my son is just 5 and still wearing nappies. I have tried everything - any advice welcome

ANDREA - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son of 5 will not use the toilet other than the odd wee, he prefers to dirty his nappy and then refuses to let me change him. He smells terrible and i am finding it very difficult. I have tried all sorts of ways to encourage him but he is must not interested. He would rather go and hide under a table or behind a curtain and soil himself then carry on as if nothing has happened. His moods get worse when he has done this and he gets very grumpy and angry often. Now he has started school I am sad for him even though he doesnt seem to mind. People say it will sort itself out but i can see no end to it.


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Robin - posted on 09/25/2009




One thing I have seen work wonders is letting him be around other kids his age and seeing them do it maybe he will want to be a big boy,

another thing is try putting him in just undies and the first few times he will wet himself, its SOOOO uncomfortable then having to bath and change wont be fun for him, and he will want to go in the toilette,

and last but not least, they have these things called pittle petals, and they are like floating targets you put in the toilette to make a game of it.

The mom mentioned abover her 2 1/2 yr old My aunt who has been a nurse for YEARS and VERY GOOD, says that BOYS specifically dont FULLY DEVELOP the nerves down there until they are at least 3.

Just so you know, my younger brother, who is now 10 would go no 1 just fine but for some reason would NOT go number 2 in the toilette, its like he was embarrased or something, HE TOO would go squat in a corner somewhere in his diaper, BUT it did eventually work it self out.

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I don't know about sorting itself out by 5 years old. It should have at least started to sort itself by now. I agree with Jackie, go see your GP to see if there are any other reasons he may be reacting like this.

There is a website that might be helpful to you too. I used it with my son (who is 2 1/2). She is really helpful and the products worked in just a few days for me. It took my son 3 days to learn and 2 weeks to be accident free (we had an issue with going away for a weekend)... although he still has the occasional one (usually when he's too busy playing). I started with having him run around without a nappy for a day.

Good luck Andrea!

Jackie - posted on 09/25/2009




I would be taking him to the doctor. You could be dealing with bigger issues then the potty. By the age of 5 he should be very embarrassed by accidents and should not be intentionally not using the toilet. My 5 year old has the odd accident during the night/morning and sometimes when to busy playing to notice how badly he needs to go. Then for the next 3 days I hear about how sorry he is even tho I don't make a big deal out of it. My boy was a late trainer due to hearing loss and it became a control issue for him. I would definitely rule out any other underlining problem with your family doctor.

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