Separation anxiety

Sam - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I don't know if it is natural to experience some sort of separation distress. While you’re pregnant the child is part of you. Is everywhere you are, in later stages you feel every movement and every hiccup. When you lay or sit down you have to get comfortable together. It is the thing I miss the most of pregnancy. When she's born she is a separate being. You have to allow other people to hold or touch her. You need to put her down to do house chores. Even when I give my little girl to her father I want her back after 5 minutes, then I go find some chore to do to fight the feeling to take her back. I don't like sleeping without her by my side, feeling her body against me and listening to her breathing. Even with her in the cot next to the bed i can not sleep. I don't like being separated from her full stop.


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Natalie - posted on 08/21/2009




I have a 6 week old baby girl - my mum flew up to see us and offered to look after her for a couple of hours while we went and did some shopping, as soon as I was in the car and driving away I felt utterly sick and panicky(my mum is more than capable of looking after her and I trust her 100%) needles to say we were home in less than 2 hours after me annoying my hubby by always say hurry up I want to get home haha It is totally normal to feel separation anxiety.

Bridget - posted on 08/20/2009




I can remember when my first daughter was born. Any time I would put her down, and even more when I gave her to someone else, my arms would actually ache. The would hurt until I could hold her again. I even had trouble sleeping at night because I couldn't hold her.(I had to move her to her own room sooner than I wanted to, just to supress the urge to hold her while I slept) Eventually it gets better. You just have to give it time.

Angie - posted on 08/18/2009




I think separation anxiety is totally normal, especially with your first child. I had the exact same feelings with my son. I never wanted to be apart from him, not even for a minute. I don't think I left him with a sitter or his father until he was several months old, and he slept in my bed for months.

It gets easier as time goes on, especially as they get more independent and can entertain themselves. Don't worry, what you feel is totally normal.

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