Should I circumcise my sons?

Nedra - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 39 moms have responded )

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I am the mother of three boys ages 8, 6 and 1 month. I was reluctant to circumcise my two older sons thinking it was not necessary. I had my baby to the doctor and he recommended that he be circumcised because his foreskin is really tight. My husband then told the doctor he thinks our other two boys need the procedure too because it is difficult to pull back their foreskin. I am really concerned about them being in alot of pain. Anyone has any advise on this matter?

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User - posted on 09/25/2009

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Hi there, I had a son in January. I didn't want to do it at first but then I'm glad I did. I hear it's a whole lot cleaner. I kind of freaked out when it was healing. It looked like it hurt like hell. I would get your 1 month old circumcised. Your older boys.... well that's a hard one. But good luck on whatever you choose.

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Minnie - posted on 09/24/2009

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'There really isn't a reason not to"....



Except that it's not your body. Except that removing the foreskin removes muscle tissue, mucosal tissue, thousands of sensory nerves, except that the foreskin is important in sexual intercourse for the woman because it provides natural lubrication and prevents chafing, except that the foreskin is MEANT to be there to protect the head of the penis, to keep it soft, to prevent infection...

Lisa - posted on 09/24/2009

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this is a personal decision between you and your husband. However, I can offer some information. I also have two boys and I did a lot of research on it because everyone in my family had been and I wanted to do the right thing.
This is what I found out:
boys' foreskin doesn't pull back until they are much older. It is literally attached to the glands (head of penis) and slowly separates, sometimes not until they are 10 or older. You should never try to pull it back. If anything, have your son sit in the bathtub and let him pull it back as he knows when it starts to hurt and he can stop.
It is important to wash the penis, and to dab the pee off the tip after using the bathroom so that the pee doesn't sit in there and irritate the skin.
When a dr circumcises a newborn, they don't use anesthesia because the baby is too little to give a dose to without complications. Once the baby is older than a month or so most drs will refuse to do a circumcision because the baby can kick too hard making it too difficult.
The foreskin has been proven to be one of the most sensitive areas of the penis. It also collects dead skin cells and if it isn't properly cleaned every day can pose a health risk (this is for men not boys).
Some insurances don't cover it.
It has been recently shown in a study of African men to reduce the rate of AIDS transmission. but what they leave out is the fact that one in ten African's have HIV, and the men are not faithful in their marriages and they also like "dry" sex, where the woman dries herself as much as possible before hand (which also increases the tears and friction). Nothing is better than a condom or absence for the prevention of HIV. Having a circumcision won't stop the transmission.
Babies recover better from a circumcision because they are less likely to have an erection while healing, where as a man or older child tends to have nocturnal erections which would be painful to a recovering penis.
and lastly, as your husband. He is probably the best one to ask because he has a penis and can let you know how he feels about it.
good luck on your choice.
fyi: my boys did not get one and my husband doesn't have one either. but my brother and all his boys do. it's totally a personal choice.

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My husband and I had our son circumcised before he was discharged from the hospital. He was 6 weeks early and the only time he cried was when the doctor unstrapped him from the board thing. He never once cried from pain or anything.

Caty - posted on 09/26/2009

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well recently there have been a lot of infections with un-circumsized kids and even adults.. my brother in law had to have it done 2 years ago and his sons followed soon after cuz they also got infections.. i hear that is going around alot more.. the kids are not cleaning properly or it just gets infected .. in my opinion i just think about all the gunk that gets in the forskin and is sitting there and it grosses me out.. i plan on circumsizing my son.

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Robin-Frans - posted on 05/29/2013

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Personal choice? Maybe, but it could be argued parents have the ethical duty to make their son attractive to future girlfriends.

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Oh and they also gave my baby anesthesia and like I said he was a preemie! There weren't any complications and he didn't have any complications.

