was just being a wimp and they would tell us to go home. When we got there, i was examined and found to be 8cm dialated. I only used gas for a little bit, but when i was pushing and actually gave birth i had a clear head and no pain relief. Stretchmarks and all i am now more comfortable with my body then i was before and i havemy beautiful baby girl to show for them! am I strange, or did you also have a similar experience?


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Jessoliver87 - posted on 08/14/2009




I agre with what Topaz Greenwood said - if you have given birth to a child (whether it be natural or caesarean) you are not a wimp!!!

I was completely terrified in the last couple of months of my pregnancy, it was like it suddenly hit me one day that this baby was going to have to come out of me somehow. I am the biggest sook when it comes to pain but I am quite proud of myself for coping for as long as I did.

I find my whole labour experience rather funny, so I'll share it with you all. (sorry if it becomes a bit of a novel LOL!)

I woke up as usual at 5.30 am christmas eve 2008 for the daily morning bladder empty. Went to the toilet and my mucus plug just happened to fall out then. Within half an hour I was getting cramps on and off (they felt like period pain). I called up the hospital to see what I should do, whether I should come in or wait (I hadn't experienced ANY movements from my son for 5 days beforehand), they asked me to come in. I was rushing around the house getting things organised so that my mum could just come back and grab my bag when I needed it, and I got the idea in my head that I had to organise christmas presents and wrap them. I was told to eat before coming in so I made mum stop of at McDonalds on the way so I could grab breakfast. The cramps were getting worse and I ended up leaning on the counter in McDonalds timing how far apart and how long they were lasting for while a lady behind me in line was asking if I was ok! I got to the hospital, they hooked me up to a fetal monitering machine (I honestly cannot remember what its called) and it was measuring that I was having contractions. Because I was only 1cm dilated, they told me I could either wait around the hospital or go home and then come back when things were too unbearable for me.

I left the hospital, stopped off at the shops on the way to my sisters house to get something to eat. I bumped into a friends mum, she got all excited for me and was almost screaming with happiness. When I got to my sisters house I helped her wrap up her kids christmas presents, then kept walking around the house to keep my contractions coming. Ended up in the shower to try ease off the horrible back pain I was getting. After that mum, my sister and I went to Hungry Jacks for lunch. (Gotta love my choice of food while I was in labour!!)

Afterwards I went back to the hospital where by this stage I was only 2cm dilated. I had said previously that I wanted an epidural and the midwives told me that it would be better for me to have that after my waters had been broken because otherwise it would slow everything down and drag out my labour even longer. I ended up in the shower again because the back pain was unbearable. Stood in there for over an hour while my sister kept rubbing my back. After that I was then dragged all round the hospital, had to keeping because everytime I stopped and sat down the contractions eased off.

The pain finally got too much to handle, I was finally 3cm dilated so I could have my waters broken. I was given the epidural after 13hrs of drug-free contractions (I was surprised I coped for that long!!!). I dozed on and off for an hour before asking for another top up of the epidural. I then fell asleep for a couple of hours before waking up to extremely full on contractions. One of the midwives helped me up so I could go to the toilet but as soon as I sat down on the toilet I felt like I needed to push. I freaked out thinking my son was going to be born in the toilet (I now know that wouldn't have happened!!). After 20min of pushing, my son Cameron Zane Oliver was born at 12.30am on Christmas Day 2008 :) best christmas present ever!!

I am extremely proud of myself for going through that experience as well as I did, and I was glad I had my mum and sister there as my support people. They made the experience all the more better and even kept me laughing when I just wanted to cry.
(Sorry for the novel)

Lisas - posted on 08/12/2009




In both my pregnancies the pain was manageable - only b/c I managed to keep a level head over the whole matter, instead of letting the contractions ravage me. I had HARD back labor with both boys, but managed to deliver both without any meds.

Everett, born 7 lb 14 oz, was a water birth - born under water with a good hour and half of pushing. I actually labored for 5 hours after my water broke with a doula (which was GREAT support for new parents).

Darren, born 7 lbs, 15 oz, was a castor oil baby. It was gross b/c I labored over the toilet not quite know what I was pushing out - baby or poop, but I guess it helped keeping the place clean. Unlike Everett, I came to the hospital at a 5 (instead of 8), so I had more work to do before pushing. Darren came out in one good push after I cleaned myself out. It was gross, but I was desperate.

Overall, I'd definitely try the water birth again since it was more relaxing than the other. Both times, my doula managed to counteract the strong back labor, so that I could keep focused on keeping on top of the contractions. She was a HUGE help.