Sheila - posted on 09/27/2009

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It is a personal choice, but all the doctor's I've seen for my son recommend not having it done unless you just really want to. I was going to have my son's done, but since he was born very small, they wouldn't do it until he was at least 6 lbs. They also said they don't normally do them after 2 months. Pretty sure he's not going to make it to 6 lbs by then, since it's within this week and he's 5 lbs 9.77 oz. So I'm making the decision to not have it done. Obviously you know how to teach your kids to keep it clean since the older ones are uncircumcised, so you know the procedure with that. I would get some opinions of other doctors, since as Kristi said, the foreskin shouldn't be able to be pulled back easily that young. The only place that circumcision is really done so often is the USA, everywhere else it's barely done. All those other countries seem to get by w/o it okay.

Sharonda - posted on 09/27/2009

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This is a personal choice. I think u should research it more and find out more about the procedure. Alot of people get it for cosmetic reasons because this is all this society knows. every little boy has this done to them. I did the research when i was pregnant with my son and read some shocking reports on this. I jsut suggest u and your husband read up on this more b4 u get this done to your kids. Especially the older 2.

Tricia - posted on 09/26/2009

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I think that you should do it for them i have heard that it is more clean and stuff when they get it done. i myself have 2 boys and had it done with them when they were born. My advice is to get it done with maybe the baby first and see how it goes and then if you think you should do it with your 6 and 8 year old then that would be your decision

JTaira - posted on 09/26/2009

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definately. it helps them avoid a lot of problems later on in life, for example it without circumcision they are more susceptible to stds and infections if unprotected. plus if the foreskin is too tight i know of guys who say their skin rips and it hurts. cleaning is easier too

Lucy - posted on 09/26/2009

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Personally I wouldn't have my sons circumcised but again that's my personal decision. I live in the UK and it's extremely uncommon (practically unheard of) here for boys or men to have the procedure, except Jewish males.

Nadia - posted on 09/26/2009

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I would strongly suggest you do that. I have three boys, the first two were circumcised before we left the hospital. My third son has not been circumcised yet but will be as soon as I can get back to my home and make an appointment. We are out of town and he has some unusual swelling that freaked me out. So yes do it, your children will thank you later!

Alisha - posted on 09/26/2009

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i don't think it's a good idea you should wait until he is old enough to say his self if he wants to do it or not

Laura - posted on 09/25/2009

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I've done a lot of reading up on the matter and have found no medical reason it should be done. When my son was only a month old his foreskin was also tight but as he gets older it is not as big of a problem. I personally think it would be best to take each of your sons to the doctor and find out what is best for them.

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I had my son done, not for religious reasons, just because it is much easier to have him done as an infant, rather than have problems later on whether it be in his teen years or older. It is not a nice procedure to have done and it actually scared me when i saw the aftermath, but it healed up very quick and my sone was fine (was a week old when it was done) I know of a couple of people who had to have it done later on and it was terrible! It is a personal choice, one that you and your husband will have to make. Good luck!

Julia - posted on 09/25/2009

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Honestly, the only male in my whole family (two brothers and my father) who is circumsized is my adopted brother because his birth mother did not take care of him and by the time my parents got him it was too bad to save, however my father and other brother along with 4 nephews (ages 13, 11, 10 and 9) are all fine and have had no problems at all. My husband and I are right pregnant for number 3 and are fighting over this issue as he is and I don't believe that it is not my body and don't think I should make the decision for someone else. Personally, I would think that it would be harder to take care of the circumscision than not. Also the American Academy of Pediatrics DOES NOT recommend having your sons circumsized. The following statement is directly from the website: http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi...

AMERICAN ACADEMY OF PEDIATRICS:
Circumcision Policy Statement


Task Force on Circumcision

Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision. In circumstances in which there are potential benefits and risks, yet the procedure is not essential to the child's current well-being, parents should determine what is in the best interest of the child. To make an informed choice, parents of all male infants should be given accurate and unbiased information and be provided the opportunity to discuss this decision. If a decision for circumcision is made, procedural analgesia should be provided.

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I would definitly circumsize..and if the doc thinks it needs to be done I would say now before it becomes any more tramatic..all three of my boys are circumsized and as infants it really is not that big a deal..however one thing I will say is that the plastibelle technique is torture..they put a plastic bell over the end of the penis and it slowly forces the foreskin back..my 5 month old was the only one of the three to have it done this way and he is the only one that had any pain at all..

Tabitha - posted on 09/25/2009

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i went ahead and got my son circumsized at the hospital the day after he was born they gave him tylenol the only time it really hurts them is when they first pee after the procedure. it heals up real fast and its honestly up to you and your husband but the younger the better :)

Christy - posted on 09/25/2009

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It's a completely personal choice, from the research I did and what I talked to my doctor he told me that there were really no reasons that you should absolutely get it done or not. I chose to get it done after talking with my siter-in-law, since she has a son. She told me that her father-in-law isn't circumcized and that it can be quite difficult to keep the area under the foreskin clean and that it causes his wife to get urinary tract infections after they have sex. As for the pain on a newborn, I can't tell you how my son felt, but he didn't cry or fuss after the procedure, he didn't cry or fuss during diaper changes and he didn't act as if he was in pain or require regular doses of tylenol. He also healed up wonderfully within a few days. That's just my experience and I think you should do whatever it is you think is best for your boys. Like I said it's a completely personal choice. I think you should just do some research and talk to your doctor, ask him what it will be like for your son when he's older if you don't get him circumsized, will the tight foreskin cause a problem?

Jessica - posted on 09/25/2009

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Hi Nedra. I was really concerned about getting Zuriel circumcised. I had heard that its painful for baby boys and that having the foreskin is natural and ok to keep etc. I finally decided to have the procedure done shortly after birth after looking up references to circumcision in the bible, and discovering that it would be much easier for him to clean himself and prevent possible infections from the area not being cleaned properly because of the foreskin. In my case having the foreskin removed was more of sanitary issue. I wanted to make sure he wouldn't have problems with cleanliness later in life. You guys will make the best decision for your boys. Best of Wishes.

Stacey - posted on 09/25/2009

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my son has the same problem but my doctor said it should sort its self out by the time his 18 months but his already 16 months and there is no change at all so im taking him back to the doctors to see what they say about it

Leah - posted on 09/24/2009

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Totally a personal choice. Your pediatrician knows best. I chose to get my son circumcised because I have heard that later in life the forskin can adhere to the penis and cause painful complications. Boys that are uncircumcised also are prone to more urinary tract infections. Definately do your research and do what is best for your family.

Mandi - posted on 09/24/2009

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Ultimately, the decision is yours, however, if the boys are having difficulties urinating due to pain, etc... then perhaps the Doctor's advice should be heeded.

Amber - posted on 09/24/2009

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Circumcision is great in the long run simply for the medical complications that can come without it. Some cases are increased rashes under the folds due to improper cleaning. To save on the hassle circumcision isn't a medical must, but preferred

Rocki - posted on 09/24/2009

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we got our sons done. It was sore for 2 days, and then it was completely healed.

Brittany - posted on 09/24/2009

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This is a hard one! I had both boys circumcised as newborns a day after they were born, they were fine but I hated the thought of it, the reason I did do it is bc of risk of bacteria building up in the foreskin and you have to really clean that area. But it is not necessary.



However my grandmother got my uncle circumcised about 5 years old bc the Dr told her she should. She said it was the worse experience ever. She said he was in so much pain and so swollen he was miserable and she felt awful she put him through it.



All you can do is really look into it, look at the pros and cons, but my opinion would be not too do it with them being so old, the 2 older ones are old enough to remember and its bad enough for newborns but they forget after a day and are fine. I believe the older they are the worse it is afterwards. Plus dont only look into circumcision of older children look up the anesthesia they use but that can be scary also. It is just a scary procedure, I would be worried your baby will kick, its something you have to be very still getting. I think you should ask your oldest son how he feels about it??? Let hims ee the pros and cons!