Sarah - posted on 08/12/2009




my 1st baby was born at home. according to the time frame, he was just about 3 weeks late so i thought i was going to have a huge baby lol. he was 7lbs and 19 inches long. i felt no pain at all except for when it was time to push him out. i thank my lucky stars that my 1st was so easy.

my 2nd was induced cause i went a week over my due date and my doctor didnt want to wait anymore. i had 10 hours of labor but it felt wierd cause a machine was controlling the contractions not my own body. the contractions defenitely hurt and i was asking for pain medication about half way through the day. my baby stayed at 6 centemiters for pretty much the entire day and when my doctor checked me at 3:45ish he was still sitting there so we started talking about what to do next. it just happened that at that time of the day i was ready to go pee so when i stood up thats when he finally dropped down. he literally went from 6 to 10 centemiters like that. the next thing i felt was the urge to do # 2 and my nurse told me that was the baby pushing on my spine. she checked me and they rushed the doctor in to deliver. he told me to push on the next contraction and pop...he was born at 4:56. he was 8 lbs 1 oz and 22 inches long so none of the newborn stuff i bought fit him lol.

my 3rd baby was also induced although i dont think there was a real reason behind it other then my doctor was going on vacation the day after. for the entire 9 months my bp was fine, my weight was fine. two days before i delivered, my doctor's nurse practictioner checked me. i hadnt dialated at all, wasnt contracting at all. somehow my bp was sky high so they sent me to the hospital for a nst which was NORMAL. but the same day of the nst, my doctor set up for me to be induced the next day. i was 39 and a half weeks preggie and i was def ready for my baby to come out but if he didnt need to be induced, i would have wanted him normally. went to the hospital the next day and as it turned out, baby # 3 was determined to be just like # 2. he stayed at 5 centimeters the entire day. my doctor did take time out of his busy day planning his vacation to break my water and stretch my cervix since i wasnt in labor when i was induced. at about noon i started asking for pain medication cause the contractions hurt big time! baby # 3 was born at 4:33. he weighed 7 lbs 4 oz and was 19 inches long so all of the newborn stuff i had bought before now i get to use... woohoo! lol

with both inductions, it felt like it was out of my control and i wonder what would have happened if nature had done its thing but i try not to dwell on it too much. all 3 are healthy so i can be thankful for that. im still waiting for an explanation from the last doctor on why i was induced. didnt get it when he planned the induction, didnt get it at my 2 week checkup..maybe he can explain at the 6 week checkup.. *shrugs* one good thing about being induced was that i knew for sure what day my babies were going to be born and it did make it easy find a babysitter for the older one. my 3rd was by far the most painful of the 3.

Talina - posted on 08/12/2009




I just had my first "homebirth" style, unmedicated and intervention free in my midwife's cabin. Birth story posted at:

It was not nearly as bad as everyone makes it out to be. I was expecting crazy pain and mood swings. Thought I would loose my mind and be in so much pain but I was able to relax and keep quiet while meditating until the last 45 min when I was in the pushing phase. I even had a 4th degree tear too...

Lucy - posted on 08/12/2009




i wish i had that experience mine went really wrong, was in labour for 3 days had all contractions in my back because he was back to back, he was stuck and was in distress and had to have a emergency c section, hopefully next baby will come naturally

Yolanda - posted on 08/11/2009




Both my babies were born natural, no meds. My 1st labor was 6 hours long in the hospital and I probobly labored at home for about 10 hours but I was able to handle the pain. The only thing that made me go to the hospital was my water breaking and then the strong contractions. She was 7lbs. 3oz. My 2nd labor was 4 hours in the hospital and probably 6 hours at home. I thought I couldn't handle it and even asked for something. Thank God my husband knew what I really wanted and my nurse encouraged me and we skipped the meds. My baby was only 5lbs. 9oz. so size didn't matter in my case. I found the pain in my second labor more intense. Healthy babies and mommy in the end was all that mattered.

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With both my children labour was under 5 hours. With the first I had paracentamol, gas & air, and pethidine. She was 8lb 15oz and I needed a few stitches due to tearing. With the second there was only time for paracetamol and gas & air as 2nd stage was only 3 minutes. She was 8lb 4oz and there were no stitches needed this time. For me it was the worst pain there is and I hated it. Having said that, at least it was over quickly, unlike the 4+ months of heartburn during pregnancy - that's more likely to put me off having more babies than the birth pain!