Danielle - posted on 09/24/2009

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I got my son done at 3-4 weeks, we decided for hygeine reasons. My ob who did it said that he had a tight foreskin that could cause problems later down the track. The only thing my boy didnt like was being held down, but it only took about 2mins, and was fine afterwards. He was given only a local anethestic.

Denyel - posted on 09/24/2009

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This is a very controversial topic for infants (I'm sure it'll be even more controversial for the older boys). I believe it is a personal choice for the parents and their doctor. If you decide to have it done, just make sure it is done with plenty of anesthetic and give the pain medictaion for the next few days afterward. It should heal within a week or so. Personally if I have a boy I will have him circumsized.

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The foreskin should not be loose and easy to pull back in infants and young boys. Now, I'm not saying that your son has a problem or not, but I would personally get a couple more opinions from other doctors before doing anything. And, do lots of your own research.

Colleen - posted on 09/24/2009

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Quoting Bethany:

That is a very personal choice. If I had a son and was going to get him circumcised, I'd find a mohel (pronounced moil) to talk to about it. A mohel is a Jewish doctor or rabbi who is specially trained in circumcision. Now, I'm not Jewish, but I'd much rather have a man who does it all the time do it rather than a doctor or nurse who does not. Too many mistakes happen with hospital circumcisions. A mohel would also be more likely to know about how your older sons would do with the whole procedure.



I took my son to a urologist for his circumcision, so the doctor who did it is someone who does them all the time.  There were 3 infants in the waiting room on the day I took my son, and a few weeks later when I took him back for a check-up there were two more infants. 

Bethany - posted on 09/24/2009

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That is a very personal choice. If I had a son and was going to get him circumcised, I'd find a mohel (pronounced moil) to talk to about it. A mohel is a Jewish doctor or rabbi who is specially trained in circumcision. Now, I'm not Jewish, but I'd much rather have a man who does it all the time do it rather than a doctor or nurse who does not. Too many mistakes happen with hospital circumcisions. A mohel would also be more likely to know about how your older sons would do with the whole procedure.

Iysha - posted on 09/24/2009

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If all you're worried about is the pain, I'd say do it. A lot of boys are circumcised and they are fine. And if it is for a medical reason, that's even more reason to do it. A lot of people have their sons circumcised for religious reasons and tradition or simply because the baby's father was circumcised. There really isn't a reason not to, except that you are afraid it will hurt them. Your boys will be ok.

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2009

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This is something I think you should talk to your doc. about and research. The 1 mos. old is still young enough that the procedure is done pretty simply and with very little/if any complications. The 8 and 6 year olds are older and this can cause more complications and issues. You have to look at the pros and cons and figure out which one has the less risk. You and your husband really need to discuss this with your doc. and then sit down and figure out which way will be better.

Colleen - posted on 09/24/2009

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This is very much a personal choice that you and your husband need to decide together. If you are unsure, do lots of research but keep in mind, most people are biased in one direction or the other.

Stephanie - posted on 09/24/2009

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This has always been a sensitive subject. I had my sons done when he was born, and they gave him some sugar water and a numbing agent and it was done. The older the baby/toddler/child the more complex the procedure is. There really isnt a right or wrong answer to this question, but if you trust your pediatrician and he is telling you should do it for medical purposes, I would take his advice.

Robin - posted on 09/24/2009

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well this is completely your choice but if you are worried about the pain of the procedure for them, they now use anesthetic which they never used to use.

Jennifer - posted on 09/24/2009

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you can also look up circumcision and ask you pediatricions to see their opinions also

Jennifer - posted on 09/24/2009

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i've heard it's one of the safest thing to do, so i would do it with my kid

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