Vicki - posted on 08/11/2009




i am very proud of my birth experience as i thought it was beyond painful to the point where i thought my body was just going to explode with pain, yet during my 12 hour labour i had half an hour on gas and air, i have never been keen on my body to be fair but i hate HATE my baby bulge, i got alot of strechmarks and its all so jellyfied. yuck lol

Lindsey - posted on 08/10/2009




i had a good experience as well...went in..had a baby an hour after i got there..with no pain meds didn't even know how dialated i was when i got there just sat there basically..had some contractions only about 2 or 3 that were VERY strong and that was about it..i told them i had to push they checked to see how dialated i was.. (finally) said i was full and ready to push GREAT! then out came my little munchkin lol it was nice and ill b doing it again in feb. i hope it is this easy again :-D

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2009




no way are you strange....its nice to see that there are still mums who can appreciate labour for what it is, an amazing and beautiful thing...good for you!

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labour was shit.
hurt like a bitch. but then again mine was unproductive.
ended in a c section.

your lucky to have had such an awesome experience.
but at the end of the day... id do it all again... pain, her getting stuck and a cut open tummy if i had to!

Christine - posted on 08/10/2009




I had a completely natural childbirth. You're right, it's not painful, it's uncomfortable. I loved giving birth and I can't wait to do it again! I went into labor on January 10th and delivered my 8 pound 2 ounce 20 inch baby boy, with a whopping 14 inch head diameter. I loved feeling new life be born. It was so emotional and spiritual!!

Topaz - posted on 08/10/2009




your not a wimp. no woman is a wimp when giving birth!!!! :) I experienced a 100% natural birth- no epidural, no gas, no pain meds.... I pushed out a 9pounder..... Everyone thought i was stupid and crazy but ive got an awesome story to tell my daughter when she is older. i did get to the point where i yelled out ' i cant do this anymore!" my nurse said "its too late, your at a 10- lets push."

i was having contraction for about a week, but on tuesday morning i started feeling nauseated and i couldnt eat anything..... i went to work and left around lunch time and headed to the hospital because i couldnt handle being uncomfortable- so we went just to check at least... (it was 3 days before her due date) they admitted me and i had her that night at 8:32!

Candice - posted on 08/10/2009




you aren't a wimp. I AM! i believe at some point i screamed "OH GOD GET IT OUT!!!", and I had an epidural! (i think i was tearing at the time). actually, the whole 24 hours of labour wasn't rough for me at all. i had the nurses laughing all day. the last hour sucked though. :) then i cried for a week.

Naomi - posted on 08/10/2009




I wish i experienced a normal birth.everything went to pot with mine.first i was in hospital for a few days when i was 30weeks pregnant for high blood pressure.the doctors said to me i wouldnt go full term so they gave me steroids to help develop the babies lungs just in case.a few days later i went home for 1night and i was pacing the house all night with chest the next day went back in and they examined me and said it was just severe heartburn.while at the hospital i had a poorly tummy so i had to stay in for another night.the morning after i felt so much better and started to pack to go home.while sat on the bed eating my breakfast i started bleeding.the midwife came in and the doctor and could not find where the bleeding was coming from so they took me down to delivery suite.they did a scan and told me his head is down and engaged and found myself 3cm dialated within an hour.i started bleeding at 9in the morning and my baby boy was born 2:54pm by emergency c-section.Kaleb was born just 3lb 5oz, 9 weeks early.they showed him to me then wisked him off to be ventelated.i then didnt see him for 24hours as i was in high dependancy unit myself.i then didnt get to hold him 4days after he was born.i am proud to say he spent 3weeks in hospital and is now 3months old and doing well.i love my stretchmarks as its a symbol of where my beautiful boy came from.

Natalie - posted on 08/10/2009




I had contractions on and off for a few days, think they were Braxton Hicks tho. The day I went into labour I had random contractions all day, and because I had an upset tummy I went to hospital for a drip cos I was dehydrated. Went home, and hours later the real contractions started. I do think they were painful but I kept expecting them to get worse, so laboured in the shower and on all fours and kept refusing to go to hospital (cos I'd been there in the day, and didnt want to go in til I was in 'full' labour). When my mum and hubby started timing, my contractions were 5 mins apart, n we decided to go to hosp. My waters broke on the way to the car, and when we got to hosp I was 10cm. Had no drugs, and had a beautiful alert baby boy! I loved my experience and will definitely be doing it again! Very liberating for me too :-)

Crystal - posted on 08/10/2009




i did have the same experience i was stressed out with my first i got induced i didnt have build up contractions it just went painful then in 2 hours it was all over with my second i experienced a normal birth was 14 hours waters broke but no contractions went in hospital to get checked this pain was not as bad as my first i just felt uncomfortable i used the gas also i was very proud of myself that i didnt use anything else lol and i have 2 beautiful boys

